SELF TALK CHALLENGE

I felt that there may be some that would benefit from a practice that I have been doing for a short period that has seemed to be helping me in my struggle against MO, and I believe it could help with PMO as well…

It is a practice of repeating self-talk, what we say to ourselves, or affirmations, that state who we want to be as who we already are. The idea is that our habits are based upon our attitudes, and those attitudes were created by thoughts, and those thoughts were created by input, namely words and emotions that were attached to those words and continue to do so daily. So we come to believe certain things about ourselves and have corresponding habits based upon those thoughts/attitudes. We were not born with our beliefs about ourselves, we have developed them, and now we must change them in order to leave this crap behind us.

My commitment is going to be to write out my affirmations here in this thread for the purpose of creating new thoughts about myself for the next 30 days to see the effect and then share what results that I believe are linked to this practice. They may seem like lies now but over time they will become truths, because the input will change my attitude/perception of who I am and that is what controls my habits (or at least that is the concept). This is not the only place that I will use these affirmations, in fact the goal is to repeat them enough that I will say them to myself naturally when I really need them. Repeating the words “I do not masturbate, I am not a masturbator, I hate masturbation” regularly even if I find myself MO I will force myself to repeat those words while MO. If you find yourself desiring P then repeat the affirmations, if you start looking at P, keep repeating the idea that “I hate P, I do not look at P, I do not like the way P makes me feel” it’s very uncomfortable at first because your brain is resisting the ideas, it is getting confused because your actions are not corresponding with your thoughts, since the brain is in charge of the actions, and the thoughts are the brains controls, eventually the brain will begin to believe the input, the words, the thoughts, and change our attitude towards the actions. We then begin to look at P or MO and our brain finally agrees with the thoughts that we have been feeding it. It believes that we do not want to PMO or MO, that we don’t need it, that we hate it… and so on…

So really what I would like is to find is some others to try this as an experiment with me. We can go through this month reading each other’s affirmations and writing our own, sharing the concept of who we REALLY ARE. I realize that there may not be any others, who even care to read this or share in it, but I am committing to it nonetheless, and this thread will hold me accountable to sticking with it.

 

DAY ONE
I am a man
I have control over my thoughts and my actions.
I do not look at porn
I do not want to look at porn.
In fact I hate porn.
I believe that porn is disgusting.
Porn is like drinking vomit.
I do not look at porn.
I do not lust over women
I do not focus on women's bodies for a sexual purpose.
I am happy to never look at a woman as a sexual object again.
I am happy to never look at porn again
I do not look at porn subs
I am not interested in seeing women in bikinis
I am not interested in seeing women in skimpy clothing
I do not look at porn or porn subs
I do not masturbate
I am a real man, a solid man, and I am OK living without an orgasm for as long as it takes to be healed.
I am a clean man. I am a morally, spiritually, and physically clean man.
I do not masturbate.
I do not ever masturbate.
I do not like masturbation.
In fact, I hate masturbation
I do not like the way that masturbation feels.
I know that the good feeling can only come with the bad feeling afterwards and I am not willing to pay that price.
That is why I do not masturbate.
I do not look at woman's body parts as sexual objects
A woman's ass is for sitting or shitting
A woman's breast are for feeding a baby
I do not look at women as potential sexual experiences
I like women as people not as sexual opportunities.
I do not fantasize about women, I am a real man, not a little boy who plays pretend
I do not need sex.
I do not want sex
I do not need sex
I am not interested in sex
I am not interested in masturbation. I handle stress in positive ways not self destructive ways
I am not interested in porn or porn subs, I handle stressful situations in a positive way, like a man
I am a man, I act like a man, I respond to difficulties like a man seeking a solution not an escape.
I am OK with not masturbating.
I hate masturbation.
I do not masturbate
I do not look at porn or porn subs.

 

DAY TWO
I do not masturbate.
I don't want to masturbate.
I am not interested in masturbation.
I am relieved that I no longer want to masturbate.
I hate masturbation and all of the pain it brings.
I am OK without an orgasm.
I am OK without sex
I am OK without masturbation.
Sex is not important to me
I have a life full of things that are positive, I do not need negative habits.
I do not want negative habits
Masturbation is a solid negative habit.
I am not interested in objectifying women.
I am not interested in checking out their body parts.
I appreciate women for what they are, that is people with minds and hearts, not just bodies
I do not need attention from women to make me feel validated as a man
I do not fantasize about women
I am not interested in looking at porn or porn subs.
I have no use for pictures of women, dressed or naked
I enjoy being free from masturbation
I hate the thought of masturbation
I will never masturbate again
I do not want or need to masturbate.
I am free from the desire to masturbate or look at women lustfully
I do not need sex to be happy
I do not need to have an orgasm to be able to relax
I do not want to have sex
I do not want to lose my self esteem for a moment of pleasure
I value my self esteem more than the pleasure of an orgasm
I care about myself too much to hurt myself with masturbation or porn subs
I do not want to masturbate tonight, tomorrow, or ever.
I will maintain my peace of mind by not violating my own personal moral standard, that is why I do not masturbate or look at porn, or porn subs
I love myself too much to abuse my own body with masturbation
I hate porn
I hate porn subs
I hate masturbation
I despise porn
I am glad that I no longer want to masturbate. I am very happy that I have moved on from that vile practice
My life is so much better to no longer need a orgasmic fix to deal with issues
I am happy as a man that does not need sex
I do not need sex to be happy
I do not need to masturbate for relief from stress or boredom
I am clean, and I will stay that way

