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Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Hopefulgirl, Sep 14, 2017.

  1. Hopefulgirl

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    Somehow her self esteem has been shattered :( Does she know about your PMO, because that can so it quite easily.
     
  2. No woman can. Hell, even Ashley AGraham who has been in SI, has cellulite.

    Reality. Check.
     
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  3. Kenzi

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    Thank you for this
     
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  4. Cindy Crawford once said that when she get up even she doesn't look like Cindy Crawford
     
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  5. Hopefulgirl

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    I know this and you know this, but for 10 years my husband was chasing the fantasy that there are women who do. And he felt that I was ugly in the process. Admitted it today.
     
  6. Queen_Of_Hearts_13

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    I am so sorry to hear this! It breaks my heart. I hope that you are able to stay strong, stay positive and take care of yourself during all this.
     
  7. I'm sorry. His fantasy-grade level of unattainable perfectionism is neither your responsibility nor your burden. That is his shit to work out. It affects you deeply but ain't nothin wrong with you or @Kenzi or @AnonymousAnnaXOXO or @Broken3 or any other SO on this forum. It's ultimately his fault for letting the addiction run things and buying into the illusion of fantasy. Porn is a mirage that fills our mouths with sand and leaches the water from our bodies. A real woman is an oasis.
     
  8. TryingToHeal

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    Ugh I'm sorry, that hurts to even read. Stay strong, this is his issue, there is nothing wrong with you.
     
  9. Ugh guys can be so stupid sometimes! I hope he didn't actually say that in those exact words. :( And maybe you just took it that way? I hope..
     
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  10. Sorry :(:(:(
     
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  11. OMG, this hurts! I hope he feels different nowadays. Has he EVER seen the before-and-after pictures/videos of actresses/models/celebrities? Does he know how much *plastic* they have in and on them? Is he even aware of the power of Photoshop?
    Maybe you could have a secret photo shoot session with all the bells and whistles (hair, make-up, stylist, pro photographer) and then have some guru dude Photoshop you and just throw the pics in his face and ask him who he sees! Make sure there is no blemish/scar/stretch mark/pimple or wrinkle on you! Ask him if he likes the *plastic* you or real you. I would give up if my BF chose the *plastic* me over me, even if both are me.
     
  12. Hopefulgirl

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    I put on a tight outfit and high heeled boots and went shopping and got lots of male attention today. Not an ideal fix, but whatever :rolleyes:
     
  13. Hopefulgirl

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    Still laughing :D:D:D:D:D
     
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  14. High heeled boots?

    ::fills sink with ice and water. Dunks head for 2 minutes:::
     
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  15. SuperFan

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    I don't believe you. Is there photographic evidence?
     
  16. SuperFan

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    I spent 15 years in Hollywood working with some stunningly attractive actresses. Almost without fail, the transformation from the moment they stepped into the make-up/hair trailer to exiting it was breathtaking. Almost none of those women look like that normally.

    Except Madchen Amick, who still might be the most beautiful woman I've ever seen in person. And she's not even really on the spectrum of my arousal template/body type.
     
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  17. Hopefulgirl

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    Oh I LOVE her! She is gorgeous!!!!
     
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  18. Hopefulgirl

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    Yeah! Love them!
     
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    No, she doesn't know about my MO issues. She has been this way since I met her which has at times made my MO issues harder to deal with since we have never been together intimately, but I am working through it day by day.

    You are right about her self esteem and it comes from things that happened long before I met her and criticism that occurs regularly. I hate seeing how it affects her and there is nothing I can do.
     
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  20. Hopefulgirl

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    There is and I could send lol
     

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