Retention Rage

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by Serpenthold, Nov 12, 2018.

  1. Serpenthold

    Serpenthold New Fapstronaut

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    Hello NoFap,

    Day after day we aim to improve ourselves, through struggle and sacrifice.

    Though some days are more internally violent than others, pacing the floors, quickly blocking websites, talking to yourself in the mirror, and even submerging ourselves in ice water just to put the Dragon back to sleep.

    For those that have entered the smoldering den of the Dragon, there is an emotion that we can relate to, and this emotion is pure unadulterated RAGE! the type of RAGE that makes you want to run 10 blocks, rip a tree from its roots with your bare hands or perhaps make a few new windows in your house with your fists.

    My question to you dear NoFap community is how do you deal with your RAGE due to increase in testosterone from retention.

    Thanks!
     
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  2. mastradamus

    mastradamus New Fapstronaut

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    Very relatable, fasting does it for me, I fast until the urges are gone, after that, if I am careful to keep my fat and cholesterol intake levels moderate, finding a more manageable energy level is possible. If you are currently bulking on eggs, steak and coconuts, chop your house down and rebuild it until you fall asleep.
     
  3. countitjoy5

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    Wrath is a decision you make, a way you choose to respond to things in your life - don't blame it on testosterone. Anger and wrath come from disappointed expectations. Why do you have those expectations to begin with? Are you justly entitled to those expectations? Probably not. You need to loosen that up.

    A sense of entitlement is a common culprit, a feeling that you deserve a certain outcome or state. But that is not true. You don't deserve something. If you earn it, maybe - if it is given to you it is by grace and you can't demand it.

    Another person's love and favor is purely grace on their part. If it is not shown towards you, you have no basis for getting angry. You shouldn't have expected it to begin with. If someone shows you favor then you should be thankful.

    Maybe you feel angry because you see others enjoying sexual intimacy and you are suffering with the painful burden of abstention - that is merely an example, but you get the picture. It has to do with thwarted expectations. Change your expectations - don't compare yourself with others - don't envy what they have - lose the entitlement mentality.
     
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  4. MikeM444

    MikeM444 Fapstronaut

    Music. Not just any music, but music that touches your soul. I'm someone who has a musical background, so I don't know if I perceive music slightly different than most, but it's my religion. It has always been there for me. Distract yourself from those inner emotions, and do your best to calm it down. It might be hard, but not impossible.
     
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  5. Hitto

    Hitto Fapstronaut

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  6. Fabian7

    Fabian7 Fapstronaut

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    Sounds like your not replacing porn with anything so your left with nothing to do and then you replace. Abstinence is not recovery.
     
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  7. Mordobarn

    Mordobarn Fapstronaut

    I can identify with this. When I feel frustrated or upset (not necessarily to do with sex), I find that a hard workout eases my mind for many hours.
     
  8. Papsy

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    I hope to become an expert in retention just like a Taoist master.
     
  9. Serpenthold

    Serpenthold New Fapstronaut

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    absolutely right! sometimes it helps to get a fresh pov on things because, for myself, I sometimes miss the forest for the trees.
     
  10. Papsy

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    I remember when, some years before I knew NoFap existed I set myself a goal. The goal was to keep watching porn without masturbation. I reached beyond 28 days (4 weeks) and this is the longest number of days I ve watched porn without masturbating. My idea was that if I continued watching porn without masturbation then I would eventually get desensitised to it and hence lose the desire to watch porn.

    But instead I found that I was thinking about it all the time. Even at work I was waiting to go home and watch porn. Because I did not masturbate/ejaculate, I found that I was becoming very irritable and hot tempered. I think this was the feeling of frustration.

    Obviously, needless to even say that since I committed to NoFap I no longer follow this and never intend to.

    During long streaks of NoFap I find that I can get retention rage. I guess it comes to me from frustration - that there is no girl with me to release all of that energy on.

    Even though I do meditation as a religious activity I am not blind to the immediate benefits from a secular point of view and one of them is that it helps to reduce retention rage.
     
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  11. Fabian7

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    Do you meditate? If you feel intense pressure down there it’s sexual energy building up that’s why people relapse around week 2. They aren’t transmuting their energy.
    I recommend the app headspace. :)
     
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  12. Clean Willy

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    This is a form of edging and is very harmful to your brain and will hijack your recovery. It should be a no brainer really. :rolleyes:
     

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