Should i give in to porn?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by SoccerDad, Apr 19, 2019.

  1. SoccerDad

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    So recently my school had an assembly about the dangers if pornography and i agreed with pretty much everything it was teaching us. But later that day a lot of my friends were saying how much they watch porn and that they don’t feel bad about it at all. They all love PMO. What should i do. Are they right?
    I’m contemplating my life right now
     
  2. BravelyKegger

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    If your friends were drinking poison would you?, don't be a puppet man, think for yourself, this is your life, the gate is wide that leads to destruction and many travel down it, the gate of life is narrow and few find it, don't follow the masses to destruction friend. Trust your instincts.
     
  3. SoccerDad

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    I know i’m supposed to think fir myself and i do most of the time. But i just don’t understand how they can feel good after consuming such gross content. I never feel good after that stuff, so sometimes i wonder if i feel bad after relapse because im forcing myself to feel guilty.
     
  4. BravelyKegger

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    There eyes have not been opened, its like when people joke about how unhealthy they eat, they are not into personal development nor do they care, the fact you feel this way is good, dedicate your life to personal development!.
     
  5. letter

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    If everyone says it’s cool, it’s cool...right? Wrong.

    It’s just an affect of psychology. If everyone is doing the same thing and everyone says they like it then they don’t have to feel as bad. It’s comfort in mass acceptance.

    Don’t drink the kool-aid.
     
  6. ShyIIock

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    There was a test on kids and sweets. The test is really simple, kid can get 1 candy immediately or wait for some time and get 2 candies. Those kids who choose to wait and get better reward after, will have better life with this decision making pattern.
    Just because most people tend to get reward now and with as least effort as possible, doesnt mean its right decision.
     
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  7. IR254

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    To answer the question in the title: No.
     
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  8. mcp8419

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    I was 18 years old when I started PMO. Now I'm 34.

    I have been trying to quit since last year and keep failing.

    Looking back, my life hasn't changed.

    Don't piss your life away at such a young age.
     
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  9. Abetterbrain

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    Personally. When I was a kid fapping didn’t seem to have any negative effect. It’s only now in my late 20s early 30s I can honestly feel a difference in my personality and mental health after fapping.

    I guess it’s the accumulative effect over time. And numbing of the dopamine receptors.
     
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  10. ChangeSince95

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    Who cares about what your friends think?
    It's your life not theirs, do what is good for you.
    I wouldn't recommend you to give in to the peer pressure but that's just me
     
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  11. TheBahamas

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    Dont do it. You will regret the wasted time and energy invested into porn
     
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  12. Magic Mikee

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    Its all relative to the person. WHats true for one person is false for the next person. You have a different brain than the person to your right and they have a diffreent brain than the person to there right. You must find whats toxic for you and eliminate it. It seems pmo is one of those thing or you would not have been drawn to this forum.
     
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  13. Magic Mikee

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    For example i know guys who pmo everyday and they still are getting there dick rock hard for girls every day of the week. For me i cant get my dick hard if a victoria secret model was grinding my cock and thats because we are diffrent people.
     
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  14. Eleanor

    Eleanor Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    Boy, Coca cola makes me indigest, it's been up to 10 years since I drank it by last time. All my friends like coca cola, and find it helpful to survive late night study sessions, but I don't. I'm different. You're different and it's ok. Your genetics, your context, the way your parents raised you, your beliefs. If it's not good for you then don't do it. It's ok to doubt and reconsider things, but look for the answers to this type of questions inside of yourself, not in the outside. Only you know how you feel and what's going on in your life. Listen to yourself before anyone else.
     
  15. JustALonelyBoy

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    Hey man I understand it’s hard watching your friends do that to themselves with seemingly no consequences. The thing is, how do you know that they love pmo so much. Because they tell you? How do you know it’s not tearing them up inside too. If they want to continue pmoing, good for them. You do what you think is best for you and your body. Not what you think they want you to do.
     
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  16. TheLongTrudgeHome

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    Maybe pare it back a little. Instead of focusing on the conclusions of your friends (ie “porn is fine and even a pleasant part of life” or similar), focus on how they got to their conclusions.

    What are they basing their conclusions on? When you turn to your resource bank of knowledge gained by bitter struggle, do you find it reasonable that porn is going to have a positive effect, or at least offer no negative effect?

    I, for one, don’t think it’s reasonable. Porn proliferates sexual fantasy so far divorced from reality that nothing else can compete - not even any of the amazing people you connect with in real life who appreciate you.

    People say a lot of things. But a lot of the time people are way more ignorant than we realise and way more confident than they should be.
     
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  17. john1780

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    Dont give in be strong you can beat this
     
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  18. SoccerDad

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    Thanks man you probably just saved me from relapse.
     
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  19. SoccerDad

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    Thanks man. you’re right i do need to think for myself a lot more. I kinda have self confidence issues and i find comfort in going witht tye crowd. But i really do need to stop doubting myself. Thanks
     
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  20. SoccerDad

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    You’re right fapping doesn’t make me feel as bad as watching porn but when i fap it can sometimes ruin my day.
     
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