To the real victims of our addictions

Thank you for appreciating every SO and their story.

 

It's nice that you're seeing it from another POV, lots of men really dont realise what their actions are doing to their SO until the damage has been done, imo it's easy to forgive him however almost impossible to trust him, which is ultimately (again imo) worse than the addiction, the PIED, the agressiveness. The fact your SO, lies so easily and repeatedly, destroys so much more than just sex life and your confidence, its destroying the relationship. I think most the ladies/SO on here are amazing, iv only been dealing with this issue 2 years and iv ignored it for most of that, iv let it slowly destroy me, its like a disease taking over . Someone Iv grown to respect alot on this site told me, you have to forget about the relationship you thought you had, it was never that with the lies and deceit and work in the relationship you do have, accept what you cannot change and change what you can. I may not be able to stop my husband and his PA l, however I can change how it effects me and without this site that glaringly obvious statement would have never have crossed my mind, some of the SO have been suffering alot longer than me, in some ways that's scares the shit out of me, knowing I too could be doing this in 10 years, however the SO here are strong and resourceful and there for each other, it's a beautiful thing to come out of something so horrible. I hope and pray for every SO on here that their lives improve and their relationships improve. Thank you to all the SO your stories have kept me relatively sane the past few weeks, and to the PA who are trying, thank you for trying, doesnt matter if you fail 100 times or more the fact your trying to improve your life and SO life and overall relationship can only be a good thing.