Scared for dates.

Dude, it's your life story, yeah it is a bit embarrassing but if you tell someone something so important and hard to deal with and that person ashames you for it then that person it's probably not the right one for you... besides it is not necesary to share that in the first date if you don't want to.

Just go out and have fun, overthinking stuff won't help.

 

Well, firstly, i wouldn't even worry about it just yet. The odds of a date leading to marriage are far from certain and you can cross that bridge when you come to it. Never starting a relationship because you don't want to end it is kind of backwards logic. Dates are fun, go for it, have a good time and see where it leads. Good luck, hope this helps.

 

Haha, yeah I thought so but is better to be sure and i'm glad you feel a little bit better at least, dates are quite fun if you don't take them too seriously!

I wish you luck man, and plenty of dates in the future!

 

Hey solomon!

You went from not even askin her out yet, to sharing your deepest struggles with her, to making her your wife. Chill out, mate. It doesn’t work like this.

It’s totally normal to fantasize about her in this romantic way. We are conditioned to do this through films, tv shows, songs, novels, etc. I used to do it myself, but each time I get a bit wiser as life teaches me to not go there, and just take it as we progress. Otherwise all we do is set ourselves up for disappointment. The whole plan might collapse at the first step when she might flat out tell you that she wants to be just friends. So just chill out, and worry about the first step, which is asking her out.

Once you have a functioning relationship where you share personal things like traumas, hopes, fears, dreams, only then I’d worry about the PMO.

Best of luck mate! I’m rooting for you and the lady!