Sex Starved Husbands

Is this an actual statistic or are you just pulling this out of thin air based on your own assumptions? You can't just say random numbers like "1 in 10" and "90%" out of nowhere. Those numbers mean something. Unless you're the president, then I guess you can just fill in the blank with whatever number you feel sounds right.

 

Thanks for providing the links. I'd still like to see a study strictly on single twenty-somethings in 2018. I'm guessing the gap would be much narrower thanks to you-know-what.

 

Oh please. Dont play this crap. I say one thing about wondering whether or not a statistic is true and that means I dont validate experiences of married men? That's utter stupidity. I validate the experiences of men all the time, as many many people here have seen.

And I don't understand what you mean by "you would have a different perspective." You dont even know what my perspective is. I didnt give it to you yet. All I said was where did that statistic come from. I actually have posted things very similar to this post of yours in the past, but if you're going to just assume I dont give a crap about men out of nowhere, then theres really no point in any kind of discussion.

 

I'm not denying that biological factors lead to most men wanting more sex than women, but what exactly is the point you're trying to make? Are you saying there is no point in having a relationship because you will only end up sexually frustrated as a man?

 

Wut

 

Well, if you really feel like not getting to express your biological sex drive (compared to only having sex to express your need to feel closer to your partner) would make you feel unfulfilled and unhappy, then I guess that would be an option. Otherwise you could always hope to find a partner who is sexually compatible with you or, as you acknowledged yourself already, communicate with your partner to find a solution. Although I personally can't understand how you can put that much importance on getting sexual physical release in a romantic relationship. But to each his own.

 

Maybe I phrased that poorly. I meant to say our biological sex drive can be either channeled (?) into a specific sexual desire for a person we care about and want to feel close to, or it can be just purely a biological need for physical release (as in masturbation; which is where men and women differ). Also, I wasn't talking about "sexless" relationships and I thought neither were you. I thought you were saying that most women want less sex than men, not necessarily no sex.

 

Wouldn't it be nice to eat pizza and candy every day? I'm sure it would be but no, you can acknowledge that your health is more important to you. You can acknowledge that just because your survival instinct is telling you it would be rewarding for you to do it, doesn't mean you need to do it and just be a slave to your biological urges. You can acknowledge that focusing your mental and physical energy on things that fulfill you and make you grow as a person is more important to you than thinking about what delicious food you could eat and how good it would make you feel. Because it's just food. In the same way is sex just sex. I'm sure it would be ten times better to share your occasional pizza or candy with your partner and enjoy it as a mutual experience that way. Just as you can share your need for physical release with the person you love and ignore that drive otherwise and focus on more important things. Maybe not the best analogy. But I'm sure you get my point.

If you are really saying you are unable to ignore your biological urges, or at least it comes at the price of your unhappiness, how do you think you will be able to manage NoFap?

 

I've always been afraid of getting married because my sex drive is very low, and I have the feeling that a woman would berate me for sex, and with rejection (of women) being unexperienced by many, and the huge number of thirsty men wouldn't comprehend that no, I don't want sex now, or today, or maybe this week. I would rather be celibate, but whenever in a relationship the pressure is real. Then I lose half of my stuff (divorce) 1/2*0=0 but still, it's the concept. Or she has an affair and there's the possibility that she produces another man's bastards and tries to cuck me.

I understand that I would have to submit my body to my wife, but I'd rather stay celibate and single.

 

Yes, it does. It's the physical act of intercourse that is used as an extension of experiencing physical and emotional intimacy.

I meant that our sexual desire/drive has a biological origin, but we can focus it on a person that we feel emotionally attracted to.

I'm not sure how much subjectivity there is to "sexless". A relationship where there is sex once a week or month doesn't seem sexless to me. Although how much sex a person needs is indeed subjective. That's where compatibility and communication is important.

As said already, if you feel like living without the sexual release that you physically "need" makes you unhappy, you know what your options are.

It depends on who you have sex with. Sex with your hand or a prostitute is not the same as sex with your partner. Sex for the sake of physical release is just sex, yes. Sex for the sake of intimacy is a form of intimacy. Which can be easily replaced with other forms of intimacy.

 

I was a sex starved husband. I never
begged, I wanked instead. Now I'm flatlining in hard mode and nobody minds. I thought I was cursed, but now I'm feeling blessed.

 

This is a very important issue with many contributing factors. I can't say that it's just the woman's fault or just the man's fault, although both sides are quick to blame and slow to take responsibility. But I think it's safe to say that in our modern era men have forgotten how to be men and women have forgotten how to be women. This not only explains the rise in divorce rates but the falling of marriage rates: less people want the demands that relationships bring.

 

The problem is our present culture has weaponized culture to hate men and indoctrinate males not to act like men. If you're a pansy ass you are approved and not deemed a threat. Hence the rise of soy boys aka beta culture.