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Suffering from Delayed Ejaculation and Premature Ejaculation

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by per ardua ad astra, Dec 9, 2018.

  1. per ardua ad astra

    per ardua ad astra New Fapstronaut

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    Hey Guys,

    Just wondering if anybody else can relate to this. Has anybody suffered both from delayed ejaculation (DE) initially and then premature ejaculation (PE) later?

    I've had DE for ages. I'm a 27 year old male. I lost my virginity at the age of 23. Before then I used to masturbate to porn on a daily basis since about the age of 13. Sometimes more than once a day. I had the death grip.

    All of a sudden, when I found myself having sex with a girl, I felt virtually nothing. And it did nothing for me. I was so accustomed to porn. I couldn't ejaculate through vaginal intercourse. As for blow jobs, they literally felt boring.

    Anyway, I learnt about nofap, luckily. And I considered the possibility that I needed some serious reconditioning. I don't think I managed a full 90 days of no PME (at least not initially). But I did cut back a lot. Then I was having sex with a girl and I came in a her (while wearing a condom). Still, it wasn't as glorious as I imagined sex to be. But it was progress.

    The last time I had proper sexual intercourse, I didn't come. But I was nervous as hell. So I think that's why. That was over a year ago.

    Anyway, lately I've been masturbating a bit to porn :(. What scares me is that when masturbating to porn now, I find that I come very fast indeed without control.

    I know this is not the same thing as proper sexual intercourse. So maybe I can't call this proper PE. Still, can anybody relate to this?

    I appreciate any feedback.

    PS - mods, sorry for posting this is another section initially. I've only now found the Porn Induced Sexual Dysfunctions section of the site.
     
  2. From what it sounds like, your ED came from PMO and you got past that part of it and resensitized. Nervousness with a real person and anxiety over it can be what is making it difficult now.
    As far as the PE, if you went back to trying your hand, the increased sensitivity down there is likely what is causing you to go off so quickly.
     
  3. Limitbreaker

    Limitbreaker Fapstronaut

    Relax man. Im suffering under PE too and the longer i stay in my 90 day commitment the greater it feels. I even feel the changing ( sometimes painful). The main Cause for PE is normally to much stress. Same for DE. So relax and accept it the way it is. Do something which relaxes you, maybe hear music, meet some guy friends. Dont run away from the pain and fear. Accept it and relax. The more you let go, the more calm you will be.

    Its only temporarily. Its not meant to be forever in that way.
     
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