 

Thanks @StreetLight I appreciate your feedback very much. I understand the theory of the subconscious not understanding negations, I do not fully subscribe to it, but I am sure that there is a measure of validity. I guess the way that I feel about it is that my goal is not trying to train my subconscious, but training my reaction to thoughts and ideas on a conscious level. I believe that the negatives are clear in my mind because I am consciously deciphering each entry. I am not listening to these phrases, or repeating them as a sort of meditation, I am writing them and focusing on them as they are literal truths about myself, which I believe that they are. I do want to develop a hate for MO, for the negative effects it has created in my life. I want to associate the pain with the action, even though the action may be pleasurable a the time, in the end the negative effects are all that is left. I could be defeating some of my efforts in this way, as I am no expert in this area, but I feel that this time through this process I am going to be working on a cognitive level...

I do think that using additional phrasings can be more comprehensive in the development of new attitudes, and I definitely see your point about focusing more on the positive. Looking at it from both directions...

Again, I appreciate your feedback, and your interest in this personal challenge...

 

DAY THREE:
A clean mind is a powerful mind. I am glad that I have a clean mind.
My mind is clean because I am free from masturbation forever.
I chose to leave it behind, and am happy that I did.
I do not miss masturbation. I have grown to hate masturbation because of its negative after effects.
I despise the very thought of masturbation.
Masturbation has caused me to lose out on many positive opportunities. I now have chosen to never masturbate again. I do not want to masturbate.
I feel better because i am free from the habit of masturbation. I feel clean inside. My mind is clear and clean.
I have chosen the path of abstinence. I realize that I can be happy without sex in my life, yes, I am OK with the idea of not having sex.
I have come to clearly appreciate that women are not objects. I do not look at women as objects because I believe that women are so much more than opportunities for sex or fantasy
I do not want to see breasts or butts, I am not interested in looking at women in a sexual way
I have no desire to look at pictures of women for sexual stimulation
I find pleasure in positive activities and I avoid activities that will cause negative results therefore I avoid masturbation at all times
I choose to be abstinent I practice abstinence because I like the way that it makes me feel, Abstinence is my way of life
I am free from all desire to look at porn or porn subs. I do not accept those lies into my mind
I am not interested in having sex with anyone. I don't need sex to feel at peace.
I do not fantasize about women. I am a real person and like to live in the real world.
I do not need an orgasm to deal with stress, i do not want an orgasm to deal with boredom
I deal with stress and anxiety in a mature way that makes me feel good about myself
I am not interested in sex or masturbation any more. I am not interested masturbating.
I like the way that I feel each day that I go without masturbation, I like to feel clean I like to feel strong and sharp minded.
I know that masturbation is bad for me and choose to never do it again
I am strong in my resolve to do what is best for me by avoiding things that I know are self destructive
I am in control of my thinking, I am in control of my attitude towards women and sex
My attitude towards women is one of respect and peace
My attitude towards sex is based upon my choice of abstinence
There is no need for sex to be happy, I am OK without sex
I am OK without masturbation
I choose to avoid any orgasms, I do not want to be robbed of my inner power by an orgasm
I am not interested in masturbation for any reason, I do not want to masturbate
I am at peace with my decision to not masturbate, and I do not miss masturbation
I am not afraid of going through life without ever masturbating again, in fact, I am OK with never masturbating again
Choosing to never masturbate again brings peace into my daily life because I have learned to deal with stress using positive activities and to find pleasure in many good things.
I do not enjoy masturbation because I know how it has affected my life. A moment of pleasure is not worth the negative effects afterward. The negative effects of MO last much longer than that short moment of pleasure.
I have resolved to be abstinent for an indefinite period. Sex has no place in my life right now
I am ok with that because I don't need sex to be happy
There are many ways to feel good without sex, those are what I pursue when I want to feel good
There are many things in life that make me feel good and leave me feeling good afterwards, those are the things that I choose to do
So I am clean, I am stronger and more happy when I stay clean and free from masturbation, porn, porn subs, or fantasies.
I am free from the desire to check out women's bodies. I am not interested in looking at or checking out their bodies for my own sexual stimulation or fantasies. Women are not merely sexual opportunities.
I am free from the unclean habit of masturbation, and will always be

