Trouble with language and Speaking

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Eaglevision_2019, Jul 13, 2019.

  1. Eaglevision_2019

    Eaglevision_2019 Fapstronaut

    Hi guys just wondering if any one of you has trouble speaking and with language skills generally. Sometimes I want to say something but its like my mind can't coordinate with my mouth, it may just disappear altogether or I could mean to say "television" and end up saying "radio." It has really affected my social relationships. Deep in me, I want to have this smooth flowing conversations, and easy, just to say the least, but I seem to have trouble sustaining a conversation without running out of what to say. I have this awkwardness of being random in my conversation, I switch too many times to different topics. I miss being real and having a genuine laugh without faking it. I started NOfap last year, I have had relapses and my longest streak was 2 months. I would love to hear your views.
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  2. keepitreal-88

    keepitreal-88 Fapstronaut

    I often get a word out wrong here and there, if it bothers you when it happens then own it, joke about it in a confident way. For example, if you struggle to pronounce a word properly when you said it, say "that's easy for me to say :)" and carry on. Don't worry about it too much or you'll make it happen more just by focusing on it too much.

    In general in conversation be focused on being interested in them, it will take pressure off of yourself, get them talking about themselves and they'll magically think you're interesting, most people love to talk about themselves. Also, if they're talking about themselves then you don't have to say as much. Don't go interview style with question after question, make a statement then follow up with a question, understand their viewpoint or experience first and let them know you do before you get your viewpoint/story in, this works well if your aim is to make friends or become better friends.
  3. Theseeker19

    Theseeker19 Fapstronaut

    That's okay buddy Don't worry about it, Many people suffer from this but The good thing is that you can change it yourself if you really just keep hammering at it. For example, I would suggest you read this amazing book that will boost your Communication skills as well as your confidence level, This book is absolutely a masterpiece and will benefit any Person who wants to talk and engage with people with confidence.

    Book Name:- How to Win Friends and Influence People.

    Good Luck Champ
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  4. Eaglevision_2019

    Eaglevision_2019 Fapstronaut

    Many thanks buddy for the encouraging words. I want to become a better conversationalist. I appreciate for your advice.. Cheers!
  5. Eaglevision_2019

    Eaglevision_2019 Fapstronaut

    This is awesome. I will check the book ASAP. Fuck PMO, it has destroyed so many good qualities we ought to naturally have.
  6. Damn it, you are saying 100 oercent about me
    I often have anxiety just because I am not sure if I will start soeaking logically or not.
    I am worried whther it is caused by porn addiction, Jesus I am sometimes scared that I will not be able to handle serious conversations....
  7. I had a train trip
    When I was reffering to this event I was mistaking train with bus word
    Like you television with radio
  8. Does anyone know whther it may be correlation with PMO?
  9. PeterJL

    PeterJL Fapstronaut

    Yes, I believe that is related to my ADD. I took Adderall in college and it helped me to improve my loquaciousness. It isn't directly related to NoFap but self control plays a role in many things.

    See a mental health professional. They are good at solving problems that can be solved with a pill.
  10. fellowBrother

    fellowBrother Fapstronaut

    From my experience, this addiction to PMO has caused me to stutter and be socially handicapped. I'm on day 74 now and I'm getting better and better. I know all of this to be true because if I fantasize for any period and then try to socialize my social ability is as garbage as it was while I was deep in PMO. Give up PMO and get your life back
  11. Hypn0s

    Hypn0s Fapstronaut

    Someone mentioned ADD, which was the first thing that came to mind. It sounds like a possible neurological condition, like the kind some folks have after a brain injury.
  12. Eaglevision_2019

    Eaglevision_2019 Fapstronaut

    Hi mate. This is exactly what I am experiencing. It is a nasty situation to be in. I cant wait to get over it.
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  13. Tywin Lannister

    Tywin Lannister Fapstronaut

    Man since approx one year ago I have these things and I am also being very very forgetfull about words in general. Also find myself typing different words than what I have planned in my head only to have to correct myself sometimes in each sentence. I think it has something to do with low dopamine.. Also found myself wanting to poor the little rest of my glass of water into the garbage can instead of the kitchensink LOL those things are actually funny but I understand it can cause you to be afraid. It's a little disorganization/confusion and can definitely be cause by PMO or other stuff that drains dopamine

    Hope this helps
  14. Eaglevision_2019

    Eaglevision_2019 Fapstronaut

    Thanks buddy for sharing your thoughts on this subject. It is a pretty scary situation to be in. But nothing is stopping us from getting back to where we belong. Forward ever, backward never. Cheers!
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