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The Women I Deal With

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by AUTiger7222, Nov 11, 2018.

  1. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    No, the jerk guys only attract women which had emotional trauma from childhood with their father. For an emotionally healthy woman, the jerk guy is an idiot and she is not interested to have anything like that in her life.
     
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  2. You lost this guy Sunday night. He's gone. He was lonely and needed encouragement.
     
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  3. AUTiger7222

    AUTiger7222 Fapstronaut

    If I had a woman that would appreciate it then the women that don't appreciate it wouldn't matter now would they? If I chose the right woman? You act like getting a woman to like me as more than just a friend is as easy and simple as going to the grocery store and picking out which brand of cereal to buy.
     
  4. AUTiger7222

    AUTiger7222 Fapstronaut

    Thanks to you three for the help and constructive feedback. Too bad the rest of the folks in this thread decided to jump all over me. Definitely didn't expect that to happen here but there's internet jerks everywhere. You guys make me wish I would have never discovered this place.
     
  5. bleong1234

    bleong1234 Fapstronaut

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    Trust me when I say that this forum is a good thing, but maybe take a few days from posting and just read what other's write. It's been really therapeutic for me and helped me with a lot of introspective views of myself. Don't feel too down, a lot of guys here have a lot of shame and guilt for porn or things they've done to their spouses a lot of people are coming here feeling pretty raw about themselves. Keep your head up, pick up a hobby, don't be afraid to put yourself out there. Any a tip I would give is depending where you live I really thing country swing dancing has been a great equalizer. It's a rare skill, involves a partner and I've seen two guys dance with tons of women.

    Does it mean you're gonna get a girlfriend or get laid, not necessarily but its a great icebreaker, you gain confidence in dancing with other girls, and you learn a hobby.
     
  6. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    Sorry for your bad experience here, just ignore stupid comments. People have their own complexes with their own struggle and sometimes it can make them say stupid things without realizing. One of the main things you need to heal with nofap and not using porn is to be stronger and not to pay that much attention to what people say. Otherwise, you are going to be upset for the rest of your life as bad people will always enter your life. I know it is hard. Good luck on your journey.
     
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  7. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    Getting a right woman is a load of psychology and "human magnetism" which works unconsciously from our minds. If we had a childhood trauma from our parents neglect we will attract also neglected partner but from the opposite spectrum. So nice guy usually attracts a very toxic woman and the vulnerable nice girl usually attracts a very toxic man. This pattern can be healed, but first, need to be acknowledged by a person, and it takes many years to heal as I mentioned earlier. After self-healing, there is a chance of attracting the right people.

    Only healthy people they have both parents and they gave them unconditional love and right emotional background in very early childhood they attract same people as they are - emotionally healthy. And to have a sex with just anybody, please be careful, while you having sex with a girl you picking up her energy and that will stay with you, so if you pick the wrong girl you can fuck up your luck and wellbeing just by having one time sex.

    Also while having sex there is loads of oxytocin processing in your head and that is a "bonding hormone" so you will be bonded to that person for a long period of time without realizing. Psychology is such a huge subject and so important and people have no idea about it and they do loads of bad things without realizing. Be careful who you have sex with and take care of yourself.
     
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  8. Coolyorky

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    Nice guys are too eager. Have a look at the YouTube channel entrepreneurs in cars
     
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  9. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    Being "nice guy" is a personality disorder coming from the earlier childhood where usually mother was very toxic. Same as Narcissistic personality disorder which is opposite spectrum of that. But a nice guy can be healed and become a normal guy with strong boundaries. A narcissist cannot be healed.
     
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  10. AUTiger7222

    AUTiger7222 Fapstronaut

    Absolutely. It's why I fully regret having sex with the only woman I've ever been in a serious relationship with. It made the breakup that much worse and it took quite a long time to break that emotional bond. Thanks for your very good and insightful posts. I agree with much of what you said here and do apply to my life. I'm just so tired of being lonely and not having the company of others around, even in a friends only sense. I'm an outwardly emotional person and I'm also a physical love touch person and not getting either need filled is so depressing and mentally draining. I feel tired all the time and wish I could just sleep all the time.
     
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  11. AUTiger7222

    AUTiger7222 Fapstronaut

    Aside from the Auburn ribbing, your post was put together a whole lot better and therefore helpful, unlike the others that just felt the need to attack my character and who I am.
     
  12. ABOVE ALL women are drawn to confidence. So yes, the guys that appear (or actually are) treating these women like sh*t are coming off as SUPER CONFIDENT and believe me this is what women are attracted to. When a guy is super nice and kind, and constantly offering to do things etc. it comes off as less confident and makes you look needy. Think about that.
     
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  13. kweeny

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    The woman I only dealing with is my Loving mother.
     
  14. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    We are on the same boat man. Same here. I miss that too much and feeling like I want to just sleep to avoid the loneliness and internal pain.
     
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  15. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    A woman with a Narcissistic personality disorder or Psychopathy personality is always more sexual than normal girls because it is the main manipulation tool against the man to get what she wants. She doesn't have any other valuable traits to show off so she is using the basics and it works extremely well with men who can't control themselves and are not aware of this very dangerous subject which can fuck up their lives.

    These women are usually extremely attractive so sex with them can appear as the best thing in your life also because they put loads of acting into it and they allow you to do things other women wouldn't let you. So your fantasies are eventually met fully. No matter what they are. And that can be very addictive, and they know it. They need to own you fully to manipulate you, to be their emotional slave. Narcissistic people are also very intelligent, but only in a psychopathic and manipulative way. Very dangerous.

