since then...

Sounds like another excuse. Follow your gut.

 

Unless his computer use is work related - which I gather it's not, as he doesn't work - I think his aim should be to limit the amount of time he spends online. He is not doing himself any favours, by staring at the screen that has caused so much harm already. I may be biased, as my husband's other addiction was silly games - together with PMO they basically removed him from the 3D reality completely. He has to start living the life - be part of the relationship and part of the society. If he can't work, maybe he could volunteer somewhere? Maybe you could adopt a puppy, so that he has to get out of the house? Sorry, but I just can't see what he would ever need a better browser for. If I were you, I would ask him to enlighten me and demonstrate the superiority of one browser over the other, and also how it helps him moving forward in his recovery.

 

And change the a settings.
You can do that.
Also... As the resident tech geek... Well, me and @SuperFan.. Please don't be Afraid to ask questions or for help here on site.
All of us are from different skills and have backgrounds that help us everyday.
Don't make a smarter criminal (addict brain)

 

The Google settings to say he' aa girl.
So whatever he searches Google will send him girl theme search results

 

There are a few issues here:

First, you two have to address every single avenue (that he owns and operates) that gives him access to porn. Does he use his phone to look at porn? If so, is it an iPhone or an Android (or something else)? Does he use a tablet? Is it his laptop? Desktop? Using filters may work differently for each of these devices. Personally, I have a set of protocols for my iPhone/iPad and a separate system for my laptop and desktop computers. It's a pain in the ass sometimes, but he needs technology to be his friend right now, and not his enemy.

Also, at some point he needs an accountability partner to handle this stuff--not you. You're in a stage in your relationship right now where you're basically 'the police', supervising his internet activity. No woman wants to be in that role. For me, I have a friend in my SAA program who set the passcodes on my iPhone and iPad. I can't change my settings without him physically being there to punch in the code.

Hulu and Netflix aren't hobbies. At least, they aren't the kinds of hobbies that will help him get some traction. Just about anything he can do that doesn't involve sitting and staring at a screen will be helpful.

And I suggest that almost nothing will help his recovery more right now than finding a job.

 

Yes... And we have rules that we screen all of our movies/TV shows too. If it's higher than PG my SO asks me to Google it via kids in mind or common sense or imbd parents guide. If its no good or on our Star List, we don't watch it.
These are things that the addict has to want tho... @starrieeyes
He has to continuously take these steps

 

Well it helps.
Because when it changes back, you know he's been up to something.
Google is smart.
You have to be smarter than the person using it.
Also, love it... Love the GIF.
Now I have that song in my head... (-, -)
Thanks @SuperFan

 

^^^ but I literally don't know what you're saying here.

Settings in Google Chrome will be meaningless, because he can just use another browser. Filtering needs to happen at the root level, so no matter what browser he uses, the filters work.

Apple's iOS (for the iPhone and iPad) works amazingly in this way. My internet on those devices is filtered no matter what browser I use, even if I use a browser embedded within an app. And with Covenant Eyes, internet is filtered on my desktop/laptop no matter what browser I use.

 

Oh I'm not saying it doesn't... And you should definitely have a blocker or reporter device, however if you use Google, changing the Ad settings is useful because then past searches stop "thinking" to send ads to your device as a male minded influence.
And if you have a Gmail phone, it doesn't matter if your using a Google app or Mozilla or internet explorer browser or hell, even Penguin (Spanish internet) the ads coming across your device will be Google sent.
Which is how you will still see those random "strip poker app ads", for example

 

So unless you have a windows phone, it's a good idea to change or check the settings @SuperFan... That's all I'm saying

 

Is doesn't sound like he is willing to change, though, so all these measures can be put in place and he's just going to go around them.

 

And for anyoneelse who reads this, whether you have a iPhone or Android.. This is important.
Android is a Google device, yes, but to run all the Google apps like YouTube, iPhone holds contracts with Google, one of which is ads.
You still see ads on your YouTube videos, you arent excused from this... These come from Google..
Also, Amazon, Walmart, Twitter...
All Google affiliated.
Just to name a few... If you read this from a iPhone and you have those apps as well as ads,

Edit.... This didn't post so I just clicked it. My bad

 

Yes, you can't help someone who doesn't want the help. True

 

To be fair, the OP said he asked her to 1) set his restrictions on his phone, and 2) help him delete his Twitter. At the very least, he's asking for help, which is a step in the right direction.

I'm not going to make excuses for the guy, but as someone who has struggled with PMO addiction combined with depression and unemployment, I can say with a lot of credibility that it can take a bulldozer's worth of effort to get the recovery train moving. I would encourage the OP to be supportive of every step he takes to get better, without trying to take responsibility for his recovery herself.

 

And also true.
We are here for you OP!
Let us know if we can be of more assistance

 

Yes. This is very important. It can be so hard to do (or not do), especially in the beginning.

 

I'm PMing you. I can help you out with some controls and tech stuff with Firefox.