So I commented on my fiance's thread in success stories replying to @Jimmy.mike and gave him a list of resources to start the healing process. And @Broken3 suggested I make a separate thread with all the resources. Resources that help PA understand SO, and SO understand what they are going through http://theinstituteforsexualhealth....rtners-and-spouses-impacted-by-sex-addiction/ http://rebootblueprint.com/porn-induced-partner-trauma/ https://medium.com/@sheaemmafett/10-things-i-wish-i-d-known-about-gaslighting-22234cb5e407 https://markchamberlainphd.blogspot.com http://rebootblueprint.com/overcome-porn-addiction-advice/ (FOR ADDICTS) http://www.covenanteyes.com/2014/01/31/common-questions-wives-porn-addicts/ (FOR PARTNERS) https://www.amazon.com/Man-Interrup...id=1487272605&sr=8-1&keywords=man+interrupted (Good read for PA's to understand themselves, and what addictions can do) https://www.ted.com/talks/zimchallenge (This is the TED talk to go with the above book, great TED talk!) https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/1491513810 (AMAZING LIFE SAVING BOOK FOR COUPLES! This book really help both sides understand each other and what the other person's behavior means) https://soundcloud.com/loverice/the-science-of-human-connection-with-dr-sue-johnson (This is the podcast to listen to before reading the book above. If you only click on one link, this would be the link to click on) http://www.growthclimate.com/files/addiction_and_intimacy.pdf (This packet is by David Skinner [who is in the podcast above] and the packet is a great resource for couples. Another life saver) http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/understanding_why_pornography_addiction_is_a_brain_disease http://partnersofpas.boards.net/thread/10/love?page=1&scrollTo=16 (Questions in the book Love you, Hate the porn that are great for a couple to go through and answer) how to help your spouse heal from your affair (This is another great packet, life saver, for the relationship. Click on the link with Linda Macdonald on it) http://nationalpsychologist.com/201...tims-untreated/102810.html#.VTZpRw5KEaw.gmail http://www.sainministry.org/an-apology-to-women/ (ADDICTS WATCH THIS ON WHAT A REAL APOLOGY SHOULD LOOK LIKE) (4 part video series on the myths about partners of PA's. Both sides should watch this!) https://www.amazon.com/Love-You-Hate-Porn-Relationship/dp/1606419366 (Book for PA and SO to read together) https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Addiction-Perspective-Comprehensive-Understanding/dp/1138776521 (Another great book for partners) THESE ARTICLES ARE IMPORTANT FOR ADDICTS TO READ WHEN WIFE SAYS THEY ARE CHEATING (Everyone has a different definition of cheating. Most think of cheating as black and white, specifically cheating is physical in the minds of many. I, as well as others, adopt this definition of cheating. "If I have to hide my activity/information/location/etc. then I am cheating my spouse/partner in one way or another [whether it be financially, emotionally, physically, mentally, etc.]. If my spouse was with me, would I do it? If not, then it is hurting my relationship) https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/9-reasons-porn-hurts http://www.covenanteyes.com/2015/01/19/using-porn-is-cheating/ http://fightthenewdrug.org/is-watching-porn-cheating-on-your-partner/ http://themattwalshblog.com/2013/11/25/married-men-your-porn-habit-is-an-adultery-habit/ http://www.abattleplan.com/2011/01/emotional-affair-cheating-pornography/ For Partners specifically (though reading these, addicts, would maybe show you the pain and process we go through). These are some posts from women on reboot who have been invaluable to my recovery. They have helped inspire me, helped me understand what I was going through when I didn't have words to understand this. So hopefully these posts can either inspire, or can be relatable and helpful in recovery. http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=10611.msg112543#msg112543 (Post: What I wish I knew day one after D-Day by Stillme [who has so many insightful posts]) http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=10582.msg114294#msg114294 (second post in this thread by stillme is great for addicts to read as well as partners) http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=11179.msg115269#msg115269 ( Post by Stillme called, What Partners Know) http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=11504.msg118439#msg118439 (Post called Learning What I Need by Aquarius [a partner]) http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=11519.msg118782#msg118782 (Post by Stillme called, The Ups and Downs Of Recovery - What I am Learning) http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=12438.msg126612#msg126612 (Post by Stillme called Things I miss) The posts above are really amazing insights, and honestly, any post by Stillme, Emerald Blue, or Aquarius has personally helped me with figuring out my own emotions, boundaries, and self-love, so I hope those posts/threads are as helpful to you. Other articles that are fun or more light-hearted but still helpful http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/09/29/marriage-advice_n_4005319.html http://www.marriagebuilders.com//graphic/mbi4500_resource.html https://mishkawifeofsexaddict.blogspot.com So that is all I have for you guys. I hope the above links can help both the PA and SO in varying ways/levels as they go through recovery both as individuals and as a couple. Good luck to everyone!