Those who are single

Interesting responses. But I wonder how many (of you) embody those same 'demands' you desire in a 'perfect partner'. I think that is a much more intriguing question.

 

Why even say that? You saying everyone who posted here has no character and is being unreasonable?

 

I'm saying exactly what I wrote. That I'm legit wondering how many people flip it around and actually meet their own standards.

You seem triggered, but how you got what I wrote to mean I said these posters have no character or are unreasonable, is beyond me.
I'm posing a question, not passing judgment. : )

 

Could you specify the question i don't get it what are you asking?

 

Are you referring to me or OP?

 

I'm not buying that! I think you're implying something you're not willing to admit to... I haven't even written a list and I find your post annoying.

 

you"Interesting responses. "But I wonder how many (of you) embody those same 'demands' you desire in a 'perfect partner'. I think that is a much more intriguing question."

 

You're at liberty to believe and feel whatever you want. :')

Say you write a list about the qualities you want in your ideal partner. Examples could be loyalty, complete trust, respect of boundaries, a loving and compassionate person, and so on. My question is, do you embody these qualities yourself? Can you provide the same qualities that you demand the other person provides? Some people don't think about this when they design the perfect partner. Some people do think about these things, and demand qualities in their partner based on their own qualities. I am airing the question because it invites self-reflection and because the answers are varied and interesting.

 

@tweeby - thanks for not taking my post as a personal offense and taking your time to reflect and answer.

I get what you mean with your "sweet and petite" comment, saying you don't want to be the same as the woman, but be complimentary. However, I would not classify fixed physical traits as qualities as they aren't changeable, for example height (petite or tall for instance) so I would not use that as an example of what I am talking about - but fitness and health are improvable qualities which both people can meet. The physical expression of said fitness and health, however, does not have to be the same (slender, fit, super muscular, feminine, masculine, etc.). I hope I am explaining the difference properly?

Same with energetic expression, such as feminine and masculine. Not saying you have to be feminine because you want a feminine partner, as feminine and masculine usually compliment each other very well.

But qualities such as trustworthiness, compassion, kindness, loyalty, self-sufficiency, stability, emotional health, self-awareness, etc. are more the line of qualities I am referring to.

Great day to you too!

 

@tweeby - I hear you. It might be a matter of semantics, maybe?

I have absolutely nothing against having preferences, regardless if we're talking about unchangeable things such as height or other qualities / attributes you can improve or cultivate. I would also obviously prefer a partner who is kind, loving, trustworthy and succesful in their life (whatever that means to them) but I would not expect such a person to be interested in me if I embody the opposite traits such as malevolence, untrustworthy and a life in shambles - or if I am not on a similar level of standard.

Sometimes I speak to or see people who demand all these "perfect" qualities in their partner, yet they don't themselves embody these qualities and then wonder why they cannot attract someone who does embody these qualities. Or they simply don't care to show the same "worth" as they demand of their partner. Usually, in my observation, people attract to their own level of personal standard.

But I think it's perfectly fine having whatever preferences you have, regardless of your own qualities. Tall, short, kind, loyal, green eyes, brown eyes, rich, poor, whatever else.

 

A fearless Trump supporter.

 

Here's what I can think of in a few minutes for my requirements in a woman:

Musts:
1. At least marginally attractive
2. Kind
3. Loyal
4. Trustworthy
5. Not a drug user, including marijuana
6. Not an alcoholic
7. Doesn't already have a bunch of children
8. Wants children
9. No serious incurable STI like HIV or hepatitis
10. Cheerful and self-confident

Wants:
1. Non-drinker
2. Non-smoker
3. Not super-religious
4. Not vegan or vegetarian
5. Not super-political
6. Scientifically and rationally minded

 

I'm not single, but you literally nailed it for me right down to the "smaller" bit. Lol Everything you said is spot on for me...

 

Bingo

 

I would like no vices in her smoking,drinking,porn,drugs none of that.
She should be marginally attractive and weightwise should not be on the heavier side and should not also be thin as a model. She needs to be intellectually strong and should not be a pushover. She needs to work and support us and needs to be near me after work in the same house. Also she should be open about the discussion of not having children and should be forwarding with rest to sex and not have any weird fetishes. She needs to be far from the social media scene.she needs to be wiling to accept me for my shyness and introvertedness and nevet force me to do things i am not comfortable with.

 

I actually don't care about her looks as long as she isn't overweight and does effort to look nice and clean.

• what i do found important is that she HAS NO TINDER. If i know a girl has tinder i probably won't start relationship with her. I thinx tinder is for superficial people.
• Don't have extreme left wing ideas about imigration free borders, , feminisme and so on...
• not a vegan , vegetarian
• no animal activist
• no smoker
• Accept my goals and habbits in life if she can't accept it she can move allong. she needs to accept my passion and hobbies if not she isn't the one.
• Knowing what she wants knowing she wants me i don't want a girl who plays mind games or plays hard to get just play allong or move allong
• accept that i don't use facebook and won't use it.
• Don't text to much i only use my phone for calling and texting casual things like where to meet.. I never speek conversations towards text
• I don't ask someone out through text if she wants to text a long period of time with me its not me.

Thats pretty much it.

 

You were right. I was in bad mood when I responded. Sorry.

You were also right with what you said. We should work on ourselves so we can be a good date.