Testimony of the Atman: 90 Days

Well, I've been proclaiming that I would write another Success Story this time around, but I'd like it to be a bit different from the ones I wrote last year under a previous username when I hit 60 and 90 days. For starters, I'd like to be more concise, so that you guys who are pressed for time can skim through it and pick up whatever tips or info you'll find useful. Secondly, I'd like to give a shout-out to my contacts on NoFap, who have given me much support. Here goes (in no particular order of importance): @Reclaimer, @onmyway, @Noobotron52, @ElectroChill, @Ryszard Mazur, @stop&see, @Mr.D, @Applehead, @ICDMatrix, @bermalux, @The_Monk, @SelfAbuse, @noFapToTheFuture, @Ekhangel, and anyone else I've missed who has given me a "Like" or commented on one of my posts. Finally, I'd like to point out two things that majorly helped me stop masturbating for good:

1. Having a room mate move into my house. This made it embarrassing to want to wank jizzom out of my penis with someone else always around.
2. Dealing with, and making progress on, the drug and alcohol problem. This made it possible to get a hold on my emotions and the pain so many women have caused me in the past, as well as overcome "Oneitis" (whatever that is, it sounds like some kind of rare collection of symptoms caused by having a testiculodectomy).

Whether these apply to you or not, allow me to tell you guys everything that has helped me get this far and also highlight the things that definitely don't help, the false paths that some Fapstronauts take and wonder why they are unable to stop masturbating.

Things that help:

a) Getting your NoFap program started. I've used both a spreadsheet and counter, as well as several consecutive journals in which I documented my struggle. Now that I've been clean for so long, the spreadsheet shows blank entries for the past three months or so and the counter shows 93 days at the moment. But, taking a look at the spreadsheet [it's in my signature], you can see how I fapped so often during May - July. And I didn't think I could stop... but I did. So can you.

b) Putting your energy into other things. For me, tertiary IT study was a great blessing because it gave me the opportunity to turn out a great deal of brain-work over the space of a year. But it was also hard when I was masturbating so often; I often felt drained, fearful, paranoid and so on. I think that if I had done some revision during home-time and not getting distracted by porn, I wouldn't have f***ed up so often. But yeah, if you can find some kind of outlet or channel for that energy that you fruitlessly wank out of your body on so many occasions for nothing, you will be benefited.

c) Meditation and prayer. I cannot praise these things highly enough, but beware of cults and false gurus/masters. I regret that I cannot speak more fully on these topics, but if I did, I'd risk coming across as a fanatic or an eccentric. I'm not, I'm just your average Joe.

Things that don't help:

a) Promiscuity. If your NoFap struggle is dedicated to "stopping the wanking habit so I can get laid with lots of hot chicks," then I have some bad news for you, my friend... not only will you still feel the negative effects of semen loss (offset though they may be by the energising practice of RS, that is, real sex) but you will also risk developing Oneitis and getting your heart broken, if not also your balls crushed by your current girlfriend when she finds out you've been cheating on her with a string of other females.

b) Trigger-seeking. Deliberately toeing the boundary line of a minefield is not only risky and stupid, it is potentially life-threatening. Consider social media and P-subs to be that minefield. For me, I find myself often staring at women's breasts on TV. This must stop, otherwise, maddened by the desire to see more, I might look up the Devil's medium of instant gratification: porn. In short: don't tantalise yourself. Have a NoFap program, have a goal or a set of goals, and stick to them. A.A. members often self-observe and take note of when they are "making rules" for themselves. I disagree with this: make one of your rules (apart from not looking at porn) to be avoiding triggers. And don't get me started on sexting. When a woman is eating dinner and she receives an SMS from you with a photo of your penis attached to it, she is liable to be disgusted, not aroused.

c) Video games and "degenerate" media like heavy metal music. Listen to music that inspires you, not that music that leaves you feeling numb. Incidentally, I'm not afraid to say it: video games are a real waste of time. If this is how you like to relax, find some other method.

Well, that's all, sirs and dames. Hope this helps some of you guys who are still struggling.

May you all find yourselves triumphant in the midst of this terrible struggle against (P)MO, and when you are able to help others after reaching certain milestones, take satisfaction in doing so. All the best.

 

Thankyou all for your support! You guys are the best.

Yes, I'll be sticking around here for a while longer. That was one of my mistakes last year: bailing out too early and relapsing into the PMO. I'd like to get a solid year up before I think about leaving.

One of my goals is a happy, healthy relationship, and this is where *I* need advice. Will make a point of venturing into the Dating During Rebooting section of the NoFap website.

 

Just a few ideas on how and where to meet women. My younger brother is dating (he's 26), I think he met his new beau at University where he's studying Science.

You know quite a few females, right? Did you meet them all through school, or what?

 

My pleasure nikh, I hope it helps!

 

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