Tips for the Noob.

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Brock Brannigan, Aug 13, 2016.

  1. Brock Brannigan

    Brock Brannigan Fapstronaut

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    Hi I am thirteen years old and I struggle with a masturbation and porn addiction. I also have a foot fetish. I can't take this any longer because it is starting to hurt my relationships. I can't even watch a movie with my cousin without it being perverted because I look at her feet. I can thank God that I stumbled across this website though. The community looks amazing. (Sorry if this is messy, this is my first post) I masturbate daily and I look at porn. I have had highs and lows in my fight. My longest time without PMOing (if that is a word haha) was about a week. After that I felt I was weak. I couldn't win. It was too powerful. If I saw feet at the grocery store, I would get hard or if I just had a single thought I would get an erection. Is it possible to just stop masturbating? I know I can quit porn. Also any tips for a foot fetishist or anyone looking for someone to give motivation and just hold the other one accountable if they fall? Thank you so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
  2. SpaceCow

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    Hi Brock! I'm pretty new here too, and like you, I also have a foot fetish. Well done recognising and catching your porn addiction at such an early age, before it gets out of control. I started with porn and regular masturbation when I was about your age, maybe a little younger. But I didn't realise I had a foot fetish until I was about 19, and when I did that's when I think I really got into porn, especially foot fetish porn. As far as your fetish goes, don't think of it as something 'perverted', it's just a normal part of your sexuality. To many it might seem weird, wrong, sick, twisted, whatever, but don't listen to what anyone says. Personally I don't think your goal should be to stop liking feet; I don't think you could even if you tried, but rather to stop seeking them out in a compulsive way. I've just started my journey in that direction, so I don't have the answer to how to do that, but I'm sure quitting porn is the right first step. I also struggle with the same issue, I can't pass by a woman without checking out her feet, it's an automatic and compulsive behaviour, and that's where the harm lies. For me it's like porn without watching porn, if you know what I mean? You mentioned it's harming your relationships, how so?

    I read a study recently that found people with porn addictions have less brain grey matter, in the same way that drug addicts do. Grey matter is, forgive the layman's definition, the material in your brain responsible for higher reasoning and cognitive functions, memory, self-control etc, if memory serves me right lol. If you think about what's common between someone who is addicted to porn and someone who is addicted to an actual narcotic substance, it's exactly that repetitive, compulsive reward-seeking behaviour. I think addict gamblers also have the same brain deficiency. So yeah, ditch the porn ;)

    As far as masturbation goes, I don't know, I think it's perfectly normal that you are masturbating at that age. I was seriously overdoing it at that age though, 4-5 times a day sometimes, really burning out my system. When you're in puberty your sex hormones are through the roof and it's totally normal to be a bit preoccupied with sex or to get an erection just at the thought or sight of something sexual, in your case - feet. I think you just need to be careful that you don't overdo it. Sexual energy, libido, is life force. If you're masturbating a lot, you're expending a lot of energy on something that doesn't really give you much return. You're at an expansive stage in life where you're developing in all areas, from your physical and sexual body to your mind and personality. You could probably benefit from cutting down on the masturbation a bit and focusing that extra energy into your studies, creative interests, sports... Sports are probably the best place to channel that excessive sexual energy.

    Hopefully you find this helpful! I'm trying to start a support group here on nofap for people with foot fetishes, porn addiction etc. I'll let you know if I succeed in forming it, if you're interested in joining.

    Keep well!

    SpaceCow
     
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  3. BlackKnight

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    If I were you since your're 13, I'd masturbate once a week and also drop the porn. Like don't watch any porn at all. Also don't fantasize because it will probably lead you to porn
     
  4. Brock Brannigan

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    I read a study recently that found people with porn addictions have less brain grey matter, in the same way that drug addicts do. Grey matter is, forgive the layman's definition, the material in your brain responsible for higher reasoning and cognitive functions, memory, self-control etc, if memory serves me right lol. If you think about what's common between someone who is addicted to porn and someone who is addicted to an actual narcotic substance, it's exactly that repetitive, compulsive reward-seeking behaviour. I think addict gamblers also have the same brain deficiency. So yeah, ditch the porn ;)

    As far as masturbation goes, I don't know, I think it's perfectly normal that you are masturbating at that age. I was seriously overdoing it at that age though, 4-5 times a day sometimes, really burning out my system. When you're in puberty your sex hormones are through the roof and it's totally normal to be a bit preoccupied with sex or to get an erection just at the thought or sight of something sexual, in your case - feet. I think you just need to be careful that you don't overdo it. Sexual energy, libido, is life force. If you're masturbating a lot, you're expending a lot of energy on something that doesn't really give you much return. You're at an expansive stage in life where you're developing in all areas, from your physical and sexual body to your mind and personality. You could probably benefit from cutting down on the masturbation a bit and focusing that extra energy into your studies, creative interests, sports... Sports are probably the best place to channel that excessive sexual energy.

    Hopefully you find this helpful! I'm trying to start a support group here on NoFap for people with foot fetishes, porn addiction etc. I'll let you know if I succeed in forming it, if you're interested in joining.

    Keep well!




    You should definitely make a group for people with foot fetishes! I would totally join!

    But yea its hurting my relationships because I feel awkward being with some family members after I look at their feet. I also feel ashamed. But I know how you feel about the foot in public thing. Its like porn that's always there especially in the Summer.
     
  5. Brock Brannigan

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    . Also don't fantasize because it will probably lead you to porn

    Yea but that's easier said than done. How do I masturbate without fantasizing.
     

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