Should i tell my future wife?

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  1. fools’end

    fools’end Fapstronaut

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    Quick question, do you guys think that if my future wife asks if i have ever paid for sex that i can keep that to myself or is that wrong?

    would appreciate some input.
     
  2. Freddiefox

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    Lies are a bad idea.
     
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  3. Qoti

    Qoti New Fapstronaut

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    Bad idea, honesty is the basis of a relationship. Better to be honest. And give her the choice, and that she chooses you, than to lie and at somepoint slip, and she discovers you are a liar and suddenly the entire relationship could be doubted. If you arent honest with people to give them the fteedom to choose, you are manipulating them.
     
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  4. CJ_UNDERDAWG23

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    I do not agree. Is she gonna tell you how many men she honestly smashed in college? etc
    Everyone has baggage coming into relationship now a days. It not like the old days were two virgins get married young and stay marry for years. Its your business, and it should stay your business.
    However, if your future wife is some amazing therapist with the ability to understand that life is not black and white. Than maybe it might be okay to say something, but in my experience with women she might use your past against you later down the line.
     
  5. Vendettana

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    There is actually a third option: you can tell her, that right now at the moment these are not issues you want to share. Some other time. "Say the truth or at least, don't lie"
     
  6. Randy

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    That sounds to me like the worst of both worlds. She would know that.he had been to prostitutes. She would lose her trust because he isn't willing to tell and she would be left imagining scenarios that could be worse than what really happened.
     
  7. Vendettana

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    I get your point, but it is what I would do I think. However the question itself is not a very good one. Because asking it suggests that something in his history or behaviour makes her think that he is on hookers.
     
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  8. Vendettana

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    I think you worry about something that isn't likely to happen. Why would she ask you that?
     
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  9. userSCP

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    This is the only advice that matters here. lock the thread, lol
     
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  10. hardowner

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    If I were you, I would reply "yes" if she asked me, but wouldn't give more details.
     
  11. Augustin

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    This sounds like a great way to think about your future wife which it isn't. If I would have those doubts, I wouldn't marry her in the first place.
     
  12. userSCP

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    You're opening pandoras box man
     
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  13. hardowner

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    Hahahahaha!!! :D That was a good one... You're right. Maybe she would ask all the escorts in the vicinity for details and they would ask money and give her fake info...
     
  14. fapequalsdeath

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    yes tell her, it matters, that's why you asked the question, if it did not matter you would not even think about it, but your gut tells you so.
     
  15. Breadman

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    I thought I kept my secret ( i was bisexuality attracted) for years. When I told her she said she knew 30 years ago. What was important was did I love her, was I faithful and did I want to stay married. That was the last time it came up and I felt a load off my conscience.
     

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