SEEKING FEEDBACK: Women's-only section?

Discussion in 'Women in Reboot' started by Alexander, Dec 31, 2016.

  1. E.liberated

    E.liberated Fapstronaut

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    Can’t erase the girls. Or wrap them up. Need to clear and improve your mind and allow the nature of girls
     
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  2. elevate

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    Maybe provide a function that can warn others that a certain thread or post contains triggers. Kind of like a spoiler alert function in forums that talk about tv / film.

    That one click to reveal the spoiler is pretty much as easy as going to a porn site or deciding to masturbate.

    Other than that, you can only do so much for people on here.

    I mean even if somebody had an app or whatever to block all the porn sites on their laptop, if they really wanted to, they would go on their phone or turn off the blocking app or go buy a magazine. Even if you clean up all the unsafe avatars around here, there's still the internet and life outside of the internet. Even if you create a women's only section, if somebody really wanted to, they would create a fake female account here or go to a different forum.

    So I don't know if catering to people who are easily triggered is the right way to go about it. Because triggers doesn't just exist in the bubble of this forum. People generally need to take responsibility for how they react to certain things.

    As for women that want to feel more safe in terms of fully sharing what they need to share... if somebody isn't respecting that, they need to be reported. If they can't handle what they have to share, then they need to stay away from that section of the forum.

    You can avoid all the triggers you want, but sooner or later you'll have to face them.
     
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  3. MeoG

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    I'm new here, but here is my opinion for what it's worth. I don't think segregation of men and women is a good idea. The reason is that porn dehumanizes people into mere sexual objects, but learning that women do experience similar issues as men, makes it more relatable for heterosexual people of both genders, leading to mutual kindness and compassion, which, I think will help to eliminate use of porn. Like in meditation, the point is not to shut down thoughts and sensations, but to observe them. Similarly, here if a man happens to read a female's reboot journal and gets triggered, he just needs to be mature about it and don't go to that section anymore with the same commitment that he committed of not going to porn sites. Prohibition and segregation don't solve addiction or any other issues. I want to stop watching porn and masturbating to it, but I don't want to become an asexual person who is afraid of looking at women and talking to them. Plus, if you go that route, it will end up in the same weird place as discussion about public toilets. What if gay guys are going to trigger each other in male only section? Or lesbian girls in female only? And what about gender fluid people who one day feel one way and next day another? Just something to think about.
     
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  4. Eleanor

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    Totally agree. When I was new I tried to get female support which I didn't get and now I feel happy and supported amongst the male readers of my threads and journal. I feel completely a brotherhood with them, I don't want to be forced into a female only section where I don't feel comfortable. I think rebooting is also watching the other gender as human beings, not as sexual aliens. There can be some problems though. That one time I posted in the women's section I was ignored by females and harassed by a male, which I ignore now on the inbox. So maybe yes, it's necessary but I don't want to be there.
     
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  5. Eleanor

    Eleanor Fapstronaut Moderator Assistant

    Agree with you :)
     
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  6. mankiam33

    mankiam33 Fapstronaut

    well i'm man but do have a suggestion, it might be better to let Thread owners to decide which gender is allowed(male, female with or without not specified or all of them) to respond.

    maybe a girl just wants response from guys or a guy asks something just from girls.
    read-only is better than hiding, because in case of hiding a second account with different gender can be created and actually curiosity will encourage users to create tons of fake accounts.
     
  7. Blade-rnr

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    Women need a safe place to share with other women. But, I don't think it should be hidden from the men. I think men should be able to view the forums but not post or comment. I, myself, don't see the need for a men's only group but if others do I would be in support of it.
     
  8. josebell

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    Yes i do agree with you . points which you mentioned above .
    atleast allow mens not to comment but read only ,by doing this few mens may learn something from women issue, emotions, or may get some solution related to there family life.
     
  9. Castielle

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    After a recent incident, I do wish people had more control over their own journals. Other posts I think are different, but it would be nice if you had the authority to ban someone from reading and replying to your journal, since they are so personal.
     
  10. Skippy1209

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    I was interested to read the women's section out of pure scientific curiosity but perhaps not having read this. Are there graphic accounts of stuff?! I kind of assumed that you wouldn't really be able to tell male and female posts apart!
     
  11. Castielle

    Castielle Fapstronaut

    You can definitely tell some posts apart. Think of all the penis-related questions men ask here, and think of how that might effect women. Why wouldn't women also have some graphic questions of their own?
     
  12. Skippy1209

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    Yeah makes sense when you say it like that. Initially I was just thinking people would be saying "man porn is everywhere and so hard to avoid" or "I miss fapping" etc.
    Still I hope a lot of ladies stay in the main area, I'm interested to hear about the differences in experience like perhaps ladies would be more focused on m&o abstinence and less prone to porn use because their modes of stimulation may be different to men's.
    Specifically that, where men are turned on by porn, women may be turned on by literature and cinema (50 shades for example) and so have to change their lifestyle more to compensate...
    Anyhow, I'm getting off topic but you make a good point.
     
  13. Agatha

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    As a woman I just would like to have more women here around. I feel alone often and uneasy about joining conversations with the guys. I don't want to trigger anyone with my questions, feelings, experiences, struggles. A group for women would be nice, but it seems that there is not much interest by women here?
     
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  14. GhostWriter

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    @Agatha, there IS a group for women here. Check with @Kenzi and/or @AnonymousAnnaXOXO.
     
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  15. Skippy1209

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    And hey, if it's any comfort, I (as a man) also worry that what I write could put readers in an awkward position.
    It's a pretty accepting and understanding community so as long as you're comfortable I'm sure it'll all be fine. :emoji_thumbsup:
     
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  16. Finally2018

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    Definitely separate. Hey camoon. Its like alcoholic discussing with bottle. No offence...
    I cant stand this. I shouldnt even be reading this but here I still am.
     
  17. PurityPursuit

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    Please DO have a women’s section where men aren’t allowed!!! Us gals may have our dirty secrets but we don’t heal “out in the open” quite like men so there’s that. We need our privacy and supportive sisterhood!!!
     
  18. SirErnest

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    Not sure if this thread is now out of date. I would say yes, give women the option of only having other women contact them.
     
  19. Alpha_Frog

    Alpha_Frog New Fapstronaut

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    if you hide female section from men make men section hidden from females i dont think it should happen at all its quite stupid too do if if you do keep equality :)
     
  20. Alpha_Frog

    Alpha_Frog New Fapstronaut

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    this makes me want to quit this forum its not equal what so ever if your going to make that for woman make it for men honestly its better if more stories and discussion is available im sorry but i really hate sheltering of women in this way they are just the same as men
     
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