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Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Trucker, May 31, 2018.
Sorry to burst your bubble but you have cheated on your girlfriend, you have kissed her mother, fantasies and flirted with her, just because you've not had sex with her doesn't make a difference. It would be interesting to see what your girlfriend opinion is if she read what I have. You need to stop this behaviour now and give clear sign that the mother is not of interest to you or alternatively leave the relationship. The latter I would say would be fairest for all of you, your in bad behaviour and need to stop now.
It is natural. At least for some of us. I had 2 occasions that were pretty weird for an average standard.
Once I was with that girlfriend and I was fantasizing about her sister more and more. Nothing happned, but I am pretty sure that her sister was also in the game.
And once I met a young mother and we talked and later she convinced her younger daughter to go on a date with me. Her daughter was fragile, innocent looking, a bit boring, low energy... I was really wild at that time. (still am but not as much) I was puzzled, but we started to date (She was 19, I was 33) And actually, it worked. She became wilder, less boring more passionate... But it was a strange experience. Mother just wanted her daughter to be more sexy, passionate... and used me as her older menthor for sex, wisdom, friends... It is a strange world!
I'd say fair swap tbh
How did the story end?
I've actually been moderating my behaviour a lot and have eased up on any flirting which I thought was harmless to begin with but was obviously encouraging both of us. I know it's lust but she gives me a certain look that I know is genuinely affectionate too.
The frustration hasn't got any easier though despite avoiding potential hotspots. I even had a totally unexpected wet dream over her last week! Thankfully managed to hide the evidence, I'd be mortified under any circumstances never mind while in bed with her daughter.
I think we're both accepting our flirting days have to end now.
Neither of us want to cause the hurt.
It's the right thing to do.
Are you a trucker? As good as that fantasy is, it will hurt your girlfriend bc more than likely she isn't into that stuff. Keep on truckin'
Dont think with your d*** because you need to remember its the devils work. Just like porn is, best way is to think of the end result rather than whats happening now.
No im not, just called it by certain people
But she must be much older? What did she reply after that text?
I'm going to say one last thing on this then have to disconnect. Your girlfriend is after a relationship with you only! If you cannot give her that without her mother sister or anyone else taking up your time/ fantasies/ txt's please leave. We are compulsive people by definition of the word addict and this doesn't stop with thoughts, eventually we act on them. Please if you cannot behave spare her the extra hurt our behaviour causes.
Bro that's fucked. Her mum is trying to cuck her.
Hi! Im new here and am so relieved to be able to see that I am not alone struggling with what I assume stems from exposure to the not so glorious world of porn. I too have had a similar experience recently with my partners mother. What I find difficult to deal with is although i accept full responsibility for initiating it - she responded aroused and interested.
Surely she is aware of the moral and social implications of what we are both flirting about? I find it difficult to find the 'line' as the more porn i watch (turns out it is a popular fantasy) the more blurred i find my expectations of what it is to be 'normal'.
After a visit last summer in which she wore what i found to be very seductive, sparse clothing causally around her home - i responded in a hyper horny state one evening by telling her how amazing she looked. A few messages later I had a raging hard on and sent her some total porn style lingerie and platform heels links , telling her how i would love to see her wear something like this. I was consumed by guilt and cold sweats as she responded - and also felt totally confused as i felt the unobtainable thing i was chasing was suddenly an option.
Would i actually do anything? I dont think so. I opened pandoras box and now she sends me filthy gifs and her own fantasies.
The porn addiction for me is a strange cycle that drives me to chase things for the thrill. Suddenly having an opportunity is like having a huge wave of self hatred, guilt and regret which can be as overwhelming as the sexual urge itself.
Get out of there man. Im going to try and play it all down as compliments that got out of hand.
But yeah dude? What are you asking here? Either you tell her this has gone far enough and you need to cut it or you bang her. Pick one.
As bad as it sounds I know if I got the chance I'm pretty sure I would. I'm not proud of that but can't help it. Maybe if we got it out the way I could move on? I expect I'll get a lot of bad feedback for saying that but I can't help the truth.
Avoiding her only seems to make it worse. I reckon the fairest way to continue is to end my relationship with my gf which I really don't want to but at least then if we do give in to temptation I won't be so terrible.
I honestly wish I'd known her mum first.
I'm going to play devil's advocate. A very good looking friend of mine was dating a gorgeous girl. 10/10. And he slept with her mom who he said was fairly unattractive. I said why. He said 'cause I knew it would make for a great story later'
In my opinion if you want to fuck a broads Mom.. you probably shouldn't stay with her like there's probably no future. So. If there's no future and you're breaking up anywyas.. you might as well bang her mom.
Most guys will say "that's kinda evil and piggy but.. yeah you probably should"
dude , dont break someones heart if you cant fix it later . And trust me , YOU CANT FIX A BROKEN HEART!
Maybe you can bring it a step further. Have the courage and openly share courageously with your gf what you feel. This way you already do one truthful thing putting you into a better position. Maybe an opening or a dynamic is there that leads to discussion with your gf. And maybe it involves your mom and maybe you find a way to clear the situation in one way or another. I won’t go deeper of what i think as i still habe the last round of dispkesantness in my bones but will try carefully here.
I can honestly see the temptation. I think some older women are very attractive, but there's no way in hell I'd do it when I'm seeing her daughter. That's just me though. No judgments from me dude. Who are any of us to judge?