Sugar & Porn...

I find excercising with a friend (for me its the gym) great for bonding and accomplishment.

An definently reading and art.

Not to worried with food but staying away from sodas and any form of fried food.
So eating pretty clean and drinking water a plenty.

 

You did so well on knowing what's behind it, also be aware of your thoughts (this is tricky for everyone here, who always failed into fake thoughts turned into porn triggers). Never let your thoughts (dirty ones or fake good ones) control you. but kill or ingore them, and never test yourself. (never never never test your ability and tolerance). We are fighting together for life long, addictions are not easy enemies. Human fights with lust and addctions since they were created. oh, My friend, You must be really careful about your present life. Sorry for not able to include everything here, but life is not easy!

 

Great post. We live in a day and age where people think that we all have 100% free will. The actual fact is that probably the vast majority of people rarely if ever exercise even the most basic level of free will. They simply follow along like a marching soldier listening to the commands barked at them by their subconscious drives. Due to how easily these drives are confused, they're pushing the majority of people in unhealthier and unhealthier directions: Junk food, drug addiction, porn addiction, playing those mindless Facebook games that just give you constant dopamine spikes every time you "level up" or "get more points".

I think when you start learning to go against your drives, and not do or consume things just because they feel good, you start to get a new perspective on what it really means to have free will. You start to realise how little control you may have been exerting over your life and circumstances in the past because you would always let your drives dictate your actions. At that point, that's when you can really start to take control of your life again.

Your subconscious is like a general, and your thoughts that crop up, are like the soldiers ranking beneath that general. They just believe whatever the subconscious tells them. Now when you hear those thoughts, or urges, or drives, you have a choice: Either fall in line, become another grunt, a slave to your own mind's impulses, or wisen up and go your own way. It also gives you a hint on another way that you can deal with these urges and thoughts - and that is to target the person they take orders from: Your subconscious mind.

In order to beat an addiction or bad habit, you cannot just exterminate it at a surface level, you have to change your entire belief system and core values internally. Speaking as someone who used to be addicted to drugs. If you want to quit drugs for example, it is not sufficient simply to hold off doing drugs, and forever remain in recovery. This is how relapses happen. Instead you must internally evolve to a point where you simply have distaste for them, where you have no desire for them. Then staying clean is as easy for the new you as staying high was for the old you. Anything that's part of your core values and belief systems, affects your urges and drives. You must recreate yourself as a new person in which those negative drives play no role.

 

The greater achievement in life so far to me is persuasion... everytime someone comes to my side is a victory, and it's so simply.
Already convinced someone that he's positive, hate's porn, loves everyone and is the most determinated person in the world... with self-affirmation.

Reading is the best hobbie.

 

This is how you control your thoughts, they are not from your heart, they are from your nerve!!!
Watch this video (this is why you should never touch any sexual stuff)and you should know once you touch porn or any sexual stuff/their substitutes. It would definilty affect you:

Yesterday, I watched a video about working hard in gymnastics (nothing porn but still, they are girls). I didn't have wet dream for 2 month. But I had last night. So even little bit something like it would affect you. Same as your thoughts, once you let your thoughts pass free, lol, my 2 month work (60 days) are gone. Never take this addictions easy. I am super serious, and make notes everyday about other's experience and my experience.