Shyness, sexual inexperience and virginity

Building confidence is like Building a house. You do it one brick at a time. So I'd suggest you start by laying a brick a day.

Don't think about sex and how you would be with a woman. Just say hi to one and smile. Believe it or not this is a step. Get to where you can do that without getting that knot of anxiety in your chest or throat. If you can do that now, start a little idle chat. About weather, music, food.

Font think of them as potintial mates, you can even do this with unavailable women. This is more about seeing the person than an object of sexual desire.

 

Hey there mate! Same issues here!
You said that you're not addicted to porn that's already good, you have a base to build on your future progress! I was a porn addict for 12 years and now I finally stopped and starting to handle myself!
About the girls, I've already maed a great progress furing my battle with addiction - I feel better in every way, I feel more confident and joyful and people like to be around me. I've become more social!
Dating girls and help my "virginity issues" wasn't my primary goal when I started the nofap journey, but I already see how I'm becoming more acceptable to girls - I believe it's because I'm getting free from addiction and allowing my true self take it's righteous place!

 

Hello.
I too missed out on "normal" teenage and early-adulthood socialization, so I know how you feel. I'm 31 and only discovered confidence about a week ago when I registered here and I began exercising. I've found that it's done wonders as far as building confidence is concerned. I'm actually looking people in the eye when they speak to me for the first time in my life.

 

Hello there, I am on the same level, I just started out. Talking to women and flirting with them can be instinctual but only if you have been socialising your whole life. This means it is a skill you'll have to learn.

But first understand, this is all about momentum, you won't get in a social state magically, you'll have to go out regularly and warm up each time. Also you'll need to see the fun in it because you can't give a girl an emotion you are not having. Number one rule of the game is "what you feel, they feel".

At first it will feel miserable exposing yourself, getting rejected, but then will come satisfaction and with it more results. That doesn't mean you won't need to push yourself.

Only in enjoyment and appreciation of the process will you be able to feed off of it psychologically and keep moving forward. You have to turn the tables somehow in your mind, see the ridiculousness of it or the vanity or the fun. In that, philosophy and/or spirituality will help. Witnessing the infinite in everything, losing sense of self, etc.

Though don't get too caught up, the most transformative process is still going out and talking to random women. You just have to start looking at things differently first.

These concepts and many more advanced ones are provided by RSD (real social dynamics). You might know them, but if not, I recommend you search them on youtube.