Should I tell my girlfriend?

Great work man.
I recently told my girlfriend as well. Its a hard conversation. She had a lot of questions that were hard to answer. IBut i think making yourself vulnerable infront of your partner is much better than having them find out the hard way while you live in denial.
In my case i was ignoring a very hot girlfriend that was going out of her way to try and get me sexually interested. She deserves better.

 

I haven't read all the comments but I'm sure they all say something similar to what I'm about to say.

Yes, tell your girlfriend! One thing I have always said to my boyfriend is to please be transparent and honest with me. I know he's going to make mistakes, I just need to know about them. It's very important if you want to build trust and trust is super important.

 

I think that such issues are better to solve yourself

 

This is poor advice. Isolation feeds shame and addiction.

 

Keep pushing for what you know is right. You are definitely on the right track.

 

I feel you need to tell her. If she find out later she will be pissed
Make sure she knows this is not for her to fix but between you and a supporter and of you go to sa or saa meeting a sponsor

 

makes me wonder if I should tell my girlfriend too

 

Good morning/afternoon/evening. I came across your thread last night after searching for a bit of inspiration. Little bit of background, yeah I have a girlfriend too. We have lived together for 2 years now, we do everything together, ski & snowboard, rafting trips, annual dancing shows, buy groceries. The whole shebang. Our sex life, like yours, is healthy. No PIED, good frequency, highly intimate. For this reason, I've become complacent and allowed for the dark, self destructive habits of my childhood to occupy space in my relationship behind her back. My justification for acting out PMO again, like you seems much easier when I am alone, have awkward amounts of time, or she leaves for a work trip. It's so upsetting to not be able to hold the self discipline when she's gone, I just want to feel comfortable when I'm alone. While I have had streaks of no PMO for upwards of a year, my complacency recently has gotten out of control, and I have been doing the PMO maybe once or twice per week. Reading your thread changed that. I had read everything before bed, and then stared at the ceiling for about 45 minutes. My heart was beating hard, and slowly but surely, I positioned myself closer to the light. I had never had this kind of discussion with my SO, and I wasn't sure how it would go. But it became more and more clear that if I did something last night, I would be able to wake up this morning, have the support of the most important person in my life, write this comment on your thread, and feel like there is a real chance at a new start.

So in a contradictory moment, the light turned on, I woke up my girlfriend, and told her of my hushed habit that has been causing me, and therefore us, pain. I thought that by waking her up to tell her, she would understand that this is seriously haunting me. I was so nervous that my whole body was shaking, but got out what I needed to.

Her reaction was amazing. She invited me into bed, to calm down the shaking, and asked some questions. "How often do you do this", "why do you feel so guilty about it?". I also found that her attitude towards PMO is much more lenient than mine. She wasn't upset at all. She didn't feel betrayed. She was just upset that it was causing me so much pain. I was doing this because I felt like I was stabbing her in the back, but now that I know that she doesn't see it that way, my motivation for moving forward is to do this for me. I know for sure that I will forever feel guilty if I look at porn, there's just no getting around it. I have rebooted once, and it truly was the best I have ever felt about myself. Day one, yeehaw! Tijn, thank you for helping me turn the tables. Please update us on your streak and how it's going, by the way you're an excellent writer.