Relapsed again

Discussion in 'Women in Reboot' started by Lively gr of yesterday, Dec 18, 2018.

  1. GhostWriter

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    I think studying is also part of the problem for her. I don't believe she is interested in studying the material she is required to study. See the previous posts on this topic.
     
  2. IAmLegion

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    My premed exams are approaching as well so I can really relate to a lot of what you say, including the whole (added) pressure you face just from being in a situation where your parents have already achieved that level of success. As if premed wasn't enough pressure XD

    I actually want to be a doctor though, and that drive alone makes all the difference in the world. Respecting your parents is one thing, but allowing them to direct a life, the consequences of which they shall never fully bear, isn't a good position to find yourself in. It may be too late to change their minds now though, depending on how your culture and exam timings work so just try your best to keep going.

    The struggle begins and ends in the years leading up to becoming a doctor. From that point on, at least you won't have your financial security and material comfort to worry about. (At least not as much as most people do).

    Try to use the end result as the motivation. It's a very powerful driving force, at least for me when even studies start to bore me.

    As for the exams, I wouldn't worry about them too much. I started my journey here last year early in December. My end of school exams were in March. I kept on relapsing more or less weekly till February, at which point I actually got on track.

    28 days in February.
    4 days in March.

    In that space, i covered a year's worth of content in Bio, Chem, Phys, English and Computer Science (i literally slacked off all year long and did nothing) and got 86%, which placed me in the top 10% of the students of my country. (My teachers told me top 5% but I believed what I saw on paper instead).

    Case in point- If i can do it, so can you. And i did it without any form of extra support like tuitions/extra-classes, etc.

    Just a motivational experience I thought about sharing.

    Good luck and believe that with time, you'll subconsciously adjust to the demands of the situation.
     
  3. EmmyB

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    When I start dating again, there's no way I'm letting any guy touch my clit or even stimulate it during sex by choice of position or rhythm etc. I want karezza (orgasm-free sex) and believe that the clitoris and orgasm are a diversion that takes women into enslavement to our sexual desires. Freud said mature female sexuality gets pleasure from penetration, not clitoral stimulation.
     
  4. Lively gr of yesterday

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    Day 5
    Well by now the urges have reduced quite alot i feel quite good i often try to stop thinking about it whenever i feel the urge i try to distract myself giving myself by giving pain like bitting lips it often helps alot
     
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  5. GhostWriter

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    Again, that was just my thought on the matter. But, I wouldn't put a lot of stock into the sexual theories of a man who lived and died a hundred years ago. Too much research has gone into it since then. If I am interpreting you correctly, you see "orgasm" as the enemy. I'm sorry, but I don't believe that for a moment. I haven't dove into karezza enough, but I see too many obstacles to recovery using it to endorse it. It is a lot like edging, yet different. I know a lot of people speak of it here, but I see more brain chemical problems than I do solutions. If you believe that orgasm "...takes women into enslavement to our sexual desires...", I just don't even know how to respond to that. I hope you find a way out/around that because orgasm is the climatic event in human sexuality. Not that you have to have it, but I think that avoiding it presents an entirely new and different set of problems. You're training your brain to respond negatively to orgasms. It's your journey, but I shall hope you would reconsider your view and position on the matter.
     
  6. Lively gr of yesterday

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    Feeling the urges alot right now trying to stop but not helping much maybe i will restraing myself from using internet for a week it will help
     
  7. Prov2416

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    I hear you. Hang in there.

    I had a strong bout of urges today. My head was filled with all kinds of porno stuff I had seen throughout the years. It just hit me really hard for about an hour.

    It passed though. Hang in there and fight the good fight. 1 hour at a time....1 day at a time.
     
  8. Lively gr of yesterday

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    day 7
    well i just completed my first week today its alot better now hope to continue like this in the future to
     
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  9. Lively gr of yesterday

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    day 8 didnt feel much urges in the morning nut now im feeling them alot eventhough im trying really hard but its really getting hard urge in quite strong now i dont know what to do
     
  10. GhostWriter

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    • First, breathe! Take long deliberate deep breaths.
    • Second, Remember that we take this shit one day at a time.
    • Third, Meditate! Some mindless thought in silence or serene music tends to help calm your brain.
    • Forth, check in your toolbox for something to help you get past this. Generally speaking, within an hour, it will subside.
    • Fifth, keep reaching out here for help and support or wherever your best support mechanism is.
    • Sixth, do something. Whatever state you are in right now is allowing the time and freedom to think about this. You need to get up and go do something. Anything that will take your mind off of this.

    After you do these things, and this thing subsides, reflect back on what sent you to a point where you thought about these things. What triggered your urges. You'll want to make a mental note of it to include in your circle behaviors.
     
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    Day 12
    Well its getting much better now feel really good as im able to reach my second milestone
     
  13. Lively gr of yesterday

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    Day 13
    I was trying to download a new movie but suddenly an ad came showing p
    I m resisting myself alot mainly because im about reach my 2 weeks target tommorow which is a huge motivation to continue further from many days i wasnt experiencing urges much but today its really bad
     
  14. GhostWriter

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    Go find a mirror. Look in the mirror and say aloud to yourself. “Just for today, I am going to stay free and clean from PMO”

    Aside from that, get busy. Go do something. If you can find some to do something with, all the better. Most of us would never Fap in the company of others.
     
  15. Lively gr of yesterday

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    Day 14
    Feel really happy finally
     
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  16. bobross

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    Busy's always good :D OP's last log seems 10 days old, I hope things are okay :( We as a community are here for you :)
    Also sport, along a healthy sweat, does wonders with the urges :D
     
  17. pornlessgeneral

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    You can install anti-porn software to block it to prevent such "accidents" in the future.
     
  18. Lively gr of yesterday

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    day 18
    sry guyz couldnt post for a few days
    i was busy exams are again taking a toll on me
    well today im feeling urges quite alot ever since i came after bathe it was itching alot dont know if its normal other than it was really good im just able to complete my 3 weeks extremely happy which keeps me really motivated
     
  19. Prov2416

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    Fantastic.

    Fight the good fight.
     
  20. GhostWriter

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    This "...it was itching alot..." is your brain's attempt to solicit a response from you. It is that dopamine craving at work. DON'T SCRATCH IT. You're doing great. You're reaching out. I'm so proud of your progress. Keep up the great work. Remember, one day at a time.
     
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