Sh*t, F, FFFFFFFFFFF !!

Imagine that dress is made of human skin and she made it herself.

 

Hahaha ha hahaha I almost died, Infra! Rofl.
Sorry, warrior, for off topic.

 

Temptation will continue to be everywhere. Since you work with this person I’d suggest talking to her.

“Hey (name) just so you know, you bent over and flashed me” don’t say nice view or anything, treat her like she’s your sister, and you’re just watching out for her modesty. Seems cheesy yeah but it could help you too. By doing that you’re not giving in to temptation- you’re doing the opposite.

 

The world just won't give us a break, a constant test.
It's good you came here to talk it out.

 

grab a snack. This might be long haha
I’d suggest asking her to sit down because you’ve got something important to say. I’m terrible at speaking my mind about this without a whackload of emotions getting in the way, so I choose to write everything down and have him read it. This helps us a lot- daily we write each other journals now about our feelings- then we discuss them like adults without angry emotions.
What I’m getting at is... you feel she’s not supporting you, but perhaps she has s different view.
My relationship for example; October was DDay- I found everything myself I wasn’t told. This caused me to constantly wonder what else he was hiding. It made me also believe that if I didn’t catch him he would have never quit. He was happy with the way things were going. He had a wonderful best friend at home but got sex from a computer. While i continued to ask him if he thought I was ugly. I’d cry to him because of our sexlife. I’d ask if he had a porn problem- nope. Always no. I had to find it out. It was very difficult to make the decision to support him at first because he let me cry, he let me believe it was my fault for so long. I was angry. His secret was more important than my wellbeing.
Then I had him watch videos and read about the damaging effects porn has on the brain. I made him do all of this. He didn’t look it up on his own.
He slipt. I found out. I asked. He lied right to my face until I showed him the proof.
Then he decided he was serious and he’s done with PM for good. He didn’t talk to me about triggers or struggles. Whenever I’d ask how his recovery was he would say “fine” or “this isn’t as hard as I thought” I knew this was a lie- I’ve read countless journals to know this couldn’t be as easy as he made it seem. He later became angry with me because I didn’t believe he was free. He showed little empathy for what he put me through, he wasn’t writing a journal, he wasn’t looking for help. He was just white knuckling it- then expecting me to be proud. He had the attitude “I’ve stopped watching porn why is she still so crazy” by crazy, I mean, I was having nightmares, flashbacks to DDay, imigas of him M to P, I would become sick to my stomach if a sex scene came on tv and he didn’t change the channel, I couldn’t trust him.
he realized I was slipping away. I couldn’t support him if he wasn’t going to get some real help- his addiction is killing ME- nobody is worth that. I gave it one last go. I told him that I need full disclosure if I am going to trust him. Everything I know about is becsuse I’ve found it- he never admitted anything from free will. I’m still waiting on the full disclosure but he did give up some information- it felt like a hot knife went right through my heart when he told me. I was in more pain imaginable... but he told me! That’s when I was able to turn our relationship around and start to trust him again.
Like your girlfriend, I too, needed time away with the girls. I knew temptation was at home for him, but I didn’t want to live in a world where I’m his police officer and he’s afraid. I’m going to enjoy my life.

 

For whatever reason I get heaps of women either bending over in fron5 of me and just stroking their backside in front of me.. I think it’s the pheromones and that’s an instinctive arousal signal.. stay strong brother coz it’s gonna happen more lol

 

Should've asked for her number.

 

I did change it, I thought it was very fitting. I’ve noticed one thing in my relationship that might also help with yours. Sometimes when I am emotional and upset and I am venting to him he tries to fix things. This is a huge difference between men and women. Men see a problem and want to fix it. So when I am venting my frustration or insecurity and he tried to fix it- I become more hurt. I’m not sure how to explain it to a man, but as a woman, I just want to be heard, I want him to just listen and acknowledge my hurt but not try to fix things. If that makes sense.
I began to trust him once he was able to talk to me about things especially things he was hiding “to protect me”
Hope you guys get through it