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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Whatisthisnamething, May 12, 2019.

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  1. Whatisthisnamething

    Whatisthisnamething New Fapstronaut

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    So, hi?
    I'm not good at doing posts like this at all, but lets see how I go eh?

    I'm 25, from Aust, and I'm clearly here to try to reboot.
    I've recently gotten back into a relationship after being single for almost 5 years, In that time I've been with a few girls. Although I've always thought I was broken when it came to sexual things all due to the fact I could never orgasm to anyone but myself. I've frustrated many females because of this fact, and thus thought I was broken in some way.
    My current partner, who I pre-warned about this issue, has been great support to me, and as such, I decided to look into my problem which lead me here. Thinking that my inability to orgasm during any kind of sexual act from someone else is due to either watching porn, the way I've masturbated in the past, or possibly both. I've decided to abstain from watching porn (which now after a week, seems way outrageous) as well as not masturbating.
    I figured I'd still do stuff with my partner, which isn't all too often currently we're in a long distance relationship, so it works out well.
    The only thing in that, does photo's of my girl count as porn? I wouldn't have thought so, presumed it might be more training my brain to only have those reaction from her, which isn't really a bad thing. But please tell me if I'm seeing this wrongly.
    We still have what is essentially one sided phone sex, with me sitting there, frustrated, but knowing what I'm doing is for the right reasons as hopefully when we do see each other again, it'll at the very least feel better, and at the best I'll be able to orgasm from here, may it be during sex or other sexual means.

    I'm not really sure what else to put here, but yeah.
    Just a 25yr old, who's over not being able to orgasm from sex or sexual actions from anyone but myself.

    Even after a week, it'ss difficult, and I've thought about it. And I have another 28 days till I see my girl again, so here's to me.

    Thanks for reading.
    Please leave any advice, or anything for me. =D

    Peace out.
     
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  2. bfdet

    bfdet Fapstronaut

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    Hi @Whatisthisnamething

    If you haven't done so already, consider reading the "getting started guide" available on this site's (noFAP) home page. It includes lots of helpful information about rebooting modes and what others have found works and doesn't work so well.

    You may also want to read some of the posts in the forums "loneliness" that includes posts from folks in long distance relationships, and "rebooting in relationships" for thoughts from folks that are working on reboots while in relationships.

    Stay well.

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     


  3. HELLO THERE,

    I am 21 German. I have a long distance relationship as well. Try to beat 500km ;) We both live in german. With my first girlfriend which was as well 5 years ago... and with her there were 2 big problems. First of all I didn't truly loved her and second of all I watched porn too much. The sex was unsatisfying for both of us sometimes. But to be honest she was fucking crazy. Right now I have a long distance relationship like I said. First of all respect that you are on day 8. Second of all. I wouldn't count your girlfriends pics as porn but don't masturbate to it ;) trust me it's worth it. I didn't have a orgasm problem but trust me you will make progress through nofap even if its just a step its a solid step
     
  4. Whatisthisnamething

    Whatisthisnamething New Fapstronaut

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    @bfdet Thanks for that, I'll be sure to have a suss. Already found a bunch of useful things to read here.

    @DekuHope Only 500KM? My girl lives about 1,600km away, which is a 23hr straight drive, most of which at 110km/h, or a 2.5 hr plane ride. So it's difficult, if she was 500km away, I'd be pretty happy, easy drive for me here in Aust.
    But yeah, I've dropped porn, seems much more unrealistic now that I look back, wouldn't have helped at all. The sex I'm getting from my missus when I see her, is amazing. Just not enough to make me orgasm, which I'm chalking down to both porn and how I've masturbated in the past, which is what I'm looking to change.
    And yeah, I know it's worth it. The pictures do tempt me, but I remember why I'm doing this, and why I can't do anything about it but wait in frustration. It's more tricky listening to her, but again, I remember why I'm doing this.
    I've no problem with getting hard and well, staying like that for hours if need be. Just, hours with no orgasm gets not fun, and a bit painful. It's a bit down putting when she's orgasmed a few times, and there I am, frustrated. She's been great support for me in it, but it gets to me.
     
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