The Bitter Truth about "NoFap = Girlfriend!"

It's true. We can't just do nofap, sit on our ass and wait for universe to do everything for us, and give it to us on a silver plate. That's stupid attitude. Nofap is a wave of positive energy who's momentum will carry us places, if we choose to surf that wave. But surfer needs to put an effort in too, to catch the wave and stray on it.

 

Way to go!!
Stay strong & positive.
Bless you..

 

The OP is right. I will add here that when I've been away from porn for a few days, I invariably find my "need" to get a girlfriend start to diminish. It could just be the start of a flatline or something like that, but I do find that when I'm not staring at fake girls dressed up in such a way as to spike my dopamine, I generally start to lose the desire to chase after women.

Interestingly, I think this is something that might actually increase my chances of finding a girlfriend in the future. For one thing, I probably don't come across as desperate the way I did before (something women can smell a mile away), and I'm less likely to pursue women who just wouldn't be a good fit for me in one way or another.

I wonder if anybody else has noticed this.

 

Well,I agree with you.Cherr up!

 

I absolutely agree with this.

So many people start with some kind of endgame: "I want a girlfriend, therefore I'm going to do NoFap." It's the wrong goal.

Don't focus on getting a woman's attention. Focus on becoming the kind of man who naturally attracts a woman's attention. NoFap will help you do that, but it shouldn't be the reason you're doing NoFap. The benefits of NoFap extend far beyond relationship potential, so don't short-change yourself with constant thoughts of "I need a girlfriend."

 

I agree. I did some streaks few years ago with a goal to get better with women. It really was that mindset: "if i get women to like me, everything will fall into place". Nope. Doesnt work that way. My delusions melted away(i hope so) and i realized i have no goal in life, that i have some bigger problems. My hope for NoFap is to lend me energy to...do something with my life i guess. I learned there are bigger issues in life than women. Now if only i could start to feel that way too, lol.

 

NoFap helps your mind become balanced, closer to your true person inside.

 

It's my opinion that we are far to obsessed with sex in Anglo-western culture. We have sex on our televisions all the time, in our advertisements, in our programming and so on, yet at the same time we're also puritans. We want laws about who can see what, we want to ban prostitution in a lot of places (is it really any worse than porn?). We are constantly told how much sex we "should" be having, but yet we complain about politicians or other high-profile figures who are caught having sex with someone they "shouldn't" be. We run around calling people "prudes" if they're too conservative in relation to sex, but then if someone takes their porn addiction or their fetishes just a little too far, we run around shaming them for it.

Personally, I think we'd all be a lot happier if we just forgot about sex for a while, concentrated on the other 98% of life and minded our own business.

Do nofap because it makes you stronger and more disciplined, not because you "need" sex. The truth is, you really don't.

 

Fapping is like a bad relationship. It drags your whole life down, but you get a few glorious moments of ecstasy. You're operating at -1.

NoFap is like getting out of a bad relationship. Life gets better, but damn it, no ecstasy.
You're operating at 0. The desire for that ecstasy can draw you back into the bad relationship, especially when there is no new ecstasy on the horizon.

Remember, you didn't get out of the bad relationship for the hope of finding some new, better ecstatic moments. You got out because the relationship was crappy and bringing you down. Eventually, something better might come along, probably will come along, more ecstatic moments in a new better relationship, and life will be at +1, but if you don't grasp that the point of ditching the bad was to get out of minus one mode and get to even, you're thinking about it wrong and won't get to +1.