 

DAY FOUR:
Today I have chosen to stick to what I value most
I value feeling good about myself.
I feel good about myself when I avoid doing things that are contradictory to who I really am
I avoid masturbation because it is contradictory to who I really am
I believe that masturbation damages my soul by weakening my resolve to be a better person
That is why I do not masturbate
I do not want to masturbate
I know that I don't need to masturbate in order to deal with stress in my life, instead I use positive activities to deal with stress in an effective way that leaves me built up instead of broken down
I am committed to being abstinent in order to be consistent with who I am.
I am OK living without sex for as long as it is necessary
I do not spend time thinking about sex
I am not obsessed with looking at women
I am confident in who I am and do not need attention from women to make me feel good about myself
I am not interested in watching porn or looking at porn subs. I do not focus my attention on sex scenes in movies.
I realize that sex is not a bad thing, it just has no place in my life right now, so I do not want sex.
I really like the way I feel as a person who does not masturbate. I am proud of the stand that I've taken with regards to avoiding masturbation and porn for the rest of my life.
I know that I don't need sex in my life to be happy. I don't need sex to feel fulfilled in my life. I don't want sex.
I do not masturbate, I do not want to masturbate, in fact I hate the thought of masturbation. I know that masturbation is harmful for me, that it harms self-esteem, causes people to become withdrawn, and makes a person more obsessed with sex.
I choose to stay free from negative habits, such as masturbating or looking at pornography.
I do not masturbate,
I do not want to masturbate,
I am free from the desire to masturbate,
it is my choice to not masturbate and that makes me proud of myself,
I consider masturbation to be self abusive, self-destructive, and selfish in it's nature
I am firmly convinced that sex should be reserved for happily married people.
Since I am now separated from my wife I realize that sex no longer has a place in my life, I am OK with this, I am glad to be abstinent, I am proud to have the strength to remain abstinent so that I can abide by my belief system and feel good about who I am at all times
I am committed to avoiding masturbation completely. It is something that I truly do not desire to do ever again. It feels good to know that I have left A bad habit of masturbating behind. Keeping that good feeling is important to me, so I take no chances of destroying that. I know that masturbation, pornography, or porn subs Will take away a good feeling and leave only sadness and disappointment in its wake.
I do not want to masturbate
I do not need to masturbate
I do not want to mess to me ever again
I do not masturbate, I do not masturbate, I am not a masturbator
I feel that sex is not important, I feel that sex is a distraction from progress, I do not want sex in my life, therefore I am firmly committed to remaining abstinent.
I feel very confident in myself, and I know that masturbating could truly take that away from me, so I do not even consider masturbating

 

Thanks for your input... I feel that listening to affirmations is definitely helpful, especially if you repeat the thoughts in your head as you listen. I have several recordings that I made that I listen to a good bit. I do prefer writing my affirmations when I have the time, speaking them out loud as I write them allows both my sense of sight and auditory to experience what I am writing...
Keep it up, I personally feel that this can make some positive changes in thought patterns whether we are listening, reading , or writing these truths about ourselves...

 

Thanks, I know what you mean about getting sick of them, I've used them on and off throughout my life and it starts to feel irritating after a while... I just know that they have helped me in various ways to change negative thought patterns and habits... so I'm committed to one full month of doing them every day. I feel confident that it is and will help me to stay the course to being free from the pattern of repeating the same things: stop MO for a period and then decide to just do it once and start back into a free fall for a period of time before committing to stopping again... I really want to hate the thought of MO instead of feeling drawn to it as a force I have to resist..

 

DAY FIVE:
I'm glad to be moving forward for another day.
I've chosen to do what is best for myself.
Doing what is best for myself means avoiding activities, such as masturbation or pornography.
I appreciate how good it feels to be able to be proud of myself for not masturbating.
I believe that women are so much more than just objects for sex.
Being a man means knowing how to control my actions. I control my actions, I control my thoughts, I am in control of myself.
I avoid sexual activities and all forms whether physical or in fantasy. I'm not interested in having sex. Sex is not important to me.
I choose to find relief from stress through positive and good activities, I do not need to masturbate to relieve stress.
I do not masturbate.
I despise masturbation for what it is, and for what it does to my soul.
I am relieved that I no longer have to struggle against sexual desires. I no longer want or need sex. I know longer want Or need to masturbate. Without masturbation looking at porn, porn subs or even just staring at women examining their bodies makes no sense.
I know that avoiding masturbation is the key to success.
I choose to practice abstinence so that I could be free from the power of sex. I believe that sex can make mad weak. It can make a man give up his power and submit to manipulation.
I am ok with living without sex, abstinence is my choice, it is my way of life.
I do not masturbate
I don't want to masturbate
I am finished with the negative power of masturbation
I am happy with my decision to be completely free from sex and masturbation. It makes me feel positive and energetic, it makes me feel more in control of my life.
I am in control of myself of my actions of my thoughts, and I choose to keep my actions in line with my true self by shunning even the thought of sex or masturbation or porn.
I am glad to feel clean and strong...

