Some articles that help to put a spotlight on the PUA #$*((@&$*&(.

http://lightwayofthinking.com/top-5-lies-pick-up-artist-mens-dating-advice-communities/

http://mic.com/articles/103916/the-9-biggest-lies-pickup-artists-spread-about-dating-women

https://beyondpickup.wordpress.com

http://www.thefrisky.com/2012-10-08/true-story-i-dated-an-ex-pickup-artist/

http://www.aaronsleazy.com/files/Aaron.Sleazy.Debunking.The.Seduction.Community.pdf


I am sad to say that I followed this community for a while. It started out innocently enough, I was shy and had low self-esteem and wanted to meet a girl SO MUCH. So I googled how to meet girls and how to kiss girls and stuff. I didn't know where else to turn to. I was too ashamed to ask my dad or other guys. So I turned to the internet because I thought people there would be honest and trustworthy like I was. Boy, I can't believe it took me so long to uncover the truth that they were only out for profit from me and would sell anything.

I don't believe all of them had bad intentions, but I think most of them were out mostly for the $$$ and the ones who were genuine did more harm than good unfortunately.... I still don't know which was which to this day. All I know is that even though I had terrible self-esteem issues that I should have talked to a professional therapist about, they were made even WORSE by indulging myself in this world. That, along with PMO was like throwing more wood on the fire. PMO and learning pickup on top of a low self-esteem person is horrible and took most of a decade to actually get over.... (am I over it completely? I don't know sometimes).

I had good intentions, I thought I was doing good things. I won't blame my motivations. I tried hard. Really hard. I just didn't know what I didn't know. I was tricked by the PUA guys/girls and soothed into a false comfort by PMO. They both made each other worse. You know, like the fat guy who has a Diet Coke and a Lean Cuisine because he thinks all the Low Calorie stuff is the solution..... He was tricked too.

So when you're getting back out there take this advice from someone who has had SO MUCH HORRIBLE ADVICE and EXPERIENCES and embarrassing moments and done/said some really STUPID things.


1) figure out who you are and be that person. I tried to be cool and to do/say all the cool things. It works 1/1000 times. When I figured out that I liked Star Wars, Science Fiction, politics, yoga, was a Liberal person, liked to travel, didn't care about having a lot of $$, got bored with people who talked about shopping, hated studied people on TV, liked hanging out with foreigners......... I got a lot more positive responses in life. And if I didn't get good responses, I liked who I was. And I have to be around myself 24 hours a day EVERY DAY.

2) be that person and don't care about what other's think. This is not something that happens one day. It is a practice like playing the piano or learning a language. You have to DO it. You will have good days and bad days. The average of them will get better over time.

3) Hang around people who give you a positive reaction. Don't get caught up in 'beautiful' women. If you get caught up in beauty it WILL let you down. I've only dated one super beautiful woman in my life and it was amazing not because she was hot, but because we got along so well. I've dated others who I also really liked, but who were not so beautiful. But they ALL gave me a positive reaction to myself. I've talked to hundreds of beautiful women in my life and you get about the same ratio of women who will like you.... about 10% no matter if they're 10's or 2's. Actually the ones in the middle are a little better because they have developed their personality because they don't have the "perfect" looks and are more forgiving of your flaws. Also, they're more interesting in general. Beautiful women, in my experience, are so valued for their looks that they aren't forced to work on their personalities. Nothing against beautiful women.... they're not all like that of course... but it's just something I noticed. Maybe I'm jaded though.

4) Just get out there and make your life better. Reflect on yourself and your life and then get out there and do something you like. If you don't know what you like, like I did for so long in life, then go out and have new experiences until you find it. Don't let the fear of being weird stop you.... you may get some looks and lose some acquaintances but they were not worth it to begin with.