A thought came to me about how to approach women. Think of what it would be like from their perspective to have you approach them. See yourself through their eyes. What would you want to look like to them? Would you want to look like an avoidant, passive, self-conscious weakling, or would you want to look like a strong, confident, charming man? What do you think they would like to see from you? That is the point, isn't it? For them to like you? So put yourself in their shoes. Empathize with them, I guess is the word. Instead of being stuck in your own perspective, instead of making it all about you and what you're thinking, what you're saying, what you're doing. Think about what they want to see, and rise to the occasion. Make yourself attractive to them. I don't know, just a mental trick that I might try. The thinking is it might help to see yourself acting from another person's perspective, rather than merely your own, and maybe that changes how you act.