Again, Mordobarn, you are right in your observations. The fact that these things escalate is a valid point, one that I've noticed myself. In the beginning, it was "just" pictures. Now it's more and more videos. Not that it makes a difference, but I'm sure there will be more, worse. You said that he would try to turn this around on me, which is interesting. This morning I woke up, wished him a good morning and offered him a cup of coffee. We haven't argued, in fact, I never argue with him over anything anymore because the punishment is too severe (no communication for days). But I did cry in the night two nights ago, and he doesn't speak to me because of it. So today, after the good morning and him declining the coffee, he told me "my period mood" caused him not to wanna come home and that he will sleep on his work (he has that possibility). Before when he did this, I spent my day going over what I could have done wrong to drive him away like that, but now for the first time I see things from an outside perspective, thanks to you and other people on this forum. I'm his puppet, and if I don't dance and smile, I will be thrown in the dungeon of isolation. He will spend the night with his mental mistresseses and I'm alone again.