Recovering from porn addicted relationship into new one?!

Hey, I’m not sure if I posted this in the right thread but I’m hoping someone can potentially help me on here. So here it goes..
I was married to a porn addict until about 2 years ago when we seperated and then finally divorced..my marriage with this was hell, struggling to help him overcome it, him not overcoming it and me constantly feeling horrible and not worthy, good enough for him, and to seperate his addiction from what I felt, I must not say he didn’t recover and I’m not sure how serious he even ever was, since it obiously didn’t work out and we’re divorced now. Anyways it took me a long time to emotionally recover since I also must admit I’m not the most emotionally stable person, and sex related subjects are very touchy feeling for me since ever, since I was also raped very early in my childhood.
Anyways, that’s the pre story and here comes my dilemma...
I’ve jut recently entered a new relationship after a longtime of just dating without any intimacy/needed to build trust. And this guy is amazing!! Like he feels like a gift from god! I won’t go into how amazing everything is but he also kinda knows about me ex husband having been a poem addict. So last night we were intimate for the first time. Now I am having problems with my emotions. He didn’t come, and of course I didn’t think much to it until now, but my past seems so be keeping up on me..I fear he might be a porn addict, and how do I know?! And if he’s not, how much porn does he watch? Do I accept it? Can I accept it? I don’t really mind porn but now I kinda do? It’s all very confusing and I feel hurt but don’t?! I really don’t know how I should bring it up, or how to figure out if I accept porn but if I do how do I know it’s not another addict, will I feel in the future I’m not good enough again? What if I don’t accept it to be sure, how would I know he’s not hiding it like my ex?! I’m very confused and hoping maybe someone went trough Smth similar and can help me please?

 

No he doesn’t take anything, maybe it’s just coincidence?! Or nervousness?! To me that I think was just a trigger to thinking About everything again and now I don’t know how to “cope” :/

 

Thank you all so much already for the replies! It helps having people being able to respond other than my own mind, I really appreciate it! As for the gift from god I should enlighten on that, to me this guy is perfect from where I stand. We were really close friends for a longer period of time before we started dating and just seems to have all the right morals and just a geniuenlly good guy in all the right ways! And yes i am considering marrying him if that should come up haha. As for talking to him it’s so hard for me to because Even tho i trust him, with everything that went on in my last marriage I don’t think even if he said the truth I could truely believe it regarding porn, and it’s not that I don’t trust him it’s just out of experience I don’t think I’ll allow myself to believe it? If that makes sense? I’m not sure how to explain It as it’s all so confusing to myself, I’ve never developed feelings for a guy after my marriage until now. And to the how he reacted it wasn’t super clear, he mentioned how awful he was to me (also regarding other things outside of the addiction) but nothing concreate on porn or regarding porn..
I do want to talk to him about it tho but not sure how or how I could decifer reactions?!

Anyone have an idea how to stear the conversation? I don’t wanna really seem too crazy or compare him to my ex, or make him feel that way?!