Sex with a Hot MILF, couldnt get it up!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by VillaVega, May 27, 2017.

  1. VillaVega

    VillaVega New Fapstronaut

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    TLDR; Was going to to have sex with a hot MILF, couldnt get it up.

    Hello NoFap, this is my first time posting in here, english is not my first language but I will try to express myself as clear as I can.

    I am 25 years old and as many of you have watched porn and fapped since the beginning of the time with no tought about it. I discovered this movement of NoFap around 5 months ago, read all the negative consequences of PMO, this in my mind created a "ah, ha!" moment. I basically have tried for the past 4 months to not PMO withouth much of a success (record is 7 days), however, yesterday happened something that had never happened in my life, I experienced Erectile Dysfunction with a woman.

    Allow me to tldr a bit about my sexual life, I even before knowing about NoFap have not had many problems talking to girls and seducing them, my problem meeting girls is due to logistics Im unable to meet girls (even people in general) often bcause I work from home in computer, however, the times Im around girls I am actually very fluid with them. So I met this one girl about 2 years ago, we liked eachother, we went out and 3 days later we were sexual with eachother, now, with this girl I didnt experience any kind of erectile sexual dysfunction even though the first times she was hesitant about all the sexual stuff ( scared of getting pregnant) we build up our sex life and ended up having long session of sex including what at the time for me was a major fantasy anal sex with no problem at all except at times the opposite Delayed Ejaculation but not always, we broke up after 1 year but never had any major troubles aside from that.

    Now as you may know thanks to porn we develop fantasies that we want to experience in real life and for me it was having sex with a MILF, specially a very hot 40+ woman.

    Last week I met this woman who is 48 years old and has an amazing natural fit body, we were just regularly talking business when she asked me if I was single and that she had a niece that I should date, I jokingly told her that I would rather date her and that we should hang out sometime, she really wasnt expecting that and told me that no, Im young, blah blah but at the same time she didnt move on with the conversation she stayed on the topic. I told her that I find her really attractive and theres nothing wrong as she is single as well. Anyways, 3 days later she agreed to go on a date.

    So the day comes, we meet up, I drive to the coffee and as soon as we arrived to the parking lot we started to make out like theres no tomorrow, had some drinks and then I took her back to my place. My fantasy was becoming reality, I was going to have sex with this extremely hot 48 yo woman, took her to my bedroom began to strip naked, we make out I eat her out but OH SURPRISE when she was asking for it I was basically limp, no hard on, no nothing. Infact I was not so aroused at all and not because she wasnt hot but for god knows whatever reason, for the first time I was experiencing Erectile Dysfunction and then nothing happened afterwards.......

    Now I AM TOTALLY CONFUSED because I dont know if the reason that I couldnt get it up is due to the prior knowledge of NOFAP and the negative stigma that created in my mind of Porn and Fapping and the consequences (erectile dysfunction listed) which I still kept doing it regardless of or actually because I keep fapping and watching porn, now with my previous girlfriend I had no idea of the NoFap and had no problems except like I said at times Delayed Ejaction wich is bad but not as bad as not getting it up.

    Now my dilemma is if I should stick to NoFap or basically forget it.

    One thing that it instantly clicked in my mind is PORN I definitely gonna stop with the porn stuff, however, fapping I am unsure at this point. I didnt fap the previous 2 days and Im not sure if I had fapped before meeting up with her that would have helped.

    I will gladly would like to know your opinions on this
     
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  2. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    Dude, you must go hardmode 90 days+ no pmo. What a wasted opportunity! I love milfs.
     
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  3. Commited2Health

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    I have been in a similar situation. My first embarrassing ED encounter also took place with a female that I had always wanted to be with. She was also more experienced than me.

    Couple of things. It could be because of Porn use. But it could also be an anxiety issue as well. Finally getting what you "want", that dream girl, adds a lot of pressure on us as well. Instead of being in the moment, we might focus on our fear of not satisfying her. Especially an older woman. This could be at play in your situation. Be kind to yourself. Take it slow with your next encounter. Don't make intercourse the goal. Be sensual. Give your brain a chance to catch up and gain confidence.