 

DAY SIX:
I have the strength to live by my convictions
My feeling towards masturbation is that it is a weak response to stress and sexual desire
I am not weak
I am capable of maintaining control over my actions
I do not masturbate
I don't even want to masturbate
I am not interested in a cheap experience that leaves me feeling bad inside
I am convinced that masturbation is a truly negative action
I am committed to being faithful to my convictions
I am committed to maintaining abstinence
I am not interested in looking at women for sexual stimulation
I am not interested in watching any media that shows sexual activity
I do not watch videos or movies that feature sexual content
I am happier when I keep my mind off of sex all together
Sex is not bad in itself but has been bad for me
I am not interested in having sex with any woman
I am not interested in fantasizing about any woman
I have a deep respect for woman as people not as objects for sexual fulfillment
I am much happier when I maintain self control in all areas of my life, especially when it comes to sex.
I can live without sex. I am ok with living without sex. I do not need sex. I do not want sex.
I have come to appreciate the many amazing things in life that I had once missed due to focusing my attention on sex.
I do not want to be turned on by women
I control my thoughts so as to keep them in line with my goals and who I really am
I am really a man that does not need sex.
I am really a man that does not need attention from women to feel acceptable
I am confident in my own worth and do not need the attention of women to feel self worth
I do not want to masturbate. I do now want to masturbate. I do not want the negative after effects
I do not want to feel saddened by my actions
I do not want to feel the sense of being lost because I have done something that I wanted to stop doing
I do now masturbate because it leaves those feelings behind
I know that masturbation can give a moment of pleasure, but I also know that it comes with a cost, a cost that I am unwilling to pay
I gather good days when I avoid masturbation
I feel better in all areas of my life when I use self control and do not masturbate
I have come to despise the effects of masturbation, and therefore hate the act of masturbation
Keeping myself in line with my true self brings a level of peace to my life
My true self does not ever masturbate
I do not ever masturbate
I am free from the desire to masturbate
I have chosen the path of abstinence in both sex and masturbation for the purpose of growing in my inner self
I choose not to focus on sex
I choose not to look for sex
I choose not to scan for woman
I do not give attention to women's bodies
I do not want to absorb the image of women's butts into my mind
I don't want to capture the image of women's bodies in my mind
I have no use for stored images of women's bodies
I do not masturbate or seek sex, so women's bodies do not interest me because looking at them can bring no gain into my life
I do not want to lose my sense of pride
I do not want to give up my sense of accomplishment
I do not want to masturbate at all, ever again
I hate the thought of masturbation and the effects that it has had on my life
I hate the loss of energy, focus, and self esteem that masturbation causes, it is not worth the short moment of pleasure
I maintain a strong mind against looking for sex, or sexual stimulation
I do not seek out sexual videos or pictures
I do not want to look at women in bikinis or in skimpy clothing
I do not want to watch sex scenes in movie, they do not make me feel good, instead they make me feel sick inside.
I do not care about sex any more, I have moved on to a higher level of understanding of who I am
I am so much more than sex
Sex has lied to me all of my life, saying that it was the most important thing that there ever was or is
I no longer believe the lie that sex is the most important thing in life
I can live happily without sex
I can live happily without masturbation
I can be happy without seeking out sexual stimulation
It feels good to not need sex
It feels good to not need masturbation
It feels good to know that I do not need an orgasm to feel good
I am happy to be abstinent
I am glad that I no longer waste my time on sexual pursuits
I enjoy my time so much more now that I do not waste my attention and energy on sexual pursuits
I truly love being free from sex and masturbation
It is a good feeling to not masturbate, it is a good feeling to look at myself in the mirror and know that I am in control of my life
I am in control of my life. Me. not sex, not masturbation, not women. ME
I never let sex over ride my senses
I never let desire control my actions, my actions are chosen by me, by my true self. My true self would never even consider masturbation no matter what
I am content with being in control of my actions and not seeking sex.
I do not give up my peace of mind for moment of pleasure
I do not give up a clean conscience for a moment of pleasure
I have achieved a level of happiness that I could never have found while giving in to masturbation
I am a clean man, and that makes me feel happy
I do not care about having sex
I do not care about masturbation
I do not masturbate
I do not want to masturbate
I am finished with masturbation for the rest of my life
I am OK with my resolve to be abstinent, it makes me proud to know that I am living in a way that is best for me even when sexual opportunities come up
this is my life and I am living it as a man, a man can control himself, a man does not give in to weaknesses, a man faces his issues and deals with them in a mature way
That is me...

