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sinking deeper and deeper

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by RedPanduh, Mar 12, 2014.

  1. RedPanduh

    RedPanduh New Fapstronaut

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    Alright guys story time!

    So I'm a 21 year old college student and I've been fighting the fight since I was 12. Over the years I've learned that I'm most week when I need to escape form other stresses in life and recently I'm starting to think I've been turning to porn as a substitute for a real relationship. I use to rely on my Christian faith to push me foreword but recently I've been questioning it and now I'm just not really sure how to get over this addiction. I've also been dramatically getting worse. I pretty much only use sites that let me pay girls to be 1on1 with them which is easily 20-40 dollars spent a day and the bank account I've been working hard to save up to move out is disappearing quicker then I can pump money back into it. I feel like my addiction is purely turning into a conscious act of self destruction but I'm here today because I don't want to go down that road again. I'm not really sure how I'm going to avoid doing that but I thought that this post might be a good start. I'm open to ideas and advice but I also just appreciate any readers who took the time to read my post thanks!
     
  2. Have you made an accountability partner yet? There is a thread going on here where Skype Group exists for Accountability. Try joining one of them.

    You are just 21, so there is still plenty of time for you to come out of this. Don't lose hope. And yes, try getting into a real relationship as that's what guys your age should be doing. I don't see anything wrong in it at all, and I am a Christian as well.
     
  3. Rafa

    Rafa Fapstronaut

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    Hi RedPanduh, im 25 years old and i can tell you that before i start my journey here in NoFap i was fighting P and M but i could never stay away for more than a week without PMO, im a christian too and always felt guilty and disgusting after everytime i would PMO, i have faith that God is really helping me and He sees our struggle. Before starting my journey i wouldn't EVER consider being possible to stay away from both as i am now for almost 40 days, hard mode here. I feel SOOOO much better and i feel more confident and happy with who i am right now and i don't wanna go back to were i was, in the beggining you will have strong urges to PMO and probably mood problems but it will be easier to handle it after some weeks. If you really feel like you're going to relapse read some forum posts, it really helped me too.

    God bless and sorry for any english mistakes.
     
  4. LustFREE

    LustFREE Fapstronaut

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    Get comfortable with an accoutability partner AND make sure to review the YBOP video:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Ya67...ature=youtu.be

    You're young enough to catch this now BUT need to realize the nature of this disease will continue to push the boundaries and not only will the obsession get worse but the habits, forms and methods.. Be persistant and as a Christian, be PRAYERFUL.
     
  5. Freezingcold

    Freezingcold Fapstronaut

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    Believe in yourself! you can do this. Prepare for the next time the urge comes -> you can take cold showers as I do, you learn to handle stress, gets a better immune system and much more.

    If you have your own room you can make a rule for yourself to always have the door open, always. Other than that you might wanna consider to train at a gym or take walks outside!
     
  6. Pootis

    Pootis Fapstronaut

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    Accountability partners are helpful and encouraging, but this situation also calls for a blocker like K9 so you can stop yourself from going to those porn sites and save money buddy. Going to this forum regularly is a very good habit, so you can get info and support. Once you get acquainted with this website, making a journal to keep track of your progress is greatly benefiting.
     
  7. Freezingcold

    Freezingcold Fapstronaut

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    Yeah I agree with Pootis about k9 webbprotection and this site! try spending less time on the internet and more with family and friends as well :)
     

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