The Unmanly Man's Reality

Resentful of women, human psychology and gender roles in a socially fucked society. The flakiness of women; the way in which they're manipulated by "swag" and confidence and seem to ignore the moral compass of the man in front of them. The science of attraction baffles me and seems to reward the egotistical and corrupt. Gorgeous women complaining that there are no good men when most guys I know are very "good" and would worship the ground they walk on. Society deems such men as weak and sexually undesirable, instantly "friend zoned" and seen as the adorable brother but nothing more.

I haven't fallen victim much of such instances personally; my misery is more in line with the "non-approach" being no approach. I receive a few glances a week on average, yet cannot overcome my soaring anxiety levels and surrender my ego, in case of rejection. Such anxiety levels are completely irrational, yet my body and mind remain frozen in fear; the more beautiful the more burdening. The more in tune with my pornography tastes, the more I leer and idolise; curve-hugging outfits and silky smooth complexions are my Kryptonite. These glances are invitations for conversation and potential courtship - for all of evolution that much hasn't changed. However, such glances are only ever going to be that; a smile is rare and a spoken word is unheard of. This is down to the man without exception.

I can barely hold eye contact and maintain a conversation with cashiers at a supermarket check-out; yet societal constructs require me to mask such problems and go so far as to charm the opposite sex - for the mere reason that I've got a penis and she's deemed pedestal-worthy. I know dozens of men just like me. Suffering the same plight, living through disdain and ever-enhancing resentment. On this forum alone there's many of us flying this flag.

So we continue to live this way. Damning gender roles for crippling us and longing for our position in this life to improve of it's own accord. The aesthetically unattractive man that is in touch with the masculine mentality will fearlessly court (and win) the most attractive women. He is short, pot-bellied and broke but don't you forget how he will laugh, charm and fuck her in ways you could only bookmark on your favoured internet browser.

 

Thanks for reading man. My post was a bit of a personal rant against society rather than a cry for help. I know my short-comings and how to overcome them, in theory at least. Practising social skills in particular can be a very difficult thing.

Regarding your comments; no, my vision isn't skewed towards women who resemble porn. These are just societal trends I have observed throughout life and deeply detest. Man is attracted to the physical; we will always be and objectifying "gorgeous" women is never going to stop. Appreciating beauty is different to ogling them like a kid in a sweet shop. There's something very unnatural about people on here wanting to detract from the physical entirely.

 

Surrendering to fate is how I've lived for the past decade; it doesn't work in a world whereby my gender is the dominant. I'm designed to be the hunter; food doesn't fall into my lap. Sorry, not a perfect analogy! I'm glad you're doing good bro.

Absolutely, women are great - there's a little self-loathing and self-resentment in my post. I'm attacking women and gender roles for no other reason than my incapability to conform to them. Yes, while I'm speaking generally, there will be women who look beyond the bravado. I still think that if she had many options, she would go with what she's designed to be attracted to, however.

 

Cheers man, never considered myself a noticed poster on here to be honest. I think I remember you from a previous account before you deleted it?

You make some valid points; skin-deep is very real though. It doesn't matter what you look like when you have issues that go far beyond the physical. Also, I've had some acne issues for the past decade which are only now being solved. Though most say it's hardly noticeable it has damaged me immensely. It's incredible what self-judgement and perfectionism can do.

I appreciate the post more than you think. Thanks.

 

Thanks for the feedback. Social anxiety is an ever-growing phenomenon due to technology taking over the need for face-to-face interaction. Thus, men who struggle with traditionally manly traits such as approaching women is rising massively. Like I said, I know at least a dozen guys irl who are equally crippled. It's a sad state of affairs and recognition is the first step in putting it right.

 

No need for that bro, he's entitled to his opinion.

His premise is valid, putting hot girls on pedestals gets guys nowhere. The guys that treat em like nothing, ironically, end up balls deep in them.

 

A follow up from my self loathing and hopeless prior post; which I'm sure many forumers can reasonate with. I no longer feel this way and can happily say I am starting to embrace my gender role and position within society. As a hunter is it my job to pick and choose who I'd like to pursue and who I'd want to experience life with.

Starting to approach women is a terrififying thing at first, especially in a society whereby a cold approach is deemed "odd" because 99.9% of men do not do it. Women seemed caught off guard and you only have a matter of seconds to convince her of your sanity let alone charm her into passing her number. But for many of us who wish to enhance our chances beyond our limited social circles; that is the only realistic option.

Even Brad Pitt, Taylor Lautner or whoever is the shit these days "looks-wise", would never get tail if he didn't put in some effort to chase and fulfil his gender role. He would get glances sure but women would rarely act on it due to 99.9999% conforming to their position within society and how they believe the courting process should be.

The rest of 2017 is about continuing to step out of my comfort zone and make strides with my social confidence and dating life.