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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by ItsTimeToChange, May 25, 2018.

  1. ItsTimeToChange

    ItsTimeToChange New Fapstronaut

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    I am 22 years old -- over the past couple years I have considered NoFap but I have never reached a streak longer than 7 days. I have been compulsively masturbating/viewing porn since ~age 14. I don't remember a lot of my adolescence, probably because a lot of it was spent with this terrible habit.

    A new chapter. This time I am doing it for real. Most people would never imagine porn addiction to be this real but as someone that has been using porn for anxiety/emotional relief it is the hardest thing I have ever done. Will the journey be worth it? I sure hope so because I don’t want to go back to the person I become when I am using porn, weed, and masturbation to push away the negative emotions that I desperately need to feel.

    I am going to bed between the hours of 11:30 pm - 12:30 am each night and waking up between 8 am - 9 am and adding exercise to my daily routine. One IMPORTANT step that may seem obvious but I need to write it down because this ALWAYS leads to a relapse for me -- I cannot visit a porn site “just to check the newest releases but not download them or masturbate to them” -- this is just my brain tricking me into relapsing. I need to start taking action to solve my problems instead of pushing them to the side and using artificial sources of stimulation to make me forget about them.

    Thanks for reading, and I hope this forum can help me succeed! :emoji_v:
     
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  2. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     
  3. Septimus

    Septimus Fapstronaut

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    Welcome! I'm glad you're here. This site can help, make use of it. Keep coming back!
     

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