 

DAY SEVEN:
This is my life, and I live it according to my rules
My rules are what I abide by, what I cherish, and what I cherish defines my rules
Masturbation is a breach of my rules, a breach of my nature.
Following my rules brings me peace and strength
Living by my convictions allows me to avoid the pain of many errors
Porn and Masturbation have been ruled out of my life so that I can enjoy self respect
I love the feeling of self respect, the power of character, the power of being myself
Avoiding activities that are self destructive is my way of life
I do not want to do anything that is destructive to myself
I do not masturbate
Masturbation is a violation of my personal convictions, that is why I do not masturbate
I choose to be healthy in my attitude towards women. A healthy attitude is to look at women as people, not as sexual opportunities
I have no interest in admiring a woman's body. I rather not even look at a woman than to stare at her body as if it were a tool for sex or fantasy
I have too much self respect to look at women with the intention of getting a sexual charge
I love myself too much to scar my heart or mind any longer with sexual deviation
Keeping a clean conscious is part of my spiritual health, I cherish my spiritual health and will let nothing destroy it
My values are too important to me to ever let myself violate them for a moment of physical pleasure. That moment can only bring with it the pain of regret and the negative results that will affect my mind, heart, and relationships with my kids, my friends, and my God.
I am truly happy to have reached a level of self control where sex is not important to me, where masturbation is a relic of the past, where positive activities are outweighing and overriding the negative activities of the past.
I have come to the clear understanding that sex is not necessary for me to be happy. Sex is not that important. I am perfectly fine with being abstinent for what ever period is necessary to live my life according to me personal standards for myself.
I am finished with weak and beggarly actions to deal with stress, depression, or boredom. Masturbation is not a solution to stress. Masturbation cannot help with depression, it can only make it worse.
I always live up to my convictions. I keep myself from the activities that I know will harm my soul, masturbation, porn, porn subs, gawking at women, mentally capturing women's bodies, fantasizing about women.
It comes down to the simple truth that I do not masturbate, that I do not want to masturbate, that I have a serious aversion to even the thought of using my hand to mimic sex. No, those are things that I did as a youth, as a child, but I am no longer a child, I am a man, and I act like a man at all times
I do not masturbate.
I am not interested in sex. I am not interested in having sex, watching others have sex in movies, listening to sexually provocative media. No, I am not interested in anything that will distract me from my pursuit of self control, self respect, and self growth.
This is my time in life. I am finished with the past, it is gone and now I have my future in front of me.
I am not a masturbator. I am not a sex addict.
My past actions do not define who I am. My past actions are just that, the past, they are not me. I am responsible for my past actions, but I accept that they are the past and cannot be changed. I live in this day. I live with my eyes focused on the future.
Being happy requires that I avoid activities, like MO, PMO, Psubs, etc. So I avoid these things. I have come to see that all of those activities lead only to pain, to loss of self respect and strength, to problems with relationships with others. I have no desire to do any of those activities ever again for the rest of my life.
I clearly see who I am and who I am not.
I am in control of my actions and thoughts. I am not a slave to desires. I am the master of my inner and outer self. I love the way that I feel when I maintain a clean path from day to day.
That is why I have come to hate masturbation and all that it entails. I think that the act of masturbation is childish. It is a childish and self centered way of dealing with issues. Yeah, I actually do hate masturbation.
This is my life and I am in control of my thoughts and actions. Sex is not my master. Sexual desires are not my driving force. I set my course for a clean and mentally healthy life. That is what I choose every day... every day...

 

DAY EIGHT...
It seems that the practice here has been helping. Writing all of this feels good and helps to guide my thinking down the right path.
I think though that the more powerful sentences have been those that are simple, clear, and repetitive. This seems to help me with my instant response to urges, whether it comes to MO, or checking out women wherever I go. The way that women dress has become so much more difficult to ignore, especially with the really tight pants that show everything pretty much getting so popular. That makes it all the more important to know how I respond to these women before and then when I see them.

