Taboo side of porn

Yes, I have the same problem. When I got bored with vanilla porn I went looking for things that were more shocking and extreme and then it sort spirals until you realise what you are watching is completely disgusting and degrading. It's all connected with the addiction. Just with other addictions, we look for bigger dopamine hits. Porn is a real killer. We can beat it though. Good luck, mate!

 

I can't sympathise with this enough, I'm now 20 and for 8 years I've slowly been desensitising myself, moving from one extreme to the next in an attempt to satisfy an insatiable lust. You know it's wrong but you don't care. You just keep edging past the boundary one step at a time. Soon you end up so far from where you started but you don't remember how you got there. As Scottishteenguy said, it's all part of the addiction. It doesn't make us evil or bad people, just products of our brain chemistry. At least we're all on the right path now!

Stay strong pal

 

Yeah, it's a trap, and the worst thing is that you think by going to these more extreme forms you're somehow "uncovering" parts of your desire that were previously hidden. That's what I started to think. Actually, we're inventing new desires, looking for things that will shock our brain, getting a bigger hit. These taboo subjects are not part of you, they're not something you really want or need. They're fake shit that create chemical hits deep in your noggin. Focus on your girl and make love to her. You'll get through this -- you're a warrior!

 

Yes! What others have said is right here. I have been there. There are things in P that have made you have these select "fetishes" that you would have never had if no one showed them to you in the first place. Remember when a beautiful (FULLY DRESSED headshot) of woman would be on TV and you'd get a rise? I miss that feeling and hanks to P now the only thing that works are extremes. The funny thing is, I'm not into anything "that" extreme, but the acts performed in P are just not realistic and they don't take the other person under consideration. Its all about pleasing the viewer. These as you no doubt have guessed are the lies that get our brains on the addiction pathway. Somewhere down the road we thing this is better than real sex. Now a woman/man ( girls fap too ) can't arouse us unless their doing some over the top act.

But this is the purpose of our journey, to become more sensitized so that we can enjoy life to the fullest. If our sex/life drive was an antennae, then porn would be the thing that bends it, rips off the top and puts foil over it. Giving us a dull muddied signal. Hang in there, I for one can't wait for this normal desire to return!

 

Yeah I get what you are saying. It has happened to most of us, I guess. The problem is that our brain sees porn as real 'sexual partners' and a new fetish is just a new 'sexual partner' that you get to bang with. And the more 'partners' you have sex with, the better, right?

 

I don't think the idea of "partnership" comes into it all, not for me anyway.

What everyone else said is pretty bang-on I think, our brain is always looking for the quick dopamine fix, and with each time we use P the brain needs to be more shocked to get the fix it wants.

The constant use of P has kinda screwed our circuitry so much that even during the physical act with someone we love, the brain still wants that extra hit that it equates with the porn experience.

Like any other addiction I guess.

 

Hello Impetuous,

I know this from myself. Before I found this site I also had the problem that I needed more porn to get horny. And the worst thing was that sex with my friend was no joy anymore. I had more problems to get an erection, the sex wasn't lustfull, the orgasm was poor, I needed the fantasies from the porn to get an erection and to have a normal orgasm. That was a bad thing for my friend AND me. And thats why I stopped masturbating and watching porn. After two weeks without masturbation and no porn the sex was better- but I came to quick, my penis was too sensitive. But it was great for my friend and of course for me to have normal sex.