28 y.o. tommorow. I've been a masturbation lover since I was like 7. I discovered it randomly in a strange way without knowing what I was really doing. Was not a popular child in school. Had messed up attitude towards women having read a pickup book at 15 y.o. It raised my confidence by devaluing the image of women. Really nasty shit. Real problems connected to porn started at ~20 y.o, the same time I gained access to unlimited internet and discovered I can use it to watch all kinds of porn more easily then ever before. Simultaneously, there started problems in my love life (friend zone with a wrong girl) and my education (the last years of colledge were really hard). I dipped into the porn and almost secluded life head deep, and to this day consider those times the worst and most desperate. My sense self-worth plummeted and I sought some exit from it in seeking a relationship with a handful of girls. Eventually, I found a girl with equally low self-esteem and started to date with her. She attracted me very much physically, but our conversations was never really deep. Initially, it helped me out of my miserable cycle. Long story short, there were ups and downs, we dated ~6 years dropping in and out. A year ago, I realized that some problems could not be resolved and some things poisoning our relationship can not be fixed. We broke up for good 6 months ago, and I was greatly relieved by that! So, to my current situation. Recently, I started thinking about my financial situation. I investigated all the ways to manage and invest money, and I calculated that the best way for me now is to get into mortgage. I finally got into it, like, a month ago. Since then I started to lead a new, cheap-bastard, style of life. I cut my spendings on all fronts. I could soon write a book on little tips on how to be as cheap as possible. Of course, I find reasonable trade offs, so I don't take a public transport ride ticketless. For example, I started to always bring a bottle of water with me not to spend money on it when I want to drink. Going further, on the end of each workday, I always fill a bottle from the workplace cooler to get a liter of water for free. The good thing in it is, I started to regularly plan what I will be spending my scarce money on. With that mode of thinking, I eventually started to look at other places I might "save" on. Recently, I've been constantly tired not of anything particularly, but in general. I figured that I can save a little bit of energy not habitually fapping every night before sleep. I've managed to hold on for 3 weeks already, and still going. I wanted to share the good mode of thinking that helped me achieve this so far. In one of his videos, Adam Neely (a great musician), answering someone's question, said: "If you give up practicing [almost impossible piece] now, your brain will remember that decision and it will affect your approach to such situations in the future, forcing you to give up again. Instead, if you persist, your brain will remember that instead, making you grittier and an overall better person." I applied that gem of knowledge successfully to give myself a motivation to not relapse so far. 'Till later!