Thinking about hiring a prostitue

Nah, hiring a prostitute will lead you nowhere. Simply it was not the time for you to get a girl. Getting a girl to kiss you is not a big deal. You could try finding some social hobby / get a friend that is similar to you and just approach some girls. They want to be approached.

 

Hiring a prostitute is something you will regret later on. Maybe just the next day, next year, on maybe when you will be in a normal relationship. How can you tell your partner that you had sex with a prostitute. Either you hide it forever and live with that guilt, or you take the risk of telling her and god knows what her reaction will be.

Also, you may get addicted to it and ruin your life forever. You may also get a deadly STD and die a slow and painful death.

If you weigh all against getting some experience with a girl, and you still think it's worth it, then go ahead. But remember, no two people are sane and also the sex with prostitute will not be romantic as compared to a real partner.

 

OMG! not another 30 pages-long "hiring a prostitute" debate.

To answer the question: Just don't. On my experience, a hooker is just expensive masturbation with a sex object that just happens to be alive and breathing next to you. You have no feelings attached and sure as hell she will not play the girlfriend role for you (most likely, unless you are one very lucky bastard to find such dedicated hooker).

p.s. Wow, a girl recommended you to hire a hooker? well that's new.

 

Don't hire one dude, girls are easy to get than you think, if you need advice about it hit some one up. Never pay for what you can get for free.

 

I would suggest you don't do that. Most likely you will regret it down the road. I am nearly 40 and am still a virgin so I understand how you feel.

Perhaps rather than being so focused on the physical intimacy try developing a friendship with a woman who has common interests. The best relationships are the one's where you are each other's best friend. Perhaps that friendship will develop into what you want and perhaps it won't but do try to be aware of the signals she is giving rather than being totally blind like I have been in the past and only catching on when it's too late.

I have come to understand that physical intimacy is a bonus that won't last forever so don't rush it just because you feel like you need it now.

 

Don't do that mistake. Listen to me. I've lost the virginity with a prostitute and never had sex with a normal girl and because of that my porn addiction turned to sex addiction. I fell into a complicated situation and wasted a lot of money in this shit, because I couldn't control myself. Because of my deep loneliness, I turned to a weak and needy guy. Prostitutes are people like you and a lot of them are not crazy for sex. They are just doing that because they have to pay debs or they have a children to care. Most of them don't have another option. So, they are like us and they are suffering. I know your feeling,but what you are going to get is just mechanical sex, because they can't give love or connection, they are just focused in making money. Going to prostitutes are not so different than masturbate while watching porn.

Be patient. I'm in the same situation as you and I consider myself a virgin yet, because real intimacy is not about mechanical sex. You are going to regret, not because you have to tell to your future partner, but because you used a body of someone who have the same values as you and have a family to support.

You are not going to something good, instead of shame, guilt, depression, regret,....

 

I've also had sex with prostitutes or escorts. About 5 times. I lost my virginity to a prostitute.

Bottom line is I don't really regret it. I got to experience sex and the lack of joy is what started nofap. I just don't have the money for it too. Thank god.

If you do have money stay the hell away from prostitutes. You will get addicted fast. Then it will be the nofuck challenge not the nofap challenge.

 

Not worth it.

 

I've had the same exact thought recently, 24 going on 25. Never kissed or been in a relationship at all. It would be very awkward for a future relationship to reveal that kind of event. I've had other male friends suggest prostitutes to me and it seems so tempting living in Nevada, safe and legal. I'm giving myself a solid NO for some time on that matter. Please take your time in considering this and know that whichever way you do decide I will judge, it is the greatest thing about this site. People are understanding and it doesn't make me feel so alone knowing I can talk to people with matching problems like mine.

 

I don't mean to be rude but for a female to tell you to hire a prostitute just goes to show how bad the situation is. She also doesn't sound like a good friend IMO.

Reasons not to hire a prostitute:

1. It is NOT real love, you're literally just paying for gratification.
2. You can't engage in oral (or you can) because it's very risky. STDs and whatnot.
3. I don't know if you can kiss them but kissing a prostitute is gross. You have no idea how many men's penises have been in their mouths..
4. You're wasting money. Money you could use to further improve yourself.
5. You're setting yourself up for another addiction
6. There's a good chance you're going to further humiliate yourself if you can't perform (Because there's no foreplay, there's no buildup. It's going to be straight-up take your clothes off sex and you're going to feel extremely pressured since it's your first time and you won't know how to really do it)

Please for the love of God, who gives a damn if you're a virgin? Just work on Nofap and improving your posture, your body, your speaking ability, your grooming and your clothes. Women WILL come. You're really wasting time thinking about women my friend. I really hope you take what I say and put in some thought because it's really important!

Which one of these sounds better?

a) Walking into a room, lady unenthusiastically takes her clothes off and lies there like a ragdoll waiting for you to finish and pay her.

b) Finding a girl who loves you, becoming best friends and spending quality time with each other. Quality sex with NO TIME LIMIT and where you can explore and learn new things about what you and your partner likes.

I only typed out this long post because I believe that I should help you and that you have what it takes to change. Please try to find the will within yourself to make that change and become a better man.

 

Comprehensive advice above. Will add a little.

Put surplus monthly money in mutual funds. ( so no money to think about bull shit expenses)

Please read about risk of various super duper diseases one can get by having sex with prosti.

Unless you have deeply resolved to destroy yourself DO NOT DO THIS. IT WILL BECOME A HABIT. ( sorry for caps but I wanted to shout at our bro a bit).

 

Hiring a prostitute will only shatter your ego. Listen to your female friend ! After losing your virinity you will feel like a ton of weight lifted off your shoulders. And your self esteem will be the last of your problem go dude, live life!

 

Just do it it's not a big deal. You will learn sex isn't a big deal and sex with a stranger actually isn't that satisfying.

The only thing I would caution is doing it more than once. Just do it to get rid of your virginity hopefully to give you some confidence and perspective. Anymore will be similar to starting a new addiction.

Or ask your bestfriend to bang you. So it will be with someone you trust. That's a lot to ask for from a friend tho.

 

Totally agree with user toomuchh. And the ideea to ask ur friend to bang you is genious. Be sure to mention her....no strings attached

 

many times girls don't see that it's fair or not, they just give the advice which looks better to solve your problem, i know after hearing your friends opinion had made your urge of hiring prostitute more strong but you should aware that girls are not the best advisor sometimes they also don't have genuine advice so they just say whatever feels right...... and we guys just think that a girl a said this so this is must be done.

 

Fucking realest reply

 

I'll add that if you're gonna bang a prostitute go for the more expensive ones as they are better at pretending to like it. Listen bro pls oh pls dont do what i did and come back for more. Lose ur virginity if thats really ur wish and nothing more.

Don't do oral, just don't. Kissing actually is more pleasurable than oral. Kissing is less risky but choose a more expensive prostitute if you want a 'cleaner' experience.

Good luck to you. But like everyone says the best thing to do is get a girlfriend. But i understand its easier said than done.