Thinking outside yourself...

1. Think on this letter from her...
   
   It is a good thing that you are trying to do and trying to become!
   I want you to be proud of your attemp to quit your masturbation or porn and masturbation habit as it really represents a very positive choice.
   
   It is one of the hardest things for a guy to attempt and achieve.
   It is one of the best things you will ever do for both your health and well being and for me, your future mate.
   
   I have been working on my own purity and have had tough times and great successess but I will continue to try to improve as it is important in my life...
   
   We all have our successes and setbacks but that is because we are mostly doing this for ourselves
   
   Well, I have a surprise for you.
   I made a time machine and I know your future! I went into the future and saw the man I would marry and it is you!
   
   So, I traveled to the past to leave this letter to encourage you to prepare yourself for what we will share in the future, and believe me, it will be worth all the work!
   
   So I wanted to leave you with something which would encourage you when your pressure are to much and you just want to give up and tonight is the night that I will reveal to you that I was the one that wrote the following letter to get you on the path to prepare yourself for our relationship.
   
   
   I am the woman you will be closest to for the biggest part of your life.
   
   We just got home from date night and I excused myself to get ready to go to bed with you but I'm taking this time to tell you how important it was that you worked so hard to get your life ready for me!
   
   I just wanted to write to you to tell you that I wanted you to change and that I am waiting for you. I’m waiting for you because I already love you. I’m waiting for you and I will continue waiting for you until you are completely ready for God to cross our paths.
   
   I'm so happy that you took the first and hardest step to join this website!
   It was one of the most daring and positive steps you took which ultimately led to us being together, so, I want to just say that I respect you soooo much and it just means so muck that you did it.
   
   I know that life can be hard and you might be tempted to despair and fall back to your habits which will not only keep you from forming more positive relationships in your life but also increase the time from meeting me on that special day where we begin our exciting times together.
   
   So, thanks for this step of joining this accountability and guidance website but let me just say a couple of things about what I expect from you, OK?
   
   I don't want you in front of the computer viewing porn and madturbating or settling for short term, shallow relationships or situations that will not bring you true happiness or joy.
   
   I fear that if you do not begin to really change, and practice new methods to create a new attitude and all that it will take forever for us to get together in s healthy relationship so no more PORN, right!
   
   Look, I don't expect you not to continue to look at women, I mean they are everywhere and I know you will still masturbate from time to time on occasion.... But not habitually, and not looking at some fantasy girl on the Internet...
   
   Here is an important difference Inwant you to discover and I know it will help keep you upon the path towards me... You can look at women... You can look at ads in the paper with women or sports magazines with cheerleaders, cause they are everywhere but you are not allowed to look for more than 2-3 seconds!
   1 second is a glance and 2-3 is a look but after 3 seconds you can begin the steps that lead you to the sexualization of a girl in the mall or in an addp so prove this to yourself and then make the change, OK?
   And there is something that I want you to remember through all of this. I just want you to know that I am also praying for you. Even though we may not have met yet, you are not alone in this. I know how you feel cause I feel some of the same things you do so I am preparing myself for our future relationship too... each sacrifice you make know hat I'll be making one too! ;-)
   
   I know how easy it seems to just live in fantasy and madturbate because I have done that too, but I'm changing for you!
   I know you migh have hooked up with someone in the past but I don't do that and I don't respect that in a guy so none of that, right???
   
   And I don't want you to use someone to fill in the loneliness that you feel in your heart right now in some shallow, hurtful relationship... I expect something better of you.
   
   I know how tough it can be to say no to impurity. Just know that every time I felt that way, I thought of you. I offer up this loneliness I felt in hopes that it will bring you some consolation on your journey. If you’re reading this, I hope you really feel this and that you will do the same for me.
   
   I know there are a lot of worldly temptations from opportunities to be with multiple women or you might be thinking of viewing some pornographic images on the Internet and you may even use that as a substitute for a relationship before we meet. I must admit that I have looked a lot at cute guys, (but not porn) and I do check them out sometimes but it just sort of makes me sad to get thinking about all that when it is not the time for me, so I'll wait and I hope you will wait too.
   
   I know you look at pretty women and think about sex and you may have even been sexually active before, but I'm asking you to stop any meaningless behavior that keeps you from me!
   
   I know you have looked at porn and masturbated or you wouldn't be on this site in the first place... And I understand that at times, because of the stronge sexual drives men have, that you'll be tempted to masturbate and all but I know you really don't want to view porn and masturbate because you are on this helpful site and reading this... So I know that you would rather be in a relationship with me already but it is just not the time. So work hard and please be patient. And don't worry... I also need time to to get myself ready to meet you so I am setting my goals on no sex before marriage and I want you to know I'm saving my sexual life for you as you prepare yourself for the powerful relationship we will share.
   
   So, I will be thinking about your trials and just know that if something turns you on, I'll be hoping you try to turn away from temptation. If you start to check someone out on the computer, that you stop yourself quickly and think of me, cause I'll be thinking of you and all the sacrifices you are making, and have already made to try to move away from porn tin order to move more closely towards me!
   
   And know that I will too!
   And, if you start to view something sexy on the Internet but then turn it off know that I am so prod if what you are tring to become... and I'll be thinking of you and remember, I'm also waiting for you.
   
   I hope you think of me when life gets hard. I hope you pray for me like I will for you. and just as much as I want you to wait for me, I don’t want you to wait for me. I want you to live your life to the fullest. I hope you take every opportunity to grow as a person and fall in love with Gods plan for your life on your journey to my side.
   
   I want you to do this because this is what I’ll be doing with my life until the time comes when I can do it together with you. I am not going to sit around waiting for you to come sweep me off of my feet. I am going to live a life that allows me to be the best person I can be and grow to be in a place where I can love you as much as I possibly can when the time comes.
   
   When we meet I will want you to share with me the trials you had getting ready for me and I will listen attentively to your stories while holding you and thanking you for each trial and sacrifice. I will think of all of them as your gift to me...
   
   Whenever it is going to be that I can share my life with you, I want to give you all of my past experiences as a part of my gift of self . . . and I want it to be a great gift so I'll be working hard too even though it is different for girls.
   
   So please, Get out there and experience this beautiful gift of life that you have been given! Ill meet you somewhere along the way if you're not stuck in front of a computer daydreaming! So if you see me in a coffee shop or in a chapel, don’t be afraid to say hi, just walk up and be confident because of the strong and respectful man you are becoming and really have started to become for me! If in a chapel, let me pray first . . . I might be praying for you)!
   I love you!
   
   
   virginpaul, Today at 11:56 AMEditReport
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