Trouble With Dirty Dreams

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by Creed1957, Jun 21, 2018.

  1. Creed1957

    Creed1957 New Fapstronaut

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    I've been struggling lately with dirty dreams. Not wet dreams, where it's just a nighttime discharge or anything, but, dirty dreams, fantasizing to orgasm. I started NoFap about a month ago, monk mode the whole time (partially involuntary- single and underage anyways), but both of my longest streaks (12 and about half an hour short of 14 days, respectively) were interrupted by these fantasy dreams. Most nights I have it under control by not going to bed horny or hydrating well enough to wake up to go to the bathroom any time anything starts to happen down there, but for some reason every time I get right up to almost two weeks in it just isn't enough anymore.

    I've heard that making rest less comfortable might help, but I'm already sleeping in day clothes, and even when I tried sleeping on the floor, to take the discomfort up a level, it still happened. Since I started, I think I relapsed two or three times, in the first week or two, the conventional way, but since then it's all just been dreams. And I can tell it's resetting my normal NoFap, too- I always wake up with a mind filled with fog and regret, probably because most of the dreams I recall after waking up are directly related to the sort of porn I used to watch.

    Honestly, I find these dreams so obstructive to my life, I've legitimately considered just going without sleep as much as possible (probably like 6 days out of the week), living off of caffeine, but since I still live with my parents (16), I doubt I could even pull that off, and even if I could, I'm going into my senior year this fall with a lot on my plate, including a part-time job, so I'm really going to need as much sleep as I can get anyways.

    So, does anyone have any ideas as to how to prevent these dirty dreams? Is the discomfort thing the right idea, and do I just need to amp it up to, say, a bed of shattered glass shards? Is there any sort of drug or anything I could take to decrease libido without influencing my sex hormones, since as a teenager those are kind of developmentally important at this age? Do I need to get some kind of codpiece, or maybe one of those cups they wear for contact sports, to prevent friction with my clothes at night? Or do I just push through it, and hope that eventually my subliminal mind will eventually realize that fantasy without action only leads to disappointment and despair?

    Also, tell me if this is in the wrong place. This is my first post here, and since it's mostly about strictly hardmode problems, I thought it would fit in best here, but if I should move it, please tell me.
     
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  2. THE SENATE

    THE SENATE New Fapstronaut

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    Hi, you are 16, right? I am 18. I think those dreams are pretty normal and you shouldn't worry too much about them right now. Over time they will disappear (I think). Don’t play to much hardcore. I still have that problem but it happens much less frequent now than two years ago. Try to distract yourself and make some exercise so that you arrive bed more tired and fall asleep sooner. Sleep! It´s very important, at least 8 hours.
     
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  3. Creed1957

    Creed1957 New Fapstronaut

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    Okay, thanks.
     
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  4. Dirty dreams do disappear, or at least decrease in frequency, with time. That is assuming that you stop doing these things which induce them. That would obviously include watching porn. But also fantasizing sexual thoughts while masturbating (if you do, better focus on feelings alone and do not fantasize) as well as daydreaming dirty thoughts at your lunch break or something (and especially at evenings before sleep) and even checking hot girls out on a street. All these things dirty your mind which then expresses itself via dreams at night.
     
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  5. Creed1957

    Creed1957 New Fapstronaut

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    Yeah, but I've actually been pretty good about those things. Still good to hear that they'll go away, though.
     
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  6. Crni Caca

    Crni Caca Fapstronaut

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    So just today i have woken up from a wet dream. But the thing is i actually masturbate in those dreams and I rarely have sex. Like when i wake up i feel like i could have prevented that from happening. It feels so real that when i wake up i feel like i failed nofap, then i remember it was a dream, then i check and see shitload of sperm, then i remember the dream and sadness still catches up to me.
     
  7. Enjoy your dreams or if they frighten you remember they are just dreams, your mind editing and re running through thoughts, fears, desires etc. it’s what you do when you’re awake that matters.
     
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  8. Moses Hilow

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    This is normal on hard mode and should not be a cause for alarm. You should try something more helpful like music or something soft and nice. Something like listening to rain before you fall asleep, or sleeping somewhere where you would be embarrassed if it happened. Also, teenagers your age will have this happen. When you are older your body will control itself better.
     
  9. Curious Josh

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    Thought it was just me. Normally happened more often if i fall asleep with my hands near crotch (just to keep warm). The pressure sort of intensifies the dream. These days, haven't had any problems though. Not sure what the change is though, it could also be stress related since I'm break now.
     
  10. Yeah, you’ll actually mis wet dreams.:)
     
  11. Crni Caca

    Crni Caca Fapstronaut

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    So i was just of Some summer camp program where you go out in nature for 8 days and dont have anything (cook for yourself,no technology or clocks, sleep in forest...) name is Outward bound. Met some great kids/teenagers there in my group (14-16), had no problems talking or having intimate physical contact with girls. It really helped me out had only one wet dream but didn't dream anything. And it helped achieve new record on days with nofap because we had no internet or any technology. Also i got way more confidence now.
     
  12. nef

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    do some hardcore workout that will help a lot works for me
     

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