    To be addicted to one of these women daemons is the worst thing in our life and you don't want it, trust me. I can't put myself together after 2 years of not being with that girl anymore. It is eating me alive much more than some fapping and watching porn.

    I am a real example of having one of the most attractive woman out there while having an addictive personality and experiencing real hell through sex addiction to this woman while she knew I am addicted to her and she really enjoyed corrupting my personality slowly and then discard after the years. I have also studied deep psychology behind this subject for more than 2 years now (sometimes many hours a day) and I know that 95 percent of men have no idea about this extremely dangerous subject about women with dangerous personality disorders (these women have a different perception of the world around them, different perception of themselves, and they have different rules they acting on, but doing it in a hidden way you will never find out, but pretending to act on normal rules as you believe). Fapping 5x a day and watching porn 5 hours a day is an Eden compare to this.
     
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  16. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    As long as you are very careful and aware all is fine. Good luck to you. Thanks
     
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  17. rgm

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    The thing is that it doesn't have to be that "girls choose assholes"

    Most people want the things they cannot have it makes it more attractive.
    Most nice guys are too available, want to please a girl too much, make her the center of his universe and never have conflict.

    So to get a girl what you do is:
    You DONT focus on them.
    You focus on what YOU want, what is your mission in life.
    Girls are attracted to a man with purpose and nothing radiates confidence,
    like a man on a mission who no matter what they do won't stop pursuing that mission. (girls especially low self esteem ones mistake assholes who don't care about them for guys that have a mission who they can't "easily" have and by the time they realize they're already too emotionally invested and or manipulated)

    When you work on your mission, have good hygiene, dress properly & talk to every girl in the same manner. (not putting them on a pedestal)
    You will find that enough girls will find you attractive and want to date you. The trick then is to NOT DEVIATE FROM YOUR PATH.
    If you change and make her your priority you're not the same guy anymore to her and she will lose attraction.

    be TRULY busy, do interesting things, let her chase you more than you chase her.
    Be unpredictable, don't tell her about your entire life be a bit mysterious.
    Don't answer every question in a serious way as if you have to give her an essay on your life.
    Most won't care and if she IS interested she will ask for details herself & you can focus the convo back on her afterwards.

    On top of that don't talk too much, the more you say the less impact each word will have.
    Girls just wants a guy that listens but DOESN'T try to fix her problems.
    For example: This girl was acting mean to me at work she did this n that.
    DONT tell her: "Well maybe you should do this or that to fix it"
    INSTEAD say things like: "Oh how did that make you feel?" "Damn that's terrible" "I can't believe she did that"

    Learned many of these the hard way and sometimes you will still do these knowing full well it won't work.
    Sometimes you'll be taken over by emotions and do all stupid shit. Just learn and keep trying.
    You may be rejected a 100 times but you'll learn what you did wrong.
    Don't see it as you being BAD see it as you being INEXPERIENCED.

    You don't just pick up a guitar for the first time and start doing liveshows in front of 40.000 do you?

    You could watch PUA things but its not needed at all.

    Just: don't talk too much, don't be needy, have a life and own it (who cares if you have a weird hobby if you don't care and own it she won't care)
    have proper hygiene, listen properly, and if she does something you do not like don't just ignore it for her.
    You don't have to be an asshole but you shouldn't be a spineless baby who lives solely to please his new found goddess. Show her that bad behavior/bullshit isn't tolerated by you, tell her when you don't agree. (don't be whiny of course just a healthy dose of disagreement)
    If you don't do this she will get bored of you because you're just a puppy that always follows her, never barks back and is always available.
    SAY NO SOMETIMES (especially if you actually have shit to do)

    One more important thing I've learned:
    Guys fall in love QUICK AS HELL most of the time. we could meet her, kiss her and in our heads we take her on a vacation to paris to propose to her.
    Girls in my experience take a lot longer to actually fall in love so don't go all mr romance lovey dovey on her you will scare her away.
    Follow her example. Does she want to hold hands? then ITS FINE. but don't just grab her hand on the 1-2nd date and expect a good outcome.
    If I had to give it a time frame I'd say a girl takes about 2 months to fall in love.
    And if it doesn't work out, no matter you will find another girl. You don't have to dive right back in allow yourself some "grief" but don't go into a year long depressive state.

    A girl might love you for a long time but you should love yourself forever. Not in an insane asshole ego narcissistic way..
    Just don't hate on yourself, cut yourself some slack and slowly get rid of bad habits and add good ones. All the small things will add up.

    lol became an essay. DONT SEND THIS LENGTH OF TEXT TO A GIRL UNLESS YOU WANT TO LOSE HER LMAO.

    edit: One more thing I'd like to add is a personal favorite of mine. You get a girl horny and wanting to jump you. But you don't give her sex. You walk away, do something else, tease her. it will drive her crazy but trust me she'll love you for it, her attraction will grow and the next time she'll ride you like an animal.
     
    Last edited: Nov 15, 2018
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  18. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    Good one !
     
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  19. AUTiger7222

    AUTiger7222 Fapstronaut

    Now, this is good stuff!! Thanks!
     
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  20. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    :emoji_clap::emoji_clap::emoji_clap::emoji_clap::emoji_clap:
     

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