Tell me honestly, what are your main motivations to do NoFap?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by SuperPowers, Aug 21, 2019.

  1. SuperPowers

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    Why are you doing Nofap?

    What are your main motivations?

    Me, just thinking now however I've put a lot of thought into this in the past and now I think it comes down to this

    • Not to feel shame. (That affects everything. Confidence, voice, eye contact, I don't feel social, it lowers my self-esteem, I care what people think too much)

    • To motivate me to get a girlfriend and be married within 3 years. I know I appreciate women more and it makes women more valuable.

    That's it for now, I wanna see if I can add a third one that really means something to me.

    How about you?
     
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  2. christopherrobin

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    Money and clear mental state
     
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  3. BreathTheFreeAir

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    Clear head.
    Cutting toxic behavior out of my life.
     
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  4. J81A85J

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    My primary motivation and it really is probably exclusive, is to improve my relationship and intimacy with my wife
     
  5. Sinbad

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    To turn my life into a positive direction.
    To come out of hiding and be a man.
    To learn about love.

    Because it's the right thing to do.
    Because I want loving relationships.
    Because I'm tired of being alone.

    To follow my heart instead of my ****
    To have a **** that works when I do find love.

    To get over my addiction.
    To work on my addiction.
    To better myself.
    To be trustworthy.
    To be a hardworking man.
    To do my part in the world.

    To be someone.
    To be myself.
    To be the best I can be.

    To find love.
    To become a good man, a good son, a good brother, a good father.

    Not to waste anymore time.
    Not to waste anymore energy.
    Not to waste my life.
    Not to hurt anymore people.
    Not to die alone.

    To be a good friend.
    To respect women.

    To heal my brain.
    To improve my brain.
    To heal my body, my heart and my soul.
    To face God, everything and everyone, pure of heart.
    To find love everlasting.

    To connect deeply with a woman.
    To let go of fear.
    To be a natural companion.

    So many things, I want to get better.
    I want to stop being selfish.
    I want to GIVE.
    I'm done.
     
  6. J81A85J

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    Very well stated. So true.
     
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  7. Paradise_07

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    I rarely respond to these types of things but really I have a lot of things that have happened in my life including PMO. I guess my reasons are because I look back a year ago in my life and nothing has improved. I’m an addict and because of those relapses my mind tells me it’s all better once I PMO but the results show no improvement. So I can be a better me and show everyone else it is possible for a kid to do the impossible. Everyone wants to doubt me and sometimes it fuels my PMO but as I’m on my day 7 it fuels me as a person to beat my demons. Change starts with me and nobody else.
    I guess the typical cliches count too, the motivation the improvement in charisma and such. But personally it’s to gain a better understanding of life and what’s on “the other side” of not being an addict.
     
  8. bigboibez

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    very well said
     
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  9. bigboibez

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    At the beginning it was because i realised porn had screwed up my libido.

    But now it is to be free of the desperate shame i feel after i relapse. I just want to be free
     
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  10. Big Lebowski

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    Being the master of my own domain. Instant gratification does not lead to happiness
     
  11. thorswrath32

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    The time we have is too precious to waste. One day i would like to share my life with someone but it will take time to repair the damage to my soul. I gave up initially because i hit rock bottom but now i continue to stay free from porn because I want to grow into my new life.
     
  12. Psalm27:1my light

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  13. ctr

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    All of the above for me.
     
  14. Psalm27:1my light

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    I want to get rid of PIED. That’s pretty much it.
     
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  16. CatRock96

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    I want to be happy with a real woman.
     
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  17. cadia guardsman

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    Main goal is seeing if i get so frustated that i finally go further on girls because PMO was my escape and escuse from not going further on girls

    Also having better memory
     
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  18. Fenix Rising

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    I want to take back control over my mind and actions. Addiction enslaves your body and mind.
    Lao Tzu said it best: "He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still."
     
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  19. Trying358

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    Time and fatigue, for one. I just waste too much time at it, at least an hour a day looking at porn and masturbating, then hours thinking about sex (which has changed now), the occasional binge -- and after I've ejaculated, I just want to go to sleep. I noticed that on the rare day I skipped I felt much more energetic but I couldn't even psyche myself to do that for more than a day and then I'd do it twice to make up.

    Also, to motivate myself to find a partner again, porn is just too good a substitute. And when I do, not to get into arguments because I keep looking at porn.
     
  20. SuperPowers

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    I'm very interested in semen retention

    Ejaculating means you're mentally unstable, see the video below



    There's nothing excessive about that buddy.

    I see you have already gone 500 days. I can see you feel a deep, deep shame and guilt, and you're likely religious. You need to forgive yourself because your brain got hijacked, it was outside of your conscious control, literally, the dopamine overrides morals, ethics, everything and there is a deeper reason for what you done. If its just porn, dude, its just pleasuring yourself to consenting adults. If it was JB, there is a documentary maybe on Netflix definitely on Stan called are all men pedophiles. Watch it! I've seen JB, not into it but I've had a look on a site and it surely gave me shame and guilt. If it was preteen, well, what can I say, you're not doing that anymore, its the shameless cunts indulging in it that need to be destroyed. Actually, its the people abusing. Some pedophiles are I don't know how they labeled it, non-active, whatever, but one guy on the documentary "are all men pedophiles" was open that he was a pedophile but he neither views child porn and does not masturbate or fantasize about children. Although Id like to talk to him and say a few things to try and help him, I don't have an issue with him.

    Its been 500+ days and your soul still needs repair? Forgive yourself, if there is a God, God would forgive you, I think your issues are unrelated to NoFap. Take care. Oh, and I'm not coming to any conclusions, I have no idea why you're so soul crushed after 500 days. Slimy religion? I don't know. Let go, what's it going to take, another 3 years? No, today is the day to let go 100%. Your soul is only your awarness. You aren't your body, thoughts, emotions or actions. You are only the person that is aware of the voice in your head, not the person that judges, likes and dislikes. You are also your energy. Your soul feels remorse, that tells me you're good. But I question if your feelings come from religious shame. I think you're way overreacting and I blame religion. It needs to be burned in a hell fire. Look what its done to you, what the fuck, did you kill someone? Who did you hurt, only yourself and it was totally unnecessary. Sorry, but grow up, its 2019, religions can't be trusted because they're littered with errors and contradictions, what do you do, cherry pick the good and disregard the bad? If there is an error in a book the whole book needs to be questioned. You really believe those absurdly childish stories? If there is a God I have no concept of God but I do believe there is a higher power, a creator, but I personally know anything about this creator. Or maybe you're smart enough to not believe in religion and just need to forgive yourself, I don't know what's up with you but you're living in a prison without the bars. Seek professional help. Even try betterhelp.com and just type
     
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