This is it, iam panicking. i need help

Have you considered finding a psychotherapist ?

 

How are you doing now? I know I have had a lot of paranoia in the past. Thoughts that everyone is judging you are easy to get sucked up in. Start a conversation with me if you want to talk about it.

 

It is probably not as bad as you think it is. I think a therapist can help you sort things out. Although I am not a therapist you can still PM me if you want to talk.

 

Hello bro ! Wish you good luck since I know that feeling too. Like everyone looking at you with disregard or something. I don't know why but it increases after relapse. I hope it will go away after some decent strike... PMO can cause social anxiety at least in my cause. Keep pushing man

 

There are more important things to solve in your life than stopping masturbating. For sure masturbating does not help at all, but at the root causes the issue is something else, masturbation is only the surface problem. Not fapping can help people getting better but it's not the most important issue, I'm sure we've all seen posts which swear by NoFap and also other posts in which people say it didn't help at all.

One of the common demeanor you'll see in those who say that NoFap works is that they have started to change their habits in their life, they didn't only stop fapping, but they started to incorporate other good habits into their daily routine. Remember your habbits are your profecies, keep your good habits and you will change your life or keep your bad habits and you will remain the same or sink lower. It's always up to you.

Below is a beautiful poem that I like:

Equipment - Edgar Albert Guest

Figure it out for yourself, my lad,
You've all that the greatest of men have had,
Two arms, two hands, two legs, two eyes,
And a brain to use if you would be wise.
With this equipment they all began,
So start for the top and say "I can."

Look them over, the wise and great,
They take their food from a common plate
And similar knives and forks they use,
With similar laces they tie their shoes,
The world considers them brave and smart.
But you've all they had when they made their start.

You can triumph and come to skill,
You can be great if only you will,
You're well equipped for what fight you choose,
You have legs and arms and a brain to use,
And the man who has risen, great deeds to do
Began his life with no more than you.

You are the handicap you must face,
You are the one who must choose your place,
You must say where you want to go.
How much you will study the truth to know,
God has equipped you for life, But He
Lets you decide what you want to be.

Courage must come from the soul within,
The man must furnish the will to win,
So figure it out for yourself, my lad,
You were born with all that the great have had,
With your equipment they all began.
Get hold of yourself, and say: "I can."

 

Emotions are created by what you are thinking. This is so when you think something like, "Oh shit that bear just heard me and is going to come eat me!" your body can flood you with fear and adrenalin. Sometimes, for many different reasons, people begin to think in ways that aren't 100% accurate. There any many different types of distorted thinking that lead to negative emotions like paranoia, depression, anxiety, etc... One of the types of distorted thinking is called Mind Reading. Here are some examples of thoughts a person who uses Mind Reading distortions might think:
"I'm going to fail the test tomorrow."
"The girl I like is going to turn me down if I ask her out."
"If I go to the party, everyone will be having fun and I'll sit there with nothing to say."

There are millions of examples. You are predicting what a professional, trained therapist would say. Since mind reading is not possible, you do not know what they would say. You are guessing what they would say, and guessing is not 100% accurate. You are using distorted thinking and believing it as 100% accurate.

Your original, exact quote is "The world is against me. Including family, friends and coworkers, society, everyone in general." Once again, you are using the distortion called Mind Reading. You do not actually know what anyone else is thinking, much less what everyone in the entire world is thinking. So far, including me, there have been 7 people who replied to your post here. All 7 have offered support and are FOR you. So in actuality, your statement is 100% false in this small sample size.

When you think inaccurately something like "The entire world is against me", that sends a very distressing signal to your body. The result is negative emotions like paranoia, anxiety, depression, resentment, etc... When you correct your thinking to reflect reality with 100% accuracy, your emotions will drastically improve.

Another distortion people often use is called Emotional Reasoning. This is when you believe something to be true because you feel it emotionally. You may be believing the world is against you because you truly feel that way. You may feel it very deeply on a gut level. That doesn't mean it's true. I know it's not true because I'm a part of the world and I'm 100% for you. That is why I just spent 10 minutes typing this out.

I know it's weird and scary to try going to see a therapist, but they are paid to do what they can to help you feel better. They take pride in it. Their career depends on them helping people feel better. Going to a therapist certainly helped me. So did educating myself about cognitive distortions.

Sorry to hear you are feeling poorly. You are absolutely in the right direction to abstain from PMO and to post on this site asking for advice and help. I wish you all the best and much success in your recovery!

 

Hi Sipho. Again, you are Mind Reading. You can't possibly know what people looking at you are thinking. Mind reading is impossible. You aren't noticing what is in their heads, you are thinking what's in their heads - you are guessing what is in their heads. You are walking around looking at people and making horrible assumptions about they are thinking. You are judging them to be terrible people who look down at others like they have a dead frog face. Because you are looking at people with such harsh judgments, you are guessing that they are doing the same about you. I have never in my life seen someone who looks like an alien from Venus with a dead frog in their face, so it cannot possibly be true that "everybody" looks at you that way. I am a part of "everybody".
I know it's a weird concept because you feel it so strongly, but the entire world is not looking at you and thinking that you look like you're from Venus and have a dead frog face. The chances of even 1 person looking at you and thinking that specifically is incredibly slim.

 

I believe in you man. Keep it going one step at a time for you get better. You are the designer of your life

 

God work
In mysterious way bro and feeling mutual 3 months ago I thought I'm going to be crazy now I'm back in track as u know there will be set backs asking as victories as long as we fight the good fight we can win so acctutaly in my point of view panic is a good thing it can remind of u the concequinsess when u relapse so do well bro good luck and if some one try to bring u down there are already in deep so fuck them