I do not want to check out women
I am not interested in checking out women's bodies
I do not want to check out women's bodies.
I don't check out women
I don't look at women's butts or breast
I don't want to remember the shape of a woman
Checking out women is useless
Checking out women can only cause unnecessary stress
I don't want to look at women's bodies
I do not look at women's bodies
If I see an attractive woman I simply ignore the urge to check her out
If I see a woman in tight pants I look a different way because I do not want to create tension in myself
There is no reward in looking at women's bodies
There is no reward in checking out women.
I do not check out women
I do not want to look at women
I do not stare at women's bodies
I have the strength to live by my chosen standards
I do not masturbate
I do not feel like I need sex
I do not need sex
I am perfectly fine living a celibate life as long as is necessary
I do not need sex
I do not objectify women
I do not check out women for sexual stimulation
I am not concerned with looking at women
I know that I do not masturbate, so focusing on women's bodies doesn't make sense
I focus on people as people. I enjoy the company of women and respect them for who they are, not what they look like
I am not manipulated into staring at women
I am not impressed with women's bodies
I am not obsessed with sex
Sex is not important to me
I am fine living without sex
I do not ponder on sex
I do not think about past sexual experiences
I look forward in my life
I look at my future not my past
I am happy to have reached the point in my life where sex is not important
I am not concerned with sex, now or later
I am settled on being single until i am completely free from any sexual obsession
I am proud of my stand towards sex and masturbation
I do not masturbate
I do not want to masturbate
i do not need to masturbate
I am me
I am free from the habit of masturbation
I do not even consider looking at sexual media, porn, porn subs, anything that features sex or half dressed women
I do not want the sexual tension from looking at a woman
I am able to deal with stress and boredom in positive ways
I do not need masturbation to deal with stress
I do not want to masturbate to deal with stress
I do not masturbate
That is it, I just do not do it.
I do not focus my attention on any woman
I do not objectify women
Women are not objects for sexual stimulation
Women are not made simply to be sexual toys
I am not a slave to any habit
I am free to make my own choices, conscious choices
I choose to remain free from porn masturbation and all forms of sexual activities and thoughts that are not in line with my convictions
I am free, and never want to go back into slavery
I do not want to masturbate.
I do not want to have sex
I do not need sex
I do not need an orgasm
I do not need sex to be happy
I am happy when I stick to my convictions
My convictions are my power to have self control...
So when I see a woman, I see her and look on to another place
I do not want to see a woman's butt in my mind. I do not focus on woman's bodies
I do not keep images of women that I see in my mind, I quickly let them fade away
I am free from the temptation to masturbate or have sex
I am free

 

DAY NINE
I have overcome objectifying women
I have chosen my own path
The path I follow is of my choice, not a path paved by a adolescent
I am a man, and I think and act like a man, not a child
A real man knows how to relate to women.
A real man doesn't need the attention of women to feel good about himself
I am OK is no women were to find me attractive, I am content with myself
I do not want the attention of women
I do not need to have sex with women to feel good about myself.
Having sex is not an accomplishment
There is no prize for the person with the most women
There is no winner among players, only fools
I am happy to seek my peace of mind through abstinence
I seek peace in my life, in my heart, and in my soul
Abstinence is a path to peace for me
Avoiding sex all together is my path
I am glad to be on this path, I see the rewards down the road
I reap the benefits of being clean in my conscience
I keep my conscience clean
A clean conscence for me requires that I keep the proper perspective of women
Women on screens are not real they are merely images, really just a bunch of dots
Women who expose themselves on the screen or in magazines are sad people, even if they dont know it
I do not desire to share in the sadness of these women
I do not want to look at naked women
I do not want to imagine women naked
I do not undress women with my minds eyes
I do not check out women's bodies
When a woman wears something that reveals her shape, I simply ignore it. I look the other way and erase the thought
Women's bodies do not mean anything to me
I do not masturbate
I do not want to stir up sexual tension with no release
So I don't look at things that will create that tension
I do not masturbate.
I hate masturbation
I hate the effects of masturbation.
I don't like the way that masturbation feels
I don't like the after effects of masturbation
I know that there are so many things that are better than masturbation, and that is what I choose to do
I want to be happy
Being happy requires staying away from depressing habits
Masturbation is a depressing habit
Porn is a depressing habit
Porn subs is a depressing habit
I stay away from depressing habits so that I can enjoy my life
I have chosen to follow a path of abstinence because it is what is best for me right now
I am not looking to have sex with anyone
I am not interested in sex
I am not interested in having an orgasm
I don't want to waste my energy on an orgasm
I find peace in other ways, ways that leave me feeling good about myself
I do not masturbate
That is just who I am, someone that doesn't ever masturbate
I don't care what anyone says, I believe that masturbation is harmful to the soul
I believe that masturbation is a thief of positive energy, replacing it with sadness after a short moment of pleasure
A moment of pleasure is not worth the loss of self respect that comes with masturbation
I choose to avoid masturbation all together, and will never masturbate again
I do not miss masturbation
I do not miss masturbation
I am glad that I no longer even think about it
I feel good about my decision to never masturbate again
I am filled with good feelings when I think about the fact that I will never masturbate
I do not masturbate
I simply do not want to
I have come to hate everything about masturbation
I have especially come to hate the feeling that comes right afterwards.
I do not want to ask myself ever again "why did I just do that?"
I like the feeling of being the man that I choose to be
I choose who I am.
I make the choices to live the way that will benefit me the most
That means that masturbation has no place in my life.
That means that Porn has absolutely no place in my life and never will
I am so finished with the dark road of PMO and MO
I want more from life and will get it
I can have more from life when I avoid the things that rob me of joy, self respect, honor, dignity, and a clean conscience
I get more from life because I do not do things that rob me of those things
I am proud that I do not masturbate
I am proud that I can say that I have not looked at porn in many years
I have made my choices and always live by the choices that are good for me
I do what is good for me and abstain from what is bad for me
I love what is good
and hate what is bad
I love the good feeling of walking by a woman and not feeling the desire to look at her body
I love the good feeling of going to sleep and not masturbating
I love achieving the good feeling through effort and not through child like shortcuts
I do not need instant gratification.
I do not need masturbation to relive me of stress
Masturbation is no cure for stress or boredom
Masturbation only brings negativity to a persons life
Sex no longer has a hold on me
I can live happily without sex
Sex is not necessary for me to be content
I am content to practice abstinence for as long as it takes to rid myself of any sign of dependence on sex
I achieve so much more in my life because I do not masturbate
I do not masturbate
I never masturbate
I never will masturbate
I would never do something like that
I really hate masturbation and feel sorry for people who choose to do it
I hate masturbation
I do not masturbate
I do not want to masturbate
I have reached a good point in my life where women are not the center of my attention
I do not pursue women
I do not want to have sex with women
I do not fantasize about women
I do not focus my attention on women's bodies. The more that they try to show their bodies the more I am turned off by them
I am turned off by women in tight or revealing clothing
I do not admire women who try to get attention by dressing in an revealing way
I am happy with myself and my decisions
I live by those decisions
Those decisions direct my steps and thoughts
So I make the decision to never look at another women as an object
I make the decision to never masturbate again
I make the decision to never focus my attention on women's body parts
And I absolutely make the decision to avoid all forms of porn
I am happier because I live by those decisions....

