The Importance of Meditation

I wanted to write a post about how important meditation and mindfulness has been in my recovery.

Firstly I am no expert, i'm not a monk or a hippie I am just a huge believer in the mindfulness.

Imagine when you are hanging out to PMO....you know the feeling. Your mouth goes dry, your focus narrows and you become solely focused on getting off. Your brain is clouded by the fog of dopamine and you are literally swimming in your desire to jack off... happens to us regularly right?

Well how about instead of going for the phone, tablet, laptop, chat app or anything else you use to get off with you have an intervention on yourself and meditate.

Through meditation and mindfulness I have learnt to recognise when I am feeling triggered and to 'watch' or 'curiously observe' my triggers as they are happening to me. I can see myself getting horny. I can feel my heart rate go up. I know that if I continue that way it is going to end in PMO or other destructive behaviours so I reflect on how I am feeling in that moment without judging myself or my feelings....just watch.

The result is that the feelings generally subside and I am able to move on...


Is it tough? Yes in the beginning meditation is tough. It doesn't come naturally to us and it can be hard to quiten the mind. It is 100% vital for me though to address my PMO / cybersex and phonesex triggers and has helped me put together a 59 day streak which I am enjoying now.

I recommend if you are new to meditation try Headspace app or any guided ones on youtube (if you can stay off the harmful content that may trigger some folk on this forum). Wim Hof Method is also good (google / youtube search)

The practice will get easier in time. I do 15 mins twice daily. It will make you generally calmer and provide an extra layer of emotional resilience that will help you cope with the stress of day to day life.

 

Happy to help. I hope you get something out of it. Try this one as a starting point. Just a relaxation one.

 

Agreed. It can be difficult in the beginning but now I love getting my 15 minutes in 1st thing everyday. I try and do another 15ish after dinner. Replace those unhelpful activities with positive ones