How long does one wait for their husband to give them the love language they need before moving on?? I gave up for a time and realized it just wasn't something he would do and I would have to go without it for the rest of my life. But why should I settle? Why stay unhappy until I die? It is such an easy thing to fix, but he does not. We have talked about it feverishly throughout the 20+ years since we have been together and I have been VERY BLUNT and honest without mincing words. This love language is THE MOST IMPORTANT to ME and to have him not following through again and again and again and again and again....I guess I should not be surprised. What is the point of begging or constantly asking for the love you need?? It's pathetic and I REFUSE to do it! Perhaps he really thinks that I am an ugly, fat, worthless, disgusting piece of shit and he just doesn't want to fake a compliment? Maybe I am a terrible mother and he hates me for not being able to do it all myself without frustration and without his "help"?? I have had other people give me words of affirmation--men and women....so what gives? He used to give me words of affirmation, but that was 24 years ago when we first dated. Then good ol' porn took over and I haven't seen but maybe 1 or 2 words of generic "compliments" every 30-60 days. ("Oh, you cut your hair.", "You look nice", "You are so kind") That weak stuff is something you say to your mother!! It should be easy to do this daily. It's not gifts and it doesn't cost a cent!! Apparently, I am good enough to give him sex/O when he needs it and wants it and of course to make his nofap challenge MUCH EASIER for HIM, but god forbid he show ME affection with words!! I am sooooooo pissed right now and so done with holding my breath. I give him the love language he wants most and then not get mine in return! Is that love? Is that what a wife should expect from her husband? Right now, I am holding back and not giving him any of it this time--No physical touch or quality time for him. Maybe a little sting back will open his eyes?!? Revengeful? Maybe. Am I bitter? Hell yes!! Am I hurt? Beyond crushed.