Some basic doubts

Hi I'm the partner of a man with PIED and the way I suggest you find out is to do a reboot like the men on here have and cut out all porn and masturbation. It it works and you are able to perform on a regular basis then there is your answer. Until then you can't be sure but I suspect based on your description that is the problem and you may not want it to be the problem since you don't want to admit you need to give it up. It won't happen overnight but I'm willing to bet this will fix your problem. Masturbation is a dress rehearsal for sex. Your goal ultimately is sex with a person. You are young stop now whike it's easier. And yes many men can PMO and have no issues in bed but many men can't. Don't buy the bill of goods that the industry has sold you. It's not normal not every guy does it. Good luck! I can see you are motivated to fix this and that shows a lot. You have taken the first step.

 

GG2002, are you gay too? I may in fact have PIED as well. I need help...

 

There's a little test I learned about from yourbrainonporn.com that can lead you in the right direction. I'm assuming you can achieve an erection while watching porn. So that's the first part of the test. The next part of the test is to try to achieve an erection on your own without any outside stimulus, so basically try to manually stimulate yourself without porn or even fantasizing about anything like that. Yes, NO FANTASY. If you can achieve an erection with porn and you can't achieve one by yourself, you likely have a porn problem.

There are issues like low testosterone and things like that which contribute to erectile dysfunction, but you said it yourself that you have no problem getting erections with porn. Furthermore, the fact that ED has risen sharply among men under 40 in correlation with the onset of high speed internet porn is very telling. So I would at least try a normal reboot, which means no porn or masturbation for the foreseeable future. This should be a little easier since you have a partner and if you have any urges, you can focus on her. But you should see results AS LONG AS you stay with the rebooting process.

I was 23 when I was in your situation, and I sure wish I had known what I know now. Once I got more comfortable with my partner and had more sex, I watched less porn and subsequently, my performance increased. But eventually I went back to porn and it undid all of the progress I had made. You're young and you can catch this before it becomes a huge problem in your life.

 

It really isn't wise to watch anything that has the intention of arousing people. These are triggers that usually pull people back to porn. I know it sounds crazy at first, but not watching anything that you find attractive is the best way to heal yourself.

 

What is situation with partner? Can my partner touching me? I sometimes have erection when we are holding hands together.

 

Thanks mate for advice. The situation is better, my erections are harder and longer, so doing it with partner is very helpful.