Hello all, my boyfriend and I have been together for four years now and he has had his PA for the majority of it but now he has been able to last about a month before relapsing for the past few months, so progress on that front However, as this issue subsides, a new one arises... The other day I had asked if he would do oral on me and he said he would and when he came home from work he did that exactly...for a total of maybe 30 seconds, then went on to complain about his back pains and a headache. During this 30 seconds I was quite vocal and I was very into it but he seemed to be avoiding putting his whole face in if that makes sense, instead he was very shy about it and wouldn't do t with passion (maybe this is the word I meant earlier). Either way, I later confronted him about it and asked if he didn't enjoy it. I also asked what I could do to make it a better experience for him if he didn't enjoy it. He admitted to not enjoying it saying that "it wasn't his favourite thing" but refused to tell me why he didn't like it and how I could change it. In the past, I have noticed he didn't seem to like it and thus have tried many different ways to make it more appealing (i.e. showering immediately before, shaving, using a flavoured lube etc.) but he never took the bait. Since this was during his P watching days, I thought that that might be the reason. However, now he still doesn't enjoy it despite (mostly) giving up P. This really concerns me because I have tried everything I can to make it a better experience for him and its the only way I have ever reached O without doing things myself. He said that he would still do it since he knows that its not fair to not give me oral when I do for him but knowing and seeing that he doesn't enjoy it really ruins the whole experience for me. So now I am worried that I'm just never going to O with him, ever. Because I'm not comfortable with asking him to do something he doesn't like and even if I was, I would have a hard time O-ing when he visibly isn't enjoying himself. Anyways, my question to all of you was if your partners have had their sexual tastes change after giving up P and how long it took. I have a hard time accepting that this is the end of ever receiving oral and it might sound shallow but I'm not so sure that I can stay with him knowing this. It just defeats the purpose of sex if its only going to be him ever getting off on it. Anyways, I'm not really sure what to do or think or if I should wait and see if he changes his mind or if he genuinely is just never going to like it?