The Vice-grip of Virgin Fantasies

That right there, my friend, is a veryyyyy good reason to get rid of it!

I'm not saying sex isn't magical and you have nothing to look forward to, but... Expectations about sex are wildly overestimated in porn and even just in the media. So getting those expectations in check is really important, and now is the time to start. the more realistic you are about your expectations, the more likely they are to be met and possibly even exceeded. It'll be great when it happens, because it is indeed a magical and special thing, but it's not "great" in all the ways you might expect.

 

I was in your position a couple of years ago. It is something that not too many people understand. I would recommend eliminating expectations all together and do your best to focus on learning as much as you can about constructive things (sex included, in a constructive light). Focus on being busy instead of 'getting busy.'

 

Porn sex is the worse indicator about how real sex is. Especially when you start looking at what I call Sci-fi porn. I mean huge penises that never hurt the lady, ladies that can do it forever, men that last forever, sex positions that benefit the camera view, not sexual pleasure. Then you get the fetish porn and the weird stuff..
Look up COOLIDGE EFFECT...very enlightening....

You don't do porn with your GF or wife in the bedroom. In your bed, you have a human being with feelings, desires and maybe fears.
You get a person that not always say yes like in porn. You rarely get someone that likes it rough (that's one of the biggest lies of porn). The person in bed with you, might come see you at the hospital for a year if you get hit by a car. That person might also work to sustain your living if you lose your job...

WAY MORE into it than the sex part.

 

@Felix Culpa WHen I first had sex... It really sucked for me. But Was good for her ! ehehehe! YA BABY!


Well it was a really nasty experience... SHe dumped me like 5 days after.... We had sex a ton of times in there, but I couldn't even "O" OOOH MY!!!!!!!! WHY! U will feel like, a nervous and impotent male handicap after that. I was so obsessed with it that I couldnt finish... I drove myself mad(was already going mad) so I Spooked her out and she viciously nastily proceed to tear out my guts and liver; and to chop my heart in half! This was back to back girl... other one before had just broke up with me... HORRRRRRIBLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ANd I kept it inside me for so long.. like 5 months, and became psychotic and depressed, n I hadda move back to my mothers... Man what a nightmare... Take it from me... Normalize your PMO and your M before you get with a lady. You will be better off, because a man cannot sustain a woman if he himself cannot love his self!