 

OK so this gets difficult to stick with... I am beginning to get tired of repeating this, but I know that this feeling is linked to the resistance that my mind is creating against the change that I am claiming stake to... So no matter what, I am going to be committed to my 30 days.
So far I can say that I have no doubt that it is making a difference. When the urge to deal with stress pushes me towards the edge, I just start repeating the words that I have written, particularly the simple statements I don't want to masturbate, I do not masturbate, I hate the feeling that masturbation leaves me with. So far it has helped to get rid of the tension every time. So on to
DAY TEN
This is another day free from masturbation
This is another day free from porn or porn subs
This is another day free from objectifying women.
I feel great about my decision to be free from masturbation
I do not masturbate
I don't even want to masturbate
I am better than that, and I deserve better than that
I know that masturbation feels good for a brief moment, but leaves a bad feeling for a long time
I choose to never put myself through that again
I do not masturbate, and never will
I never will let that weakness enslave me, I am stronger than that
I am clear about what I want
I want to feel good about myself
Masturbation makes people feel bad about themselves
That is one reason that I do not masturbate
I have chosen to practice abstinence after my separation from my wife
I do not want to be with anyone sexually
I can live happily without sex.
I am happy to take the course of abstinence, it will provide me a period of self discovery without the old ruler
I do not want sex
I am content with not having sex for as long as it takes for me to feel free from any signs of addiction
I do not let sex pull me into a bad relationship
I do not let sex keep me in a bad relationship
I love myself too much for that
I also decide to avoid any form of sexual media
I do not watch shows that feature sexual activity
I do not want to watch movies that I know will have sex scenes or nudity
I do not want to watch any media that promotes unhealthy sexual appetites
I am free from the draw of sex
I am free for the desire to masturbate
I do not want sex
I do not want to masturbate
I hate the thought of masturbation
I hate the idea of pretending that I am having sex and actually just acting like an animal
Monkeys masturbate regularly
I do not want to act like an ignorant animal
I am a man
I act like a man
I think like a man
A real man does not go around looking for a woman to look at
A real man knows that women are living souls, not just some flesh to have sex with
I am a real man, and I am proud to be one
When I was a child I acted like a child
Children use masturbation to deal with boredom, frustrations, stress, and sexual urges
I am not a child
Men do not use masturbation to deal with boredom, frustrations, stress, and sexual urges
I am a man
I do not need masturbation to deal with stress or frustration
I do not need to masturbate to relieve myself of sexual urges
I am in control of my emotions
I have self control
I do not do things that I know are going to hurt me or cause me grief
I do not want to do anything that makes me feel bad about myself
I do not do anything when I am alone that I wouldn't do around my family
I am ready for the challenges ahead, and am glad that I do not rely on masturbation to try to deal with them
It is clear to me that my path is the straight and narrow, that it is not the easiest, but it has the best destination
I am successful at staying away from masturbation, of rejecting the very idea every time that it comes up
I am proud of my success
I am proud of myself
I will not do anything that will take that away from me
So therefore I do not masturbate
I do not fantasize, I do not seek out sex, I do not even consider porn.
This is my life, these words are the truth about me...