    Try NoFap, especially no Porn. I am 46 and I'll tell you all those years of P has limited and/or made difficult life experiences on many levels. Porn is a fake world.
     
  4. YngwieWanksteen

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    Man, that's too bad! Shit, all the more need why I need to stay on this path!
     
  5. Orlando Aponte

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    I was going to insert that I also love milfs, but given the other responses, I'm thinking this doesn't make me particularly unique lol. I strongly, strongly recommend that you cut out masturbation altogether (as well as everything else). The reason being that many guys get conditioned to orgasm soft once they're neck deep in porn addiction. You want to rewire your penis to get hard from external stimuli. Any time you masturbate, even if you don't orgasm or don't use any imagery, you are reinforcing a habit that is associated with PMO. I am curious though, what happened after you couldn't get it up? Was she understanding or was she rude about it?
     
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  6. Jabba Le'Butt

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    Have sex with people you like, not people you like the idea of.
     
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  7. Bel

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    I think when you are still using terms like milf you are definitely not far enough removed from the porn process. Why can't guys just say woman instead of these ridiculous porn induced acronyms.
     
  8. Flyhigh

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    I think it's cool!
     
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  9. Orlando Aponte

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    Lol, it is just a shorthand way of referring to an attractive older woman. Back in the day people were calling them "cougars."
     
  10. Flyhigh

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    I thought so.
     
  11. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    LOL, yeah. It's shorthand, just take a chill pill and relax, there's enough stress as it is with trying to stay clean on streaks. If people here want to be Milf hunters let them be Milf hunters.
     
  12. Flyhigh

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    I see nothing wrong with it too, if they like each other go for it.
     
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  13. Sadly because some guys on here are just abstaining from porn in order to trade that life for a pornlike sex life. They don't want to quit porn, they want to live it out.
     
  14. Of course he is "definitely not far enough removed from the porn process"! :rolleyes:
    • He has PIED!
    • That was his first post;
    • He has a personal best of 7 days!
    Oh hold on a minute Bel, is Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED) a "ridiculous porn induced acronym"!? :oops: LMFAO! :p
     
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  15. Flyhigh

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    LOL
     
  16. Although you say "some guys on here", the implication is that the new member is one of those guys. But that is unfair.
    I don't think you can make that judgment.
     
  17. Flyhigh

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    I think it's better to live it out real sex than pixels. Just my thought. And they are both single so I see nothing wrong with that. :)
     
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  18. SuperFan

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    Cut @Bel some slack, you guys. Porn has caused her some serious emotional pain. She has every right to dislike that acronym.

    And besides, let's be real, it stands for Mom I'd Like to F***. So basically, it's an acronym that explicitly reduces a woman's worth to whether or not she's sexually desirable. I can't speak for anyone else, but that's not the kind of mindset I want to have toward women anymore.
     
  19. Properitas

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    I can relate to that. I could not get it up when I´ve had a threesome with two hot girls. You can probably image how I felt afterwards.
    While I still don´t think that porn was 100% responsible for this, because I was drunk as fuck and had caffeine and her place was terribly cold, I still think 90% was because of porn.
    But not in the way you think it was. I was just anxious as hell, especially because the third one had way more sexpartners then I did.
    I think porn is 50% of the problem and the other 50% are anxiety from trying to quit. Which means that if you would have no problems with your porn consumption you would have had 50% more chance to get it up.
    But if you keep watching porn that rate decreases dramatically, whereas if you don´t watch porn that rate slowly increases.
    There is also the typical flatline some guys experience when trying to quit porn. This could also be a problem.
    So I´ve ordered some ED pills and took one when we had our second threesome. And viola, it worked. Gave me huge confidence.
    If you really care about sex with her that much, get some pills. Just having them in your pocket and knowing you can use them if things don´t work out gives you the confidence that it should work out. And if not, you always have one in your pocket...
     
  20. Flyhigh

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    Sorry nothing against Bel, but we don't know about her story. :(
    Guys can you please refrain from using the term cuz it's right it's degrading.
     
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