Religion or no religion I think this holds

I actually replied this to another post, but I think it's a pretty sound argument for not viewing pornography and I hope it helps someone else. Thanks


As far as porn goes I look at it like this. One of the last videos I watched, it was one of the casting couch ones where it's like an "interview process" for something bigger and then the guy recording it has his way with the women. And the girl in the video said she needed some money and that's why she was there. The entire time she was very uneasy and you could tell she didn't really want to do anything but the guy in it was convincing enough for her. After he makes her do whatever he wants, she leaves and then comes back in and says her car died. So, the guy gives her a ride only if she blows him on camera. At the very end, she asks if he can make sure the video never gets on the internet because she didn't want to join his program (he was supposed to post the video on certain sites for big name hotshots, so they could get ahold of her and pay to have sex with her). The last 2 minutes were spent where the guy assured her that nothing was going to end up on the internet.

I had a sort of epiphany or realization after watching this. 1. That poor 18 year old girl, who was very beautiful, thought that this one mistake of hers was going to stay private, and not be out for everyone to see. I think that it is completely stupid to do something like that and not expect the video to go online, but that is for another discussion. And further more, I think it is very naïve to think that this sort of thing only happens to her. So that made me think about some of the porn I watched, and realized that there were probably many other women who realized they made a mistake doing a porno, and then begged to make sure the vid never made it to the internet. 2. Probably the worst thing about it for me was that I had just jacked off to a girl who really didn't want to have sex, and that even though I could see that, I still went ahead and got off to it.

I guess it comes down to this. Whether we like it or not, porn is and industry comprised of mostly young and desperate women trying to make some money so for reasons I cannot imagine. And if I decide to watch porn, especially when I can tell that the girl does not want to do it, then I
I'm basically saying that it's okay to manipulate young women for sex on camera or possibly worse (and I say worse because there is some violent crazy porn out there). I decided I didn't want to be apart of that. And I think whether they know it or not, I think subconsciously, many of the guys on here kind of think the same way. We are all better than this and I'm ashamed that I watched and basically promoted that. So stay strong man, I know it's not easy, because even though I mean what I just said, I still struggle. But when I think about this, it helps to fight the urges most times.


Just as a side note: I realize there are some women that actually want to be in pornography, but it's pretty much impossible to separate those women from the women who are pressured or tricked into porn.

Good luck and stay strong!

 

Good point, though it has really nothing to do with religion. There's one thing I'd like to ask though. Are ANY of these porn movies real? I didn't believe anything I saw in a movie like that. I just automatically assume that everything is fake and just acting.
Though even if this is true, it doesn't change anything that much. It's just about whether the girls get payed or not. It's like if you pay a whore or not. I don't know why people choose to become pornstarts in the first place. Maybe they're desperate, and they need the money, or they have low morals... I can't decide, really. I don't want to moralise either. But what I'm pretty sure of, these girls and guys who act in porn movies seriously hurt themselves and they may not even realise this, just as we had difficulities to realise that PMO-ing can be harmful in any way.

But you made your point and it's completely valid. Keep it up!
Stay strong and stay clean!

 

Good observation. The life stories of almost all pornstars and producers are sad ones. We shouldn't contribute to their pain.

 

To EarthDragon, no I'm pretty sure the guy wasn't part of a program. I know that this particular style of porn is tricking women into thinking they can make thousands of dollars by joining this so called program he made up, so then he can have sex with them on camera and put it on porn sites. And yeah, I agree about the harm it does to them, I've watched a couple discussions about how STDs and other things are all over the porn industry.

And m88t, I'm glad to hear that! I think it's just crazy how that one video stuck with me and for you. Just like you said before, I've watched probably thousands of other videos and this particular one just sticks. I just think that this kind of testifies as to why porn is bad, because if there was nothing wrong with porn... then why would we even feel that way after watching something like that? I'm just glad this struck you that way man. God bless.

Good to see your guys response, and stay strong! We can do this!

 

hey m88h, I'm not totally sure if I've had the same type of flat lining like you said. But I haven't had a gf in like 2 years (mostly to porn) and I think that porn or not I'm just kind of easily aroused. So I just make sure to avoid any and all pics or links that can lead me back to PMO. However, I've noticed that flat lining can kind hit different guys on Nofap at different stages. I've seen anywhere from the 2 week stage to 2 month. I'd just ride it out till your libido and drive comes back.

just as a side note, congrats on 30+, I know that's one hell of a milestone, keep it up man!