 

DAY 11
A sad day...
Today I choose to live my life the way it should be lived
Today I am alive
I live the way that I know is best for me
I live my life as a man
I have chosen to live without masturbation or porn
I have made up my own mind as to how to live
I do not live according to the lies of the media
I know that sex is not important
I know that sex is not necessary to be happy
I believe that sex can be a good part of life, but only when it is in the right circumstances
I am ok with myself
I am ok with a life of abstinence for as long as is necessary
I do not want to see any images or movies with sexual content or even overtones
I do not care about seeing women's butts, I do not want to see women's butts
I do not care about sex
I do not need sex
I do not need masturbation in my life
I am happy that I do not masturbate, it makes me proud of myself
I have a clean mind
I do not ponder on anything sexual
I don't want to look at women
I do not get excited when I see an attractive woman, i do not want to
I am content with the freedom that being abstinent brings to me
Having quit masturbation is one of the best decisions that I have ever made
I do not masturbate
I will not masturbate no matter what the urge might feel like
I deal with stress in positive ways
I deal with loneliness by having good friends
I am not addicted to sex
I can live without sex and it does not bother me
I do not want to have sex with any woman
I do not want to even think about sex
I do not focus attention to women
I am through with sexual pursuits
I do not want to sleep with any woman
I do not want the attention of women
I do not need to have the attention of women in order to feel good about myself
I feel good about who I am because I am who I choose to be
I am not at the mercy of my urges
I control my thoughts and can stand up to any emotional challenge without using masturbation as a crutch
I have myself under control
I am in charge of my own mind
I do not want to masturbate
I do not want to masturbate
I do not masturbate
I do not masturbate, I hate the thought of having to deal with the feeling of being lost that comes with masturbation
I do not masturbate, I hate the thought having to ask myself "why did I just do that?"
I do not masturbate, I love the feeling of not needing sex in my life
I do not masturbate, I am proud of my stand to be chaste
I do not masturbate, I live by my morals
I do not masturbate, This is my life and I will decide how to live it. I do not give in to whims or urges, I am in control.
I am not worried about sex, I do not want to have to deal with sex. I am now a single man and am grateful to be where I am at this point
I am not worried about sex, living alone will not be bad at all
I am not worried about sex, I do not entertain any thoughts of having sex with any woman
This is my life and I am living it according to the moral code that is me
My mind grows clearer with each day that I live without sex or masturbation.
I choose a life without sex or masturbation

 

Thanks @RockCloud

Your comments are really appreciated. I agree with you completely on a certain level. I am conscious of my desire to be in a loving relationship where sex will be an integral part of the communication of feelings, and I believe that someday I will be there. I have just reached a point at this time that I am tired of the emotional confusion that sex has caused in my life. My goal is to break down most, if not all, of the ideas about sex that I have ingrained into my thinking through 38 years of sexual fixation. I am OK if this makes me less of a sexual man; so far sex has been at the root of many of my problems. I believe that if I can free myself to discover who I am as a non-sexual man, a man who understands that he does not NEED sex, a man that knows that he can live without it without discomfort, then I will be in a position to be a good sexual partner to a new mate. Then I will be able to focus on the person that she is and not just what I want from her. I am in the early stages of a divorce from my wife of 20 years and realize that PMO, MO, and simply being unable to get my mind off of sex in general put a lot of nails in the coffin. I cannot put another woman, or myself, through what I have put my marriage through with my sexual issues.

I am willing to go to the other end of the spectrum if necessary before coming back to find a balance. That is why my affirmations are so extreme. This is what I believe that I need at this time.

As far as checking out women, I have never been able to look at a woman’s butt without it leading me to sexually objectifying its owner. I wish that I could admire the shape of a woman without having sexual impulses, but my nature is to admire with desire. I look forward to admiring the woman who I will be with, but see no use in looking at women that I will not be with. What would be the purpose other than to create a sexual energy that cannot be released appropriately? That is another habit that I do not want to bring into a future relationship. No woman wants to be with a man that is checking out other women all of the time.

In the end of the matter, I really don’t believe that affirmations are powerful enough to make permanent changes, especially in 30 days. I think that they can help lead us in a direction that we want to go primarily by helping us to keep focused on the path that we CHOOSE instead of the one that may have led us into the darkness over and over again. It’s a conscious effort to stay alert to our thoughts, our self talk, what we say when talk to ourselves. For example, it’s hard to enjoy MO when you keep repeating that you do not masturbate the whole time, your brain just won’t let you after a while.

I feel that if I stick with this for 30 days, and do not MO during that period, then this was a successful challenge for me. What happens after this? Do I continue with the daily affirmations? IDK… It’s not difficult to do once I get started to write, and it feels good when I am writing them so I probably will, just not in this forum...