Advice from YBOP My advice is to avoid actively seeking all artificial sexual stimuli during your reboot. If it’s not a real person, just say no. As odd as this may sound, there’s no such thing as porn. The brain knows exactly what alcohol or heroin is, but the reward circuitry has no way of recognizing porn. Instead, higher portions of the brain relay nerve impulses associated with sights, sounds, smells, and memories to the reward circuit. The strength of these very complex signals determines the excitement levels measured by your reward circuit. What really matters are spikes of reward circuit dopamine (and other neurochemicals), not what’s on the screen. The key questions: Is your behavior reactivating sensitized addiction pathways, and are you overstimulating your already numbed dopamine system? This is what YBOP recommends avoiding during a reboot 1. “Porn” – All types. If you need to ask, then the answer is, ‘bad move.’ It’s simple: artificial vs real. 2. Avoid behaviors that mimic YOUR porn addiction. Which usually means behaviors that substitute the synthetic and the two-dimensional for the real deal. 3. Eliminating artificial or synthetic means don’t engage in “cam to cam” or chat rooms. 4. Surfing social media, YouTube, or dating sites for pictures and sexual stimuli is like an alcoholic switching to lite beer. 5. Fantasizing about porn is nearly the same as watching it, as you are activating your brain’s addiction-related pathways. 6. Reading “erotic” stories counts as porn fantasy 7. “What about fantasizing about real women?” It’s hard to say. If you are simply replaying porn scenarios, then absolutely not. Read below about fantasy. I understand you should avoid all this stuff during your reboot. But is it supposed to be a life long thing? Can you never use social media or a dating site again? I understand that's it's not so much the content on these sites that is the problem. But it is how you search and look at these images that is the problem. For instance if you come across attractive images and just look at them for a second and then turn them off then this isn't a problem. But if you keep searching more of them and looking at them this is a problem. If you deliberately search and look at any of these sort of images then this is the dopamine rising motivating you to search and look at them. This is what is causing damage in your reward circuit. It is keeping your brain wired to all this stuff. It is activating the porn pathways in your brain. But recently I have wanted to go back on a dating site to try and meet someone. But the problem is you naturally are searching and looking at images, profiles to find women, and your deliberately searching for women your attracted to and like the look of. So this basically is what YBOP is telling you to avoid. But like I say does this need to be avoided forever? Can you never use a dating site again? Also with social media. Many men would randomly see images of attractive women and be curious and might have a look at their images. But unfortunately this seems to be a big problem? Do you need to avoid social media forever? I have a lot of stuff blocked on my computer, and I don't have a smart phone. Recently a woman wanted me to add her on snap chat, but I couldn't because I don't have a smart phone, and I wouldn't of wanted to go on snapcaht with her anyway as that is basically a relapse. She also wanted to go on skype on camera with me and I couldn't do that either. The problem with this is women and a lot of people could think I am a weirdo. They won't understand why I am doing what I am doing. The worry is it's pushing real life women away from me. I think that woman is less interested in me now.