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Using Milestones to make it step by step! Trials and Temptations: (James 1)

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by _overcomer_, Mar 26, 2017.

  1. _overcomer_

    _overcomer_ Fapstronaut

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    I started last week with NoFap, and could make it until the 5th day...then I fell. The days before was it not to hard for me with the no MPO, I thought I will make it the 30 days... but then something inside said... you deserve to do it..and i fell

    The day's after I fell again...

    But now I will start "A NEW NO MPO" with more then the 5 days.

    My Milestones for my first month:
    1. 5 days
    2. 7 days (1 week)
    3. 10 days
    4. 14 days (2 weeks)
    5. 20 days
    6. 21 days (3 weeks)
    7. 25 days
    8. 28 days (4 weeks)
    9. 30days (My first complete month)


    I made many small milestones to have many sucess!


    This words written, are just my wish and I'll pray, that God will help me to make it!

    It would be great to make this journey with other guys, to Motivate each other!

    my restart and first day was at the 23.03.2017 so today its my 4th day.
     
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    _overcomer_ Fapstronaut

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    Falling at the 4th day (yesterday)...what should I say....! I don't see a light in this situation It's so hard!
     
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    but I will start again, but I couldn't even make one week, I'm so weak
    ->But God is strong, so I'll try too trust him!
    :emoji_thumbsup:
     
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    James 1
    Trials and Temptations
    2 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,a]">[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance
     
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    I will stay strong to finish day2
    God help!
     
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    Good overall humble and positive attitude man!

    But. The "I deserve"-thinking might seem good at first, I've tried it, but as the opposite is "I don't deserve" it might be a pathway-thought to thoughts and feelings of worthlessness. And since "I deserve" can be used to justify a negative behaviour, it can be dangerous thinking.
    Furthermore, it suggests one can "deserve" to knowingly fall back to a negative behaviour and "deserve" to be forgiven. In truth all forgiveness is grace that never can be deserved, only freely given through Gods "undeserved kindness". In the eyes of God "obedience is worth more than sacrifice" since love shown thought obedience is the one thing God doesn't already own.
    But we are often hard on our selves. "God is bigger than our hearts" and knows the reasons behind our behaviour that might be hidden even to our selves.
    Have you considered trying to replace the thought with: "I want to please God and today try my hardest to keep clean"? or "I want to know what God wants to give me if I wait" And every day the struggle is won, send a prayer of thanks!
    Trust that God will reward your sincere efforts! I have found that I even can be specific on what kinds of rewards I'd like to have for reaching my goals to keep clean, for example getting a snack, seeing something beautiful in nature (or cuddle a dog), or my favourite: getting to help/encourage someone else.
    Sooo many doors are opening up with oppertunities to improve ones own and others life once a resonable measure of self-discipline and cleanliness is attained. It's worth it! Agape!
     
  7. HappyDaysAreHereAgain

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    Alonso, if you will only stay strong today, you can reach any goal. Every today, just stay strong for that day. The days start adding up.
    It also helps to have a purpose bigger than "not." NoFap is a good tool, and it is helpful, but it works best for people have a reason to not do PMO. By focusing on why you have given it up instead of on what you are giving up, you will be thinking less about "it."
    Are you giving up PMO for God, for your family, for your self esteem, for recovery from PIED, or for some other reason. I had a bucket full of reasons. PIED was the drop that overflowed my bucket, but it isn't the most important. Without PMO I am closer to God, to my wife and to friends. I have no worries about my browsing history or being discovered, so life is more peaceful with less worries. I am also getting erections like I hadn't for years.
    What do you want for your life? I know that you do not have a long streak now, but I hope you can begin to see some progress in your battle. Think more on the good things (Philippians 4:8), and the other thoughts will loose power and fade away.
     
  8. _overcomer_

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    Yes, It's worth it!

    Thank you man for these words!
     
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    Thank you for this!

    you now, since I started with porn last year many parts of my life becam bad, I cancelt my study, was angry... .
    I really want to become the old person I was before!

    After it seemd like my life getting worse after thsi I was thinking like...now God dont want to give me good things, he punish me. Because I thought i deserve the things before!

    But now I know, that even before everithing was just by Grace! But however, I want to change this PMO and want to stop with this, to become an overcomer an overcome the sin!

    Pray for you brother!
     
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    Falling at the 6th day : (
    what shall I do now?
     
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    The 5 day's without PMO was wonderful!
     
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    when you learned to walk, sometimes you fell, but you always got up and walked again. Now you do not fall all the time. Sometimes you have to fall to get better at something new.
    If you fall back into PMO, get back up and keep walking. You will be glad you learned to walk out of this habit.
     
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    There is another passage in James that speaks to the source of our temptations, James 1:13-15. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=James+1:13-15&version=ESV
    When I think God can't make me happy, I think that I have to get my happiness on my own. It is easy, but it really is not true happiness. There is nothing happy when the little man died and can't get up, when he PIED, he died.
     
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    Thank you very much for this!
     
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    After I Have fallen at the 6th day I can't really stand up : ( after I made one (just one!!!) day, I've fallen again : (
     
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    I'm nw really weak and can't be stong again..
     
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    But I really beliefe, that God is still stron : )

    this is the only thing I can get help now from!
     
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    Hey man, how can I stand up again? The 6 day's were my longest time since 10monts now...
     
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    Have fallen again.... who can help me?
     
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    Will start to make one week! from now!
     
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