Rewiring with someone to cure E.D.?

That's the tricky part I guess. Although part of rewiring is said to just be around girls and flirt with them, cuddling etc.
But yeah when it comes to sex or in our cases trying to have sex things get difficult.
Although I have no experience with that I'd say if you meet a girl you really like and who really likes you chances aren't so bad she will help you if you tell her about it.

 

Oh ok, guys then.

Tbh I don't know. I haven't abstained long enough to feel confident in starting to rewire yet but I'd say yeah, talking to guys you like is a good place to start.

I know that kind of boner all too well. I usually get them when starting making out and then they quickly subcede, never to return again that evening. It's like 1 hot thing happening is just not enought to keep us addicts going which makes sense since we are overloading our systems with hundred of different porn stars & genres.

But yeah I'd say keep doing that! Talking to people, flirting, making out. When it comes to trying to have sex... I don't know man... tell him, tell him not... You could search the success stories. I'm sure you'll find at least a handful of guys that went through the same thing. I'm sure they can give better advice than I do.

Keep your streak going and best of luck

 

I too am not the club/bar kinda guy I much prefer homeparties and the like.
Or maybe take a girlfriend with you for support - for some reason most girl like gay clubs.
The (BD)SM-communities organise regular meet-ups in major cities for people who are new to it or don't find suitable partners the usual way - I'm sure your local LGBTqia...+groups have something similar in a restaurant or bar - Still a bar of course but at least you're in a group!

Physically as in penis? Yes!
Physically as in brain? Not yet it seems but you're getting there!

 

Jap... know dat feel all too well.
It's horrible when you are in a situation when you know you should be hot as hell for her/him but you're not... or maybe you are a little bit but your penis is just dead... flatlining sucks. In my case when flatlining my PIED is even more severe than usually.
We gotta/gonna get through it though

 

Just stop it all for a few months
Stop all dating, flirting, masturbating. Take all that energy and time and focus on getting a life, carrer, working out, and getting healthy. The ED will go away in several months and then you will actully have lots of self esteam and have a life and be somebody with more to offer than just sex and become trully attractive inside and out.

 

It works, and you don't need a functioning penis to make someone have good time. You can use your fingers, tongue and imagination.
I couldn't fully quit porn yet. I've been trying for one year and 3 or 4 months. I could achieve 2 big streaks, 30 days and 67 days and some minor streaks like 15 and 10 days. Then I mostly did damage control (tried to not PMO more than 2 or 3 times a week).

7 months ago I found a girlfriend, we started with handjobs, at first it was difficult to achieve orgarsms, but eventually I could consistently finish. Then we started penetration. Even if I wasn't fully hard (we don't use condoms). We did it like game, not chasing the orgasm. Now I can finish almost always (I sometimes have trouble when I PMO more than 2 or 3 times a week, or if I do it the day before I meet her).

I'm a little stuck now, because I think I don't feel the full pleasure, but I can function most of the time. So part of the motivation to fully quit is gone (I have less fear of having a limp dick, that fear was fuel to me before). I'm working on that.

Start rewiring. Don't look for the love of your life to start the process. Just start somehow. You will get better.

 

I couldn't get it up being with a girl. I was 30 days in nofap hardmode when I started dating a girl. I got boners when kissing. After 44 days I tried to have sex, no boner. Told her what was going on, she was cool with it. We tried multiple times after that, also doing more cuddling, kissing, and general grinding our bodies. Getting more comfortable with eachother helps a lot against the nerves. Like someone before me said, you can enjoy eachother in different ways. Within 2 weeks we could have decent sex. Boners would still disappear randomly during sex. But it did improve every time we had sex. No trouble finishing though, I guess I was not very desensitized to touch. If you are desensitized and cannot finnish, I would suggest just doing reboot monk mode, no sex.
I would say the quickest way to get rid of ED is by rewiring with another person. You still have to quit PMO ofcourse, which might be harder because you will be dealing with heavy chaser effects!!! Also I think you should have atleast a decent amount of porn free days before you begin, to weaken those porn related thoughts and to fuel the desire to have actual sex (instead of desire to masturbate and watch porn).
Honestly if you have the option to do it together with someone I would choose that. It does require some balls to trust someone with your secret.

 

Two things:
1- Virginity is a social construct and not a very useful one. Sexual experience is more like a continuum.
2- I don't know why your first thought was a prostitute, I wasn't suggesting that. I meant that you should not wait for someone that you LOVE, you can start the process with someone you like a little. In fact it is easier if that person doesn't mean A LOT to you, you have less expectations.

Sex is a skill as any other. Practice makes you better. When you have some experience, meaningful relationships start coming easier