Should I call a escort if I cant get a girlfriend?

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Ghost79, Apr 16, 2019.

  1. Ghost79

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    Meeting girls in those places you mentioned is even harder then the streets. Women are there to eat and they usually sit with friends. You obviously don't have experience with day gaming like me. And that takes alot balls to do.
     
  2. unhappy guy

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    Yh I really understands you , even though am inexperienced but what I started that seems to go well is what am telling you if u could read all what I wrote previously u will obviously see it try it and it will eventually work . I had one girl who happened to be so match interested in me but I didn't like her and met her in cafe. But I recommend you to use QUORA DIGEST. check it from praystore people speack from experience and u can ask and search for any question at all on it and u will like it and I don't even think u will like any application and browsing the net like that app.
     
  3. unhappy guy

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    Yh I really understands you , even though am inexperienced but what I started that seems to go well is what am telling you if u could read all what I wrote previously u will obviously see it try it and it will eventually work . I had one girl who happened to be so match interested in me but I didn't like her and met her in cafe. But I recommend you to use QUORA DIGEST. check it from praystore people speack from experience and u can ask and search for any question at all on it and u will like it and I don't even think u will like any application and browsing the net like that app.
     
  4. Reborn16

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    I would recommend a good speed dating company. In your age group the women will be more inclined to a serious relationship, so you have much better chances of something genuine happening.

    If you prefer pick up, a book which has a very different take on that concept is 'models' by Mark Manson. I'm almost done reading it, and can tell you it's changed my outlook on relationships a lot.
     
  5. Ghost79

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    Yeah I thought about joining a speed dating group session too but that really scares me because unlike the streets, you don't decide who you wanna speak too. And women can act very bitchy when they don't find you attractive, so I expect alot of bruises in my self esteem.
     
  6. SteveUk

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    Coming from someone who is here more because he is stuck in a process of using escorts than anything

    NO dont do it. It is Not filling and mediocre at best (more often than not the sex isn’t great!)

    I wish I never started down that route, now I get bored, horny and my mind immediately goes to the website(s) they advertise on.

    Now hoping I can garner support here to kick the habit (I joined today)
     
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  7. Reborn16

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    That's interesting man, I'm pretty much the opposite. I find speed dating a walk in the park, but have a fear for pick up in the streets.

    I've been to about 5 speed dating events, 18+ dates each time, and only 1 mildly bad experience.

    Reality is, you won't be interested in the majority of women there! And of course, a few won't be interested in you.

    Sometimes you sit down and you both sort of nod and smile... And instinctively know it's not gonna be fireworks. So do you both sling insults?? No, you just have a casual chat, even talk about others you've both met so far that night.

    Take my word, you're over thinking it. Probably like I'm overthinking saying hi to a girl on the street haha.
     
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  8. Ghost79

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    Yes absolutely. Just walk over to a woman who is for example shopping or even working. Say hi and what your name is and that you would like to go on a date with her sometime. This may seem very direct but alot women find this weird and attractive at the same time!
    But most women will just say thanks but not thanks. You got to get many no's until you get a yes.
     
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    Nice, sounds like simple and direct approaching is best.

    The few times I have done it there was a lot of chatting on my part and I could sense the girl knew I was interested but was waiting for the 'right time' to ask. Probably came across as lacking confidence though lol. No doubt I will make this change next time I give it a shot!
     
  10. Ghost79

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    Good luck with that and remember try to enjoy without expectations.
    I will enlist in a speed dating class soon, but far away from my city so I don't have to hide myself at home if things go too much south for me there lol!
     
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  11. SirErnest

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    No. Just work on your life don't let things like that worry you.
     
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  12. need4realchg

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    I don't know if "meeting in the streets" is a hooker, or if he means like outside of work?

    Well, I would also say, he doesn't seem to understand the challenge you face as a gamer.
    Dude, honestly, you need someone like me, or the equivalent in your country. Here we call them a "wingman". Its a friend who can refer you, or who is so bold or bad ass you guys and go out and meet girls together, or he "takes one for the team" and introduces you. Of course even better is a wingwoman. I have a female cousin who is recently divorced and she wanted me to be her wingman, and I was great at it and we just laughed for ages.

    As far as going up to ppl at the mall, meh, I think that works in high school or early college years, but usually you are interrupting something or someone. If they are the cute makeup-kiosk girl, then they want to sell and you are hitting on them, you are in control, but it's not that fair.

    If you do the speed dating, let me know how it goes, I've never tried that, only watched on game shows, and to me, the tallest, strongest looking guy wins. Maybe it's just my impression. But let's be manly about this for a second: Girls hang out in pairs or threesomes, right?

    Guys who are alone are "creepy" to girls in pairs... many times. You can't separate a girl from her friend at the club, the bar, etc. So another reason why you should have a buddy system. and group dating would be good too. I don't know where you live, but I think getting into some group activity would be best. If you like the girl to be fit, you can go to the gym and after a few visits just casually mention to the girl that catches your eye, that she has inspired you... see what happens, take it slow. You can do it buddy!
     
  13. mcp8419

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    You can pay for sex but it won't get you anywhere in the long term.

    You'll just be trapped in another cycle or addiction.
     
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    Let's use a little more common sense and logic. Do you want a relationship or meaningful connection, or do you want sex? I want both but sometimes I think I'll just pay for an escort once and that will make me more comfortable w women.

    But I don't believe for this to be the case. When (if you haven't already) found a girl that WANTS to have sex w you, instead of you paying her for it, it's amazing.

    I suggest before hitting an escort, take a look at your tactics for searching for women. You mentioned hooking on dating sites. Depending on if it's more like tinder or eharmony, fix up your profile.

    But I say screw all that. If anything establish real life connections. Have regular convos with women that make you extremely nervous. Start small
     
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  16. Abetterbrain

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    It really annoys me when people’s advice is based purely on religion and not on just being a good human being. What about if he, or she is a Muslim? Or atheist? I feel it is a very American thing to do.

    My answer is no. Do not sleep with a prostitute. Forget what other people are saying about how you should live your romantic life (unless of course you are a Christian). If you are feeling sad due to lack of love in your life, which you clearly are because you are posting here on this site, then you need to experience it.

    You need to ask yourself what is it you want? Love? Sex? A life partner? All of the above? And then ask yourself why you don’t have it? You may need to develop your personality in order for you to be able to interact with women, it’s doable. Fuck all that day game bullshit, you need to connect with a woman and not with some fake macho crap decent women aren’t into that. Be you, be comfortable being you. Go and meet a like minded person who enjoys the things you like and love her. Make love to her as nature (not god) intended you to.

    Good luck x
     
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  17. graham55

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    Nah man been there done that, as desperate as you are when you are virign you have power. Give a genuine girl that gift of sharing your first time with her. Don't pay some prozzy to drain you of something so valuable as your first time.
    You have to decide whether you live with the regret you're whole life or you accept your situation for what it is, and get better, improve yourself and find a girl that's right for you.

    It's not easy, but it's possible and much more fullfilling than sex with a prozzy. If you don't have any life threatening disabilities you have no excuse as to why you can't find an attractive girlfriend that set your world on fire and you set hers. Everyone can work on themselves to find that, i'm a living testament.

    Situations like this either go 1 of 2 ways, simply: you get better, or you get bitter. You choose
     
  18. Peter808

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    And what I could add is instead work on your confidence. It seems clear to me that you are scared of being rejected. Women will say NO to you. But out of 10 that will say NO, you will find THE one. You got to believe in yourself. You got to be yourself. Work on yourself, develop your passions. What are they? Art, sports? Women will be attracted to confident men!

    So not only you should not pay for meaningless sex, but you should work on giving yourself the possibility to say no! At some point a girl will show some interest in you and it might not be the one!

    If you like to read, there's a book titled "reinventing your life" that helped me really much in the last 2 years. I am a bit like you where my confidence was not high and I would have said yes to anyone.
     
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  19. Origin32

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    As someone who has been seeing escorts for 4 years I don't recommend it.

    First, once you open Pandora's box there is a good chance of you never being able to close it again. Once you move past that fear and actually do it you'll always have that reference, which could proceed to you struggling to putting an end to this destructive behavior in the future.

    Secondly, you'll never feel fulfilled doing this. Every time you sleep with one of these women you constantly seek more. It is a never end void that can never be filled.

    You're going to suffer either way, but I'd recommend not seeing an escort.
     
  20. Chefb87

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    I've thought the exact thing you are. And for me , Ive realized that my problem goes way deeper than just escorts , or porn , or sex etc. There's a deep fear of being lonely , and trying to run away from these feelings in my body ( stress, anxiety, boredom , loneliness ) for me , I'm trying to help manage and fix the absolute root of the problem .
    So maybe I stead of wondering how you feel if you're desperately sexless , maybe look into why you feel such anxiety , and worry if you didn't have sex for a